I guess from me being the parent that is so strict on my daughter and my husband being the lenient one, she is kinda afraid to ask me for things because she is afraid that I am going to fuss. Sometimes I might have been a little over the extreme to certain situations. I don't want us to have this type of relationship. How can I change this? My daughter is 6 years old. She is sort of afraid of me like if she brings home a bad note or if she needs something she will go ask someone to fix it or get it because of the reaction she might get from me. The only time I fuss is when she don't do what she is told.
2007-02-11 09:31:42 · 4 answers · asked by chyna 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Go to parenting classes with your husband and go to family therapy. You are so right to want to establish a healthy, not fear-driven relationship right now...congrats to you! You and your husband need to be on the same page with discipline, etc. Make him be the "bad guy" sometimes when that kinda decsion has to be made for the health or safety of your daughter.
2007-02-11 09:40:06 · answer #1 · answered by Robin B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter is uncomfortable coming to you when she is troubled about something, then there is a problem in the way you respond to her. Could it be that you are overreacting? If you don't create a climate that is comfortable for her to talk to you about any subject, then you are closing down the lines of communication and this becomes really problematic as children enter their teens. The next time she comes to you with a bad note; count to ten. Talk to her about why she came home with a bad note about her behaviour and brainstorm the ways that she can improve. Better yet, begin a behaviour book with her and make certain to put in a star when she has demonstrated good behaviour at school. When the behaviour is bad, tell her that as humans, we have to keep trying to improve. Encourage her rather than frightening her with your overreactions.
2007-02-11 17:39:45 · answer #2 · answered by Jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try stopping the fussing behavior. Then start showing her that you are there by not pushing her to talk to you. She will come to you sooner or later..in the mean time Talk with your husband about how it bothers you to be the one to deal out discipline...work out a plan together and stick to it.....try rules and consequence that you both can live with and both of you sit down with her and talk about it.
2007-02-11 17:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by sweetyenah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is for you to go and get some books from your library on child psychology, this may help you to understand your daughter's fear of you and help you to fix the situation.
2007-02-11 17:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋