i met my husband when i was 17 , i lost my vaginity to him and we have 3 children, ive recently be out a lot with my friends and have met a gorgeous man who has shown me a lot of attention , i do love m husband and dont no why im feeling like this but this new man gives me goose bumps when ever i speak or see him, what shall i do. i am 30
2007-02-11 09:23:10 · 12 answers · asked by friendcrazychick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm going to tell you this from my heart, if you thinking about leaving then pack your bags and leave, you say you love you man? Then show it, talk to him about how you are feeling. You have 3 (am going to say great kids together) First ask yourself dose this guy have the same feeling for me as I do for him and if so what about the kids is this guy going to welcome them in to this new relationship? Take care of them? But before you go there if I'm the father there no way in hell I'm letting you take the kids. Have you talk you your husband about the way you’re feeling? Your not communication with him about what your going here, that’s a big mistake right there. Don't mess a good thing up and bring down 3 kids at the same time just because a guy you meet at the bar is giving you some silly little goose bumps. Go home tonight and feed the kids put them to bed and talk to your husband. Let him know that you want the both of you to do more stuff together alone with the kids, and that’s fine couples need alone time too. Find a setter you two should be going out on dates three times a month.
Like I said if you think you need to leave to see what’s out there then go but you shouldn’t even thank about dragging those kids with, if you want go that’s ok but leave by yourself. Your kids aren’t asking for this you are. So when you say I do it for better or for worse until death do us part. And I thank guy at the bar can smell you, and what that means to me is “hey she ready for a quick f@ck and a booty call when needed”
2007-02-11 09:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by choiceav 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am going to say some things that you are probably not going to want to hear. First of all, you are asking people for their opinions about what you should do. You are contemplating on cheating on your husband of 13 years that you have 3 children with! Hopefully, he has been faithful to you this entire time but even if he hasn't, it does not give you the right to cheat on him. Cheating is cheating regardless of who does it. Why don't you ask your husband about what you should do. Tell him that you met a georgeous man who shows you a lot of attention. The new man is going to show you lots of attention because he just met you and doesn't know anything about you. His goal is to get to know you and sleep with you! What would you say or do if you found out that your husband met a georgeous female that shows him a lot of attention! That is what is wrong with relationships today. There is no communication and then you meet someone else outside of your marriage and have an affair. You will destroy your family and marriage by making the wrong choices. I have cheated and been cheated on also and it is not a great feeling when people find out the truth. If you love your husband and you want to keep your family together then you need to communicate better with your husband about what you need or what he is lacking in giving you or go and see a marriage counselor before you choose to sleep with this other man!
2007-02-11 10:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by Michael C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. LEAVE THE MAN ALONE, HE IS NOT YOUR HUSBAND.
2. LET THE MAN KNOW YOU ARE MARRIED.
3. DO NOT HAVE AN AFFAIR WITH THAT MAN.
4. STOP ALL CONTACT WITH THAT MAN.
5. REKINDLE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR HUSBAND, THE FATHER OF YOUR CHILDREN AND KEEP YOUR FAMILY TOGETHER.
Otherwise you need to talk to your husband and take a good look at yourself and ask yourself why you'd want to risk losing your family bond for some other man. If you are that unhappy in your own marriage that you would let some other man into the picture, then you need to choose between him and your husband and children. You cannot have your cake, eat it too and expect to still continue the party afterwards. It just does not work that way.
The final outcome will not be a good one if you continue to let this man take advantage of your unhappiness with your husband.
2007-02-11 09:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by TheOne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You made your choice to get married 10 years ago, and you made your choice to have children with this man....--- you had to be an idiot to think that never would there be temptation..... So now you have one..... welcome to the club. Hon, your married, but you're not dead.. But if you wish to screw this guy, divorce your husband, and get the hell out there.... he deserves a faithful spouse.... any man does, any loving husband does.....
If you aren't going to be a loving wife, and a good mom to your children, start screwing around now, and your entire world will come down. If you are so shallow, and feel you no longer love this lovely man, in your life, get the hell out, and let him find someone worth his respect and his admiration....
temptation is everywhere, you idiot. You, as can anyone, make a life of hopping from one bed to another... and there are plenty in the world who do that, and wonder why they are so miserable. Wake up, honey.... you about about to let go of probably a very lovely man..... And maybe you should.... you don't deserve him.
2007-02-11 09:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
improve up. bypass again to school, take english. Get on including your existence and don't be egocentric. Marriage isn't about you or him. it is a partnership. i ought to no longer even fathom doing what you're doing to my husband. we've been married for 9 years. he's the daddy of my children and my maximum ideal pal, as i'm to him. We do issues mutually and take time for an extra. i'm no longer declaring that that is all of your fault. yet, you adult men want some counseling. to boot, you've already been unfaithful with an affair. it is a huge no-no. Come sparkling and get issues fastened. in case you do divorce, which isn't widespread, please heavily opt for the guy you marry next, if in any respect. do not basically bounce into issues.
2016-12-04 01:29:50 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine you working by yourself to take care of your three kids. Imagine explaining to them that daddy can only see them on the weekends. Imagine you losing your husband and losing this guy too. That is what happen if you leave your husband now. If you know 100% that new guy will stay with you do it. If you know 100% this guy will accept your kids as his own, than go ahead, go do it. But if your husband just isn't "hitting it right" or if ya'll aren't as romantic as you use to be, don't uproot you, your husband's and your kids life and stability on something that may not last.
2007-02-11 09:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by CrazyCool 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is work on your marriage and forget about Mr Goose bumps. You have children and history with your husband and someone catches your eyes and all of a sudden you're confused, Snap out of it.
2007-02-11 09:27:16 · answer #7 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should thing about how this will effect your husband and your children,surely you don't want your kids thinking badly of you.does this other man know your married?what you need to do is get your priorities right,this can only end in pain if you pursue this man
2007-02-11 09:59:17 · answer #8 · answered by TOM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you are even asking this question. Just because you are married doesn't mean you won't be tempted by other men. Stay married! You're infatuated. Get over it and live your life sensibly!
2007-02-11 09:29:30 · answer #9 · answered by Renee Mota 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What yu should do is leave him alone you are a married woman doesn't that mean anything to you..You said for better or worse, Till death do you part..What didn't you understand about that?
2007-02-11 09:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋