I just turned 19 yrs old and am in college.I am very nice and sweet to everyone it is not in my nature to be mean really unless someone does something to get me really mad and i blow up but even that takes a lot.I am gernerally described as pretty or cute looking but i am really shy for the most part unless with my small groups of friends also I am pretty low key.So why am i attracting guys who are my exact opposite outgoing, overly confident, possesive, and guys who are jerks?Why wont nice guys ask me out?
2007-02-11 09:07:11 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am trying to become more assertive and a little more outgoing but that seems to be making matters worse?
2007-02-11 09:15:05 · update #1
Opposites attract.
2007-02-11 09:09:22 · answer #1 · answered by existingtobe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, most men mature far more slowly than women. You will probably see a lot of emotionally immature jerks in your peer group for some time. Try looking for someone a couple of years older, but even that may not help. Most women become reasonably emotionally mature in there mid to late 20s, men, not until their 30s. Sorry!
2007-02-11 09:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by astralpen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their arent many "nice guys" in college in college we spend our time around other guys an when in groups we want sex beer blah bla bla all that. Most nice guys in college are either not as attractive as you would want or if their nice they are usually shy an lacking in self confidence even if they are attractive and most nice college guys have baggage dealing with a breakup or something like that. Whenever we get older we get nicer not around the sex beer bla bla bla stuff anymore So thats about it if any of that made sense
2007-02-11 09:11:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay its obivious the think you look good, or good enough to go out with them. And uasually guys that act like that are pretty attractive themselves. They act like that cus they know they can get a girl and they KNOW they look good so they think they can get away with anything b/c of their looks. And nice guys are usually very quiet and nice. And the whol shy deal. Your gonna have to get over that. You should try talking to them. Since your so cute and pretty their will be no problem.
2007-02-11 09:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because shy people rarely ask each other out, they always need a catalyst to get them going. Sometimes it's like pulling teeth with a shy person before they can relax and talk plainly. You should try asking out a shy guy if you find one you like.
2007-02-11 09:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by Tuco 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most nice guys won't ask you out because they're too shy. They're so nice that they won't talk to you because they respect your space and they don't want to bother you and waste your time. They don't want you to feel threatened by them, so they keep their distance. The only real way to find a nice guy is to look for one and then ask him out. If he's single, he'll probably say yes. And if he doesn't want to go out with you, find another nice guy and ask him. I think there are plenty out there.
2007-02-11 09:15:11 · answer #6 · answered by waltzorro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats just the way it is.. Dont feel bad i attract females that are psychotic B*tches..But i must admit they were FUN... (kindda why i gave up LOL)
And by no means am I a nice guy anymore.. maybe once.. but jaded now i dont put up with anyones crap these days..
2007-02-11 09:12:04 · answer #7 · answered by darchangel_3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You, with your sweet nature, are ideal for someone who is possessive and wants to be the center of attention. And sweet guys at your age don't really get up enough nerve to ask girls out much yet. You have to ask them out.
2007-02-11 09:12:42 · answer #8 · answered by itry007 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girlfriend~!
I was exactly like you.. SHY! but after many jerks and as*holes, I quit sitting around to be asked by these morans!
I looked for nice guys and I asked them out!
I got a good catch and We been together for 4 years now!
so, get up and find the one you like and catch him!
2007-02-11 09:12:48 · answer #9 · answered by daisyleemie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They just like you and find you attractive. Don't worry if the nice guy's haven't come yet. They're just shy and pretty low key like you. I am just like you, all the big boobed girls came after me. Trust me the good ones eventually come.
2007-02-11 09:12:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋