posted a question because i was having a problem with a neglectful childminder. Had loads of possitive answers but 1 person said i shouldn't have children if i'd rather go to work, what do you think?
is it best to stay at home & not bring anything financial into the home or should we be showing our children, especially our daughters that women have to help make money for nice things like a roof over our heads & money for food? I personaly work 3 days a week for the emergency services and yes i do enjoy my job but i also enjoy hearing my daughter telling her friends how mummy talks to sick people on the phone and sends them "nee naw cars".
Yes we have had trouble with an irisponsible minder and yes i feel guilty for my bad judgment in choosing her but should i just give up work?
2007-02-11 08:54:53 · 14 answers · asked by K W 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
smokeypho - if my 5yr old & 3yr old were up at 2200 i'd then start thinking i was doing something wrong !!! get your point though :)
2007-02-11 09:03:45 · update #1
sod the person who made that comment - you know what - your doing the right thing - you work 3 days - you have your time to be YOU, and then you have your time to be with your babies. You are working to support them, and to set an example to them - NO PARENT IS PERFECT - anyone who judges anothers parenting skills needs to judge themselves 1st and i can assure you they are prob worse - as long as your children are happy healthy and have a roof over their heads.
my 1st baby i went back to work when she was 6 weeks old through pressure of people making out i was a young mother trying to sponge of the state - i had my mum and dad look after her, i went to college too, and finally ended up working for the emergency services. I worked hard, spent all my spare time with my child and gave her a good life, with my 2nd 10 years later i gave up my job to stay at home to look after her - its tough - i love it but i need to me again, she benefits from having me around her 24-7 but my hubby who is also in the E/S works all his rest days on overtime to support us all - often working 13 days on the trot before havign 1 day off - thats tough -
to be honest its what works for you thats matters....
Dont be eaten up by one mindless comment from someone you dont know - no one is perfect and no one can make a rightful judgement on a childminder no matter how good the refs - you learn from your mistakes
good luck
2007-02-11 13:18:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be a registered childminder..... but that's not your question.
Only you can answer the question - should i give up work? Above you say that women should show their daughters that women have to help make money for nice things like roof over heads and food - those are not nice things, they are essentials!
Now, do you work for essentials.... or luxuries?
It is totally your choice. Make sure your kids are looked after, and then do what you think is right. But i can tell you in total truth that NO-ONE however nice or efficient can look after your kids like you can. And your kids would rather be with you, i promise you.
2007-02-11 09:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by Caroline 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 23:34:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 3 days a week is an excellent compromise and i do not see any reason why you should give up work. Just be very careful with the next childminder you choose and try and book as mcy of you holidays as you can in school holiday times.
2007-02-11 10:05:26 · answer #4 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the time it took to write this mail you could have put your feet up and enjoyed another moment with your kids. What the hell is it to do with anyone what you do. You pay the bills you feed their moths and if someone says its wrong to provide the best for YOUR KIDS then they have issues. Keep up the good work you might not know it and they may not say it but your they best thing every to your kids and some stupid reply will NEVER change that.
2007-02-11 09:00:43 · answer #5 · answered by smokeyphoenix1 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
unfortunatly the cost of living in this country has ensured that stay at home parents struggle financialy to fend for their kids. so if mums can get a few hours a week in work ensuring their kids get a better life then so be it.
personally i admire you for working...... dont be put off by some narrow minded person who prob has nothing more interesting to do than put you down.....
as for the child minder.... trust your child... if she dont like it then there is reason to investigate.
whatever you decide.... keep up the good work
2007-02-11 09:07:02 · answer #6 · answered by ANNA G 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not put yourself on a guilt trip just because of one negative answer, you work if you want to nothing to do with anyone else. You are probably a lot happier mum because you are not tied to them 24/7 carry on doing what you are doing a lot of people will not get off their backsides to look for a job. Good luck to you.
2007-02-11 11:20:22 · answer #7 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi i answered Ur other question and i agree "how Dare they judge" all circumstances are different i was lucky enough to stay at home to look after my kids for 4 years(and it was a financial struggle)then went to work at the local hospital as a cleaner 5 evenings a week when my other half got in and at the local supermarket 3 evening a week at one stage i also took a Xmas job for 6weeks and they all fitted in with me, so if u have to work good for u it is not always like the rich and famous to have money and a Nannie to look after their kids at least you have Ur pride, u have done it Ur way and its the best way for u.
Good on yer hunni xxxx here's to equal opportunities for every one colour sex or creed!!
2007-02-11 09:03:35 · answer #8 · answered by littlemermaid_72 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry lots of women nowadays go to work they have to so that bills are paid I was fortunate enough that I could stay home with mine only that was years ago don't think I could afford to today. You are doing a good job.
2007-02-11 10:23:02 · answer #9 · answered by Bernie c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let one person's answer get you down, they probably wouldn't dare say that to your face. Anyway you work for the emergency services so after you beat them up you can care and tend for them. Ha! Ha! Take care.
2007-02-11 09:12:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋