2007-02-11 08:43:59 · 12 answers · asked by graciemae 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The shower is to be thrown as a surprise for the bride and the person throwing it has no idea who is invited to the wedding.
2007-02-13 11:24:52 · update #1
It would be tacky unless the wedding were in another country. Better to have a reception if the actual wedding is held in another place and time. A shower is to get ready for an event, the reception is to celebrate it. You can have more than one reception.
2007-02-11 08:49:33 · answer #1 · answered by CJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people would rather go to the shower,and not the wedding,but seems like an invite should have been expressed at some point ,even if at the shower and no formal invitation..
2007-02-11 08:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, very tacky. It would be like talking about a party you are invited to, but the person you are talking to is not, sort of a rubbing someone's face in the fact that they are not invited situation. And it would be considered to be a blatant and rude demand for presents.
Only invite the people that are invited to the wedding to the shower..
Now if people who are not invited insist on giving you a shower, OK.
2007-02-15 02:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'm no fan of weddings. i think of they are surreal a million/2 the time. yet i would not spend greater beneficial than $25 on a present, incredibly whether that's a relative. i'm unsure i could spend $25 besides. Your relative has the main appalling value equipment: "if persons are too inexpensive to purchase a present than that's their problem no longer mine." She's judging them by using what they convey. I say take a f.f. She's no longer extremely certainly worth the hassle. How is your no longer attending the bridal bathe any ruder than no longer being invited as a relative to the marriage? yet returned, i think of weddings are farcical, and Bridezillas between the main unsightly manifestations of our lots battered society. Why such grief while the possibilities are purely 50:50 that they are going to additionally be at the same time in 5 years.
2016-10-01 23:37:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people who are invited to the shower would probably expect an invitation to the wedding too.
2007-02-11 08:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by FlyChicc420 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people who are invited to the shower would probably expect an invitation to the wedding too.but sometimes not invited to both
2007-02-14 00:31:53 · answer #6 · answered by jerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had three wedding receptions on the same day. For all different people.
It was an outdoor rennisance wedding and everyone worn costumes and I added colored ribbons on their label so my "hosts" could user them to the correct location. Told them it was required to get them into the gate along with their tickets, so only one person lost her's. They recieved them in the mail along with the directions and we had a list of names and colors and extra ribbons on hand. I had several kids at the front gate (preteens in fairy costumes) there to help escort or show them the way. They loved that.
My wedding was at 10:30 in the morning. ALL
I had cake & coffee for some at 11:30. ALL
We excusesd our selves for pictures and left for another formal lunch at 1:00 (Family only) and then had a 5:00pm ( friends buffet) cocktails and dancing, screening of the wedding on the wall in the dark hall.
My husband has "parents divorced" so we had two formal dinners for them, since one would not attend because of the other and so we arranged it so that it was done that way.
The photgrapher was a great. We took group pictures the day before, since the whole wedding party was here.
HE was our reason. We left #1 for photos with that family and
left #2 for the other family. He rigged a video camera up and it played the unedited ceremoney ONLY in a loop at the last reception. He had actually 3 videos that day and caught the whole wedding, and each party and mixed them each for wedding vidoe gifts. AMAZING MAN. Amazing day.
Oh some figured it out, but most didn't care. They were having so much fun. I was "toasted" by the last toast!
2007-02-11 09:00:10 · answer #7 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i had a very small wedding(mybe 55 people at the most) and i did not invite people to the wedding shower that were no invited to my wedding.. i was told that wouldnt look right
2007-02-11 08:52:20 · answer #8 · answered by ♥charlies angel♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would be so improper to invite them to a bridal shower and not invite them to the wedding. If you can't afford to have the people to the wedding then please do not ask them to the shower!!
2007-02-11 10:13:05 · answer #9 · answered by Faith 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, then it would look like you're just inviting them to get gifts but dont want them to be part of your wedding.
2007-02-12 07:36:33 · answer #10 · answered by Luv Peace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋