I am a virgin and my fiance is not. I have no idea what to do on our wedding night but everyone keeps on saying to just lye back and let him show me. I want to know how to make things special for him, I am incredibly nervous, but what can I do to make it exciting/pleasurable/special for him as well, not just for me. please give me some advice. He is being so wonderful by understanding my standards, I want to give him something in return, and since we will be married, I can! Thanks!
2007-02-11 08:27:40 · 8 answers · asked by Carli K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
....I don't drink alcohol so ther eis no way I will be drunk...
2007-02-11 08:31:51 · update #1
....I don't watch porn either, so that is not an option, gonna have to do better than that, sorry!...
2007-02-11 08:38:26 · update #2
Your husband-to-be seems very understanding. Without dissing all the male species, there aren't many like him so hang onto him!!
(And before all you guys pick that comment to pieces, I said 'not many', not 'none'!!!)
The best thing to do is to talk to him and get him to tell you what he likes. He will be only too keen. Trust me!!!
And then when you find your confidence, you will be more relaxed in the situation and feel like exploring what YOU like (and better still, so will he!!)
Good luck with it!!!
2007-02-11 08:41:37 · answer #1 · answered by Myrtle the turtle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget the porn. You are marrying him so it can be assumed the depth of your feelings for him. Ask him what he likes. You HAVE to be able to communicate about this.PERIOD. Where does he like to be touched, kissed, nibbled. How much pressure to apply to certain areas. And relax, because no matter how much sex you have had before its rarely as good as it can get on the first try. You grow together on that level, learning the way the other moves, how and what they respond to. Just do what comes natural to you and communicate.
2007-02-11 16:35:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some good suggestions here, along with the usual crappy porn ones. I wish you the best, my wife was a virgin on our wedding night. If you want any specific advice you can mail me.
Best wishes, and may God bless your marriage.
2007-02-11 16:46:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
set the mood, and get something hot on. very hot but virginal. sex can be tricky and a little painful so let him give you an awsome 1 hr massage with sensual amber- bath and body works scent- and get you relaxed. men love oral sex and if you haven't done that yet, watch a few porn clips and cinemax flicks to get an idea of men and what they like. no stress, no rush. have fun.
2007-02-11 16:35:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just go with the flow and don't have too much alcohol
And don't do what I did on my wedding night, I fell asleep on him while he was getting room service
2007-02-11 16:31:16 · answer #5 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
watch some porn, preferrably soft porn
2007-02-11 16:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by Alex 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi, thats an interesting question! lol! 20/F wondering the same thing... holla back
2007-02-11 16:32:26 · answer #7 · answered by Bonnie T 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if he understands you, then you should be fine. Let him show you. Don't be ashamed atleast he understands.
2007-02-11 16:41:50 · answer #8 · answered by ig0tquestions 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋