Right now I am dealing with my husband in jail, and if he doesn't get parole he will be there for 7 years. I love my husband so much and miss him dearly. I just feel like I am losing it now because he is not here and the thought of him being gone for that amount of time isn't helping either. I just need ways to be able to cope with this and maintain until he gets out. I can't even visit him due to being the co-defendant in the situation that he got us into. I have forgave him and want to give him all the support that he needs to pull out of this. What all can I do to keep going physically and mentally? Thanks
2007-02-11 08:19:35 · 14 answers · asked by chyna 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You're going to need a good support system to help you through all of this. If money is a problem, your community probably has a counseling center where you pay according to your income.
A good church home with a supportive pastor and congregation will be a big help, too. Let your minister know what's going on, and ask him/her for prayers and pastoral counseling.
You're also going to need to take time for yourself in order to stay strong. You don't say if you have children or not, but if you do, they're going to need you to stay healthy. Part of the way that you do that is to set aside some time that's just for you and the Lord. Pray, read your Bible, and listen to what He's saying to your heart.
Eat good healthy meals, exercise, and remember that no matter what happens, God is still in control of the situation. He is your best Friend, and He will be your loving, supportive Husband to you in all circumstances.
God bless you, and I will pray for you.
2007-02-11 08:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfeblayde 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray to God frequently for help to endure this. Also, keep in mind that this might be a way that your husband receives help, mine did. I've been where you are and you can only trust God to do what is needed and what is right. Maybe this is a way of stopping your husband from doing any further harm to himself or others. Chances are, if he is there for awhile, he will look to God for help as well. You reap what you sow. The chance of getting a full 7 are slim. Also, good behavior earns 1/2 the time of the original sentence taken off.
2007-02-11 08:28:16 · answer #2 · answered by Gardener for God(dmd) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Easier said than done" but a Christian doesn't "cope" with issues
He is supossed to put all His faith in Christ to "conquer" an issue.
If you do put all your faith in Christ, give your problem and worries over to Him, then "you" no longer have the problem, then "if" anything is to be done by you, you will be lead to do it by the Holy spirit, but first the faith and handing over to Christ, he will give you his peace and take care of your need in ways that are not your or my ways, but His.
I have found that His ways of doing things, solving a problem are always so unique, not the way any man would handle a situation, then when the problem is resolved by Him, you can look back and see the "steps" He took and say "wow" ! "Who would have beleived" it could be taken care of that way !
He says He knows the desires of your heart and that He will perfect them, maybe not the way you thought, but it's done.
Turn all thoughts that enter your mind into a prayer, even just a quick small prayer for what or who you are thinking about and it seems sooner than you think, that these thoughts are now of little consequence anymore, things are "ok".
Like i said "easier" said than done, it takes faith but the practicing turning it all into short prayers at each fearful thought or worry, builds the faith, the results give us more faith.
2007-02-11 08:46:31 · answer #3 · answered by dad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a bible believing church to fellowship in.
Are you a believer? If so keep studying and reading the Word of God. If not and you want to be right with God, the way of salvation is:
Ask God to forgive you of your sins
Receive salvation through Jesus
Follow Him. Read and study the Word and pray.
Whatever you guys did to land him in jail, you'd need to repent of.
Deuteronomy 4:29 But from there you will seek the Lord your God and you Will find Him if you search for Him with all your heart and all your soul.
I hope this helps
2007-02-11 08:31:04 · answer #4 · answered by redeemed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to pray, sweet girl. You need to talk to God and ask Him to show the way. You need to remember the love you two shared. That's what will keep you going. Wake up and tell yourself, "this is one day closer to when I get to love him again." Remember Jeremiah 29:11: "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you a hope and a future." Beleive, fall in love with the Lord. Allow yourself to press on and trust that God will make it all work out for the best, dear.
2007-02-11 08:28:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I expect the person who posted this to be a Christian.
THE best tool for Anything like this is PRAYER!
How about joining the Yahoo HE Prayer Group of over 1,300 members who can PRAY for comfort - and also supply a few Emails of Encouragement!
http://www.toughlove.faithweb.com/hope_eternal_prayer_group.htm
2007-02-11 08:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by whynotaskdon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have kids?
Sorry you are in this situation. It is great you have forgiven him. I would recommend getting involved in a supportive local church (Baptist are usually good) and trust God that what is right will unfold with the parole.
Take one day at a time and make God a part of your day. He will never leave you or forsake you.
2007-02-11 08:24:39 · answer #7 · answered by Mike A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray to Father about it and ask to place all matters into His hands. Find activies to join or attend with relatives or friends.
2007-02-11 08:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christ felt the pains you are feeling as result of the situation you are in He understands you and if you ask in faith He will help you. I will keep you in my prayers.
2007-02-11 08:26:46 · answer #9 · answered by Joseph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust in God & pray, & look forward to the day he can get out.
2007-02-11 08:24:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋