My mom has brought me up Catholic, but in middle school I decided I just didn't agree with the beliefs of Christianity. I hate going to her church, and I really disagree with their views, yet everytime I ask to skip she starts screaming at me and says she will kick me out and take away all my priveledges(like not letting me see my boyfriend) if I don't go with her. She trashes me behind my back to her friends, tells me I am going to hell, and calls me a "pagan", when I actually have no specific religion. Its insulting to me to have to go to her church and I don't know what to do, and she doesn't let me go to any other churches.What am I supposed to do?Can she really kick me out for not going?
2007-02-11 08:08:56 · 22 answers · asked by human 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
My mom has brought me up Catholic, but in middle school I decided I just didn't agree with the beliefs of Christianity. I hate going to her church, and I really disagree with their views, yet everytime I ask to skip she starts screaming at me and says she will kick me out and take away all my priveledges(like not letting me see my boyfriend) if I don't go with her. She trashes me behind my back to her friends, tells me I am going to hell, and calls me a pagan, when I actually have no specific religion. Its insulting to me to have to go to her church and I don't know what to do, and she doesn't let me go to any other churches.What am I supposed to do?Can she really kick me out for not going?
2007-02-11 08:54:38 · update #1
She can't "assault" you for any reason if you are under 18, especially that one!
2007-02-11 08:13:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
if you are under age (a minor) she is committing a crime! as you have stated you mother isn't a mother at all! she is also not a christian! normally I would go on and tell you what I truly think but no disrespect towards your mom here!
legally , should she decide to kick you out , she could be charged with abuse and neglect !
I am sorry that you have to go through this! I would like you to know that a true mom and a true christian at that , would love her children unconditionally , guide them , respect them , and yes , some times tough love is needed as well - but not to enforce a religion!
where is your dad? do you have other adults that could help you? I can only tell you that it is tough - but stay firm towards your believes , because as you are growing up , it is part of your individualism , part of your maturing(something your mother obviously needs to do because she back stabs you) and it will all come together at some point! there are certain people you can go to to get help! start with your school nurse and school counselor ,city hall and police! all of course, just in case she throws you out!
By the way , you wont go to hell! and pagans are good people too!
And your mom has absolutely no legal , ethical or other right to tell you what to believe, because she doesn't own you!
take good care- let us know -ask more questions good luck to you and am sooo sorry you have to go through that.
2007-02-11 16:35:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course she can kick you out for that.If she is that kind of person who would do that though, you would probably be better off.Not loving you and treating you badly,because you feel differently about things than she does, doesn't sound very christian to me.Most christians don't seem very christian.Peace, love, understanding, caring for others, this is what Jesus taught.He didn't teach, go to church every sunday, confess your sins to another person,judge others and torment them for being different.He didn't teach these things.I don't know why people act the way they do.I'm sorry your mom is treating you this way, you won't live with her forever.My advice to you, sit her down and tell her,calmly, why you feel the way you do,tell her what you think,try to make her understand,ask her what she believes.Write some things down before you get started so you can keep on track if you get upset.Whatever you do,try not to get angry,try to keep her calm.Discuss, don't fight.Oh and another thing, Jesus never said to worship saints,or His mother.Look how catholics treat the pope.Like he is God.Jesus didn't teach these things. You take care, everything will be fine.
2007-02-11 16:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by Rosalind S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends how old you are and where you live - I can only give you advise from the English point of view - if you are a minor in England this is 16, then she is responsible for you she can put you in care but she cannot kick you out onto the street. If you are over 16 then she can do what she likes.
2007-02-11 16:19:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call the authorities at let them know you're being psychologically abused and that your Freedom of Religion right is being suppress by you parent. Then, I would find who she was talking to, ask them for a written statement, and file charges under slander.
After you're done with that, go speak with the Priest of the Church that she wants you to go to and inform him of your mother's actions. And also inform him that she is threatening to abandon you, or kick you out of your home.
If that doesn't work, call the local Child Protective services in your area and tell them the same thing.
Your mother may be Catholic, but she's not Christian.
2007-02-11 16:19:40 · answer #5 · answered by Odindmar 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, she can not kick you out. That is child abuse, and she could serve time in jail for that! However, I strongly advise that you continue going to her church. If you do not prefer the beliefs of Catholicism, try searching for a different church and introduce the two of you there. Keep looking until you find one that you both enjoy. God does not want us to fight over religion, but this is a sinful world. God bless!
2007-02-11 20:10:59 · answer #6 · answered by ☼SoccerGirl☼ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are under age, Then you should obey your parents, But if you are over 18, then yes she can throw you out, But your mother also have to watch out if she tries to kick out a minor, she can be charged with Child negelect. But don't try to accuse your Mom of things just to get even with her because if you try to falsly accuse her, you yourself can end up in jail. To me the Catholic Church is a pagan church.
2007-02-11 16:36:44 · answer #7 · answered by birdsflies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she owns the house then she can make you go and if you're over 18 she can legally kick you out. She can't make you believe what is taught at the church but unfortunately she can make you go. Your mom doesn't seem to be "Christ like" at all, especially if she is talking bad about yo behind your back. I'm sorry you have to go through this, good luck with your situation.
2007-02-11 16:14:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you under the age of 18 your has legal responsible to take care of you regardless of what you believe, so she can't kick you out, but she can punish you for not doing what she tells you to.
2007-02-11 19:07:02 · answer #9 · answered by jetthrustpy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a horrible person.
You can either play her little game until you're 18, stand up for what you believe in, or run away from home before she kicks you out... Chances are she'll decide she wants you back, church or not.
In any case, I congratulate you for rising above the years of conditioning.
(Oh, you could read The God Delusion, understand how religion controls people, and be forever free of it)
2007-02-11 16:24:09 · answer #10 · answered by eldad9 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She can punish you however she wants for not going to church short of child abuse. I believe if you're 16 she can kick you out, if you are younger she can make other living arrangements legally.
2007-02-11 16:14:22 · answer #11 · answered by Ashley 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋