I don't mean to sound too frustrated... Although women claim they want a nice guy, why do women fall for jerks and guys who take advantage of them and then keep going back for more?
2007-02-11 08:00:02 · 13 answers · asked by packman 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, it is for the excitement of the game. But when we finally grow up it is most definitely the "good" guy that we fall head over heals for! It is the good guy that we marry, have babies with and want to grow old with. Don't be a jerk and don't take advantage, but if you want to be part of the craziness, try being distant and not available...trust me it works. I never could be bothered with "the game" after having my heart broken once, or twice, so I concentrated on my education and career. I have now been married, HAPPILY, to a good guy and do not regret one decision I made in the theater of love. I wish you luck and do not envy what it is you are going through....it sux! ") Chin up....good guys prevail!
2007-02-11 08:07:39 · answer #1 · answered by MaHaa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't that annoy you? I hate it when women go out with losers and then complain they should find a nice guy. Some women have low self esteem (no matter what they may look like on the outside) and usually the loser guys are the "cool" ones, in school, at work (which makes no sense) and dating a cool guy makes them feel good about themselves. There's nothing cool about a jerk who doesn't know how to treat a woman.
I wish I could give you a better answer. I married a nice guy who just happened to be a cool guy, too. :)
2007-02-11 16:06:10 · answer #2 · answered by LeeLee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because normally the jerks and guys who take advantage of them are cuter than those that are nice. Yes, girls can be obsessed with looks too. Other girls feel like maybe they can help the jerks to become a nice guy. Some girls also don't trust a nice guy simply because he is too nice. They feel kind of wary of him, like he might just be pretending to be a nice guy. That's just some of the reasons that I've seen. There's plenty more though...
2007-02-11 16:07:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the case only for some women. Many times, the women who fall for jerks (users and abusers), are women who had fathers who were either alcoholic, abusive, molesters or any combination of those 3. Or they may be women who had no father, or both parents were abusive... I have known these women as friends and have had students who parents were these women... and relatives of mine are these women...
Our fathers, like it or not, usually set the pattern for what we women will look for in a man.
For women who either had no father or worse, an abusive father, they will look for the fatherly love and acceptance they never had... and more often than not, will continually fall for guys who promise love and accpetance, but who repeat the behaviors that are familiar to the hurt women who fall for them.
2007-02-11 16:12:06 · answer #4 · answered by scruffycat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because most women feel they need to have protection from anything bad that could happen. and jerks and "tough" guys portray that. actually if you ask me, i would take a nice guy any day. i would always choose a nice guy, who cared about me enough for me to know that he would always defend me, but that wasn't really an answer to your question, sooooo....its a dominence thing pretty much. however i do not prefer this type myself. just throwin that out there too.
2007-02-11 16:06:23 · answer #5 · answered by italiana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women need excitement and action in their lives before taking the next step to meet responsable, financially independent man like you. But there's another issue, women who don't protect themselves like for example having unprotected sex with those losers. Once they got pregnant, they're screwed for the rest of their lives. If I was single again I would chose inteligent, caring and most of all with financial security guys... but I'm hispanic.
2007-02-11 16:05:01 · answer #6 · answered by Angryflower1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm interesting question,good question man. well firstly you dont sound frustrated dont worry lol. Its just how guys are...like they act really nice and sweet and make women fall for them and then dump them later, and then comes back with sweettalks or crying and crap just to win their heart back and they can which is very pathetic, because those womens dont realise that they are being used or played. =)
2007-02-11 16:05:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a girl and i always ask myself the same question but i think it's because they will have fallen love and because of that they don't see anything wrong with the jerk.
2007-02-11 16:06:33 · answer #8 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experence.. i'd say that only when u meet the worst kinds.. do we appreciate the nice guys.. trust me .. i have learnt... and now looking for a simple nice guy
2007-02-11 16:04:29 · answer #9 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most women cant see that the right is infornt of them, they look ever where else insead of the guy whos been there for them & is infornt of them
2007-02-11 16:04:42 · answer #10 · answered by Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋