The young lady in question is 17 years old; she engages in cutting when she is stressed or upset. What is the psychological basis for this behavior (something I had only heard of in passing until the last few years)? Is there anything he or I might be able to do to help her?
2007-02-11 07:58:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
The young lady has asked for my help, as she seems to trust me (I would not interfere in her life had she not asked); I'm asking questions to try to get a better idea of why people do this, so I can at least talk intelligently to her.
2007-02-11 09:13:54 · update #1
I'll try to describe it the best I can. When teenagers (or adults, sometimes) get upset, it's like we feel like we haven't got any control over anything. We go all dramatic about it. (The decision-making part of our brain shrinks during these years.) Some kids turn to cutting, because it's like they can have control. You want to drown out your emotional pain with physical pain. Understand?
About helping her out? Try not to force her immediately into doing anything. Have your son talk to her -- friendship is the best medicine. If you think she will seriously harm herself, speak to her parents and perhaps get her some help.
2007-02-11 08:06:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
........The cutter's mind has had a bold session of psychosis and a logic patch was made to right the personal sailing ship. Under extreme sadness the mind was forced to relearn one or more beliefs. The mind being forced to relearn a belief released some unbalanced chemicals into the spinal fluid that affected the lower or auto brain. The auto brain was then able to reroute the messages of cutting which is damage and shock. The upper brain got the message in the area for a euphoric feeling like an orgasm. This removed the pain chemically from your system and a patch was made and installed as good reasoning. Now every time the brain is depressed and pain results your desire grows to cut to feel good again. Until a strong emotion is found in life to undo this logic patch the brain can't think that it is wrong to cut even though the brain can see the blood. So it is in life whenever a pleasure is discovered the brain will chose pleasure and abandon logical reasoning. Fortunately this disorder is usually gone by age twenty. Nonetheless depression will remain a life issue...........
2007-02-11 08:40:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you two can get her help, through a professional, or in therapy. If she keeps engaging in cutting, and does not learn to deal, and cope with things that are bothering her, then she will continue to do this for the rest of her life, it is better to get it now, then to let it keep going on. If she has been hiding this and doing it for a long time, then it is going to be hard for her at first to stop this behavior, and she may never stop this behavior compelety. She really needs to go to therapy and learn some healthy coping skills, cause this is not a healthy coping skill, but it was the only one that she could proably think of at the time. Usually cutter, have a bad past history, and a lot of really terriable things have happen to them, so they cut, to get a relief, that over a time she will see that she needs to cut more to get the relief that she once was getting with less cutting. So she really needs to see a therapist, cause this can become way more serious then it is now. She has issues that she needs to talk about, even if she knows it or not. She could of stuffed them so deep within her, that she really needs to get to the issues, and work on them. Meanwhile she can learn some more healthier ways of coping in every day life, and the issues she has that have not been resolved. It is good that someone what to get her help, cause she really does need it, and she needs it right now. She can go to a mental health, and since she is 17 years old her parents do not have to know anything about it. She can proably be seen for free too. So you and your son, needs to try to get her to see this is a problem, and that she needs help with it. God bless you all there, and good luck.
2007-02-11 08:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by Ladyofathousandfaces 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He might read* & share these online articles with her :
Why Do I Hurt Myself?
- A Diverse Profile
- “A Mechanism to Cope With Stress”
- “Critical Times” -- 2 Tim 3:1
http://www.watchtower.org/e/200601a/article_01.htm
How Can I Stop Hurting Myself?
- The Value of Confiding
- The Importance of Prayer
*> Helping A Self-Injuror
- When Additional Assistance Is Needed
- Two Things to Think About
http://watchtower.org/e/200602a/article_01.htm
2007-02-11 08:38:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cut as well. I think you should talk to your son about it. Sometimes all someone needs is someone to say "I care, I promise." Maybe you could have your son suggest to her about telling someone. Otherwise you could try talking to her yourself. Be very careful with what you say and be understanding. Don't make too big of a deal out of it. Try not to make her feel like a bad person or some kind of freak. Tell her you care. Tell her she call you anytime to talk if she wants. Then simply ask if there's anything you can do to help. Act like a friend and not a mother. Don't make her tell you exactly why she does it. She might not even know. If you feel that you should tell someone else, make sure she knows about it first. Give her two weeks to tell a teacher or her parents. If two weeks go by and she still hasn't told. Talk with her again and tell her that you'll talk to her parents yourself. This way it doesn't come as a huge shock to her. You sound like a very nice person to care so much like this. I hope all goes well.
2007-02-11 08:18:03 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is not your problem. I hate to be rude but this girl has her problems and you don't need to interfere in them. Have you seen these cuts? Are they deep? If they're not very deep she has probably just gotten into cutting and may or may not stop soon. You really should not be involved in this girls life. If you want to help have your son to talk to her or tell her that he is there for her if she needs him. She will appreciate it, but if u interfere she will be offended and will not associate with your son anymore.
2007-02-11 08:54:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's a pronouncing ... " in which there is smoke, there may be hearth". And there appears to be A LOT of smoke coming from the ones two. The speak among the two of them is intimate -- and on a degree which functional peers frequently do not use. ALSO - whilst she flipped out simply when you consider that you desired so as to add her to my house .. mixed with the "handle it" bit .. definite turns out so as to add as much as greater than functional friendship .. however appears to be a dating with hearth in it. You could often be shrewd to don't forget this as "purple - flags" alerting you to what can, and might, move on!! Think approximately it this fashion ... if it had been YOU speaking to a further man similar to they're speaking & appearing with every different ... what do you feel could be happening among you and the opposite man? .. a functional friendship? You might have got to feel in this decades. You can have extra solutions come to you whilst you'll recover from being so dissatisfied.
2016-09-07 00:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should consult a counselor. Cutting is a serious reaction to stress and can do serious damage to there body. The best advice for you is to tell her to see a counselor.
2007-02-11 09:30:19 · answer #8 · answered by metalcow101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her to get some psychiatric help as soon as possible.
2007-02-11 08:07:10 · answer #9 · answered by wjtherman 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Cutting what? Herself / Others? Trees?
If she is cutting Trees tell the mayor.
If she is cutting herself do some prayer..
If she is cutting your son call your lawyer.
2007-02-11 08:04:39 · answer #10 · answered by Homo Sapien 1 · 1⤊ 7⤋