I used to be so carefree, happy, social, playful, and outgoing before and now I am a recluse. I stay indoors all the time and I have built wall around me to keep my distance from my friends, family and society. Will I ever be the life loving, playful sprite that I used to be? I miss my old self so much. I'm so sad this way. Am I doomed? Will it ever get better? I feel so stuck! Thank you for your advice.
2007-02-11 07:58:32 · 21 answers · asked by Sereny 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
i was raped 6 months ago but it was nowhere near as bad as what you went through. this is all i can bring myself to do. play on the net. i cant go out with my friends or family or anything. lately i have been getting a little better. i just started talkin 2 some ppl @ school again. so i am slowly coming out of it and i hope for your sake you can too.
good luck honey, and take care
try some of these sites and call some of the numbers. they helped me greatly.
www.rainn.org
800-656-HOPE (800-656-4673)
www.safehorizon.org
800-621-HOPE (800-621-4673)
i got these off of mariska hargitay's web site. she is on law & orer svu if you didn't know. there are hundreds more.
http://mariska.com/resources/
2007-02-18 11:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by rocker_chick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need so much therapy, what happened to you was awful and need professional advice and guidance.
It'll be hard for you to trust again but slowly and if your family are there for you put some faith on then, Start going out with then, wherever you feel comfortable going, And if you decide to stay home watch funny movies, funny programs. If you believe in God, every time bad memories come to your mind say a little pray. The therapy is going to help you a lot, and this bad experience eventually will only be part of the past.
Don't allow that rapist keep torturing you. Let your family help you, you deserve to be happy again.
Best wishes.
2007-02-11 08:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not doomed
You need a psychiatrist, a therapist and probably groups - it will take work, but you can get better.
I could not leave my home without someone holding my hand. I was having panic attacks, depression, and I am bi-polar - with medication from my psychiatrist and help with a therapist and group therapy I can go shopping now. Later this month I am taking my first step at looking for a job in 9 years - I have been disabled, but I am better. (now due to my bi-polar I was never social, happy, playful - but I am becoming more the person that I liked being before) (and I have been raped twice and was in an abusive marriage - not to say my situation is equal to yours, just to say it is possible to get up after being beaten down.
2007-02-11 08:40:48 · answer #3 · answered by startrektosnewenterpriselovethem 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to only leave the house during daytime. If you go out at night go with a friend that you trust. Carry pepper spray with you. Try to park under a light and walk with your keys poking out of your knuckles so you could punch someone hard if they were to approach you. Look under your car and in the back seat before getting in. Make sure to always lock your doors right away. As you do this you should start to feel safer and slowly you will be able to open up again and be your fun self again. With small steps you'll be just fine.
2007-02-17 13:11:27 · answer #4 · answered by flirl1027 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice would be to move into different area of town . You will feel much safer there.
Also you need a good close friend to vent with. Do you have a family?? Can you talk to your family member?? The more you vent about your feelings the better you will feel in a nearest future.
But if I were you I'd move to the good area of your town.
I very much sympathize with you. Be strong OK? Life goes on.
You may want some psychological help from the good doctor. Find a good doc in your area and go.
2007-02-17 06:05:11 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ FairLady ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you reported this to the police? CALL THEM!!!
GET HELP!!! Seek a rape counselor if you have not already. This will with no doubt take time to ease back into society and trust that you can walk down the street without fear, but with time and help it will happen. Do you have any close friends you can lean on?
It is about power and control. You are just going to have to get mad enough to not let the rapest have that control any longer. Take back your life, take back the control that he/she took away from you. This is an excellent article...
good luck
2007-02-11 08:40:28 · answer #6 · answered by DPE 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was raped when i was 17.. and sexually abused when i was little. i did the same thing, i used to be so happy and upbeat, and then i closed myself up and shut down. little by little i've started to grow out of my shell, time heals wounds with time. ofcourse i'll never forget what happened. but i've learned to understand that everything that happened makes me who i am, im stronger now.
even though i didnt want to talk to anyone, having a friend to talk to, or someone to confide in helped me so much. i never went for professional help, which might or might not have helped.
im 21 now and im barely begining to get my life together. for a long time i felt that knowing people that have suffered the way i have was only more depressing because it showed how horrible life can be, but it also helps to know that your not alone. and your not.
itll get better, i promise.
p.s. dont go to alcohol and drugs for comfort. it just might only make things worse. it did for me. and i think it delayed my healing.
2007-02-18 19:21:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not stuck or doomed unless you want to be. there are alot of people and organizations willing,wanting and able to help you. if you cant ask them for help, is there still a member of your family your comfortable asking to help you reach out? a friend or sister? i hope you were able to report this pervert and have him arrested, if not remember God doesnt like ugly he will pay eventually. if you are able maybe now is the time to do so, others may have been afraid and done later as well. keeping you in my prayers for your recovery. use HIM. ask HIM. let HIM. he loves more than anyone on earth
2007-02-17 12:12:42 · answer #8 · answered by faith r 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you will be back to the person you were. You are that person now, but you have been violated and injured. You must heal and you need help doing that. Healing is sometimes painful. Look at burn victims who have to have their burnt flesh scraped off in order for the new skin to form. That's how it must be for emotional injuries as well. It is a process. Contact this link below and go to the second page. They are experts and professionals in their fields and want to help you. God led you to ask the questions, now it's up to you to go where he leads you and do what is best for you.
Many blessings
Peace and love,
Janie
2007-02-15 14:42:13 · answer #9 · answered by jmrkillgore 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you have a serious depression.
I would suggest you talk to your doctor and see if he can recommend a psych/therapist.
Maybe meds might help you a bit.
I know what it's like to be afraid to leave the house. I leave only when I absolutely have to and then I don't go out after it gets dark.
I also hate living this way.
I wish you peace.
2007-02-19 03:57:38 · answer #10 · answered by myhous99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋