English Deutsch Français Italiano Español Português 繁體中文 Bahasa Indonesia Tiếng Việt ภาษาไทย
All categories

I was just wondering why many people don't call anymore to let you know. My youngest son's party is next weekend and so far we have had one person call and say they are coming. I sent the invitations out 3 weeks early, so there should have been plenty of time to decide, right? I'm not angry, but it is irritating because last year the same thing happened, then everybody showed up anyway. In this day and age of cell phones ---I dont know. Are people just rude or what?

2007-02-11 07:56:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Grade-Schooler

Would it be okay for me to send out a little reminder note to those invited?

2007-02-11 08:08:58 · update #1

17 answers

The people that don't RSVP are rude. If they want their child to attend, and then RSVP as such, they should put it on their calendar as a "must do". If they will not be attending they should RSVP and then NOT show up. In my opinion, when someone does not RSVP they are essentially "uninviting" themselves.

A good neighbor of mine planned a pool party for her daughter's birthday. I did RSVP on my daughter's behalf and offered to stay at the party to help watch the children. The neighbor didn't receive any other RSVP's. She was sure at least some of the kids would show up, so she made sure she had enough favors, etc. for everyone that might show up. Sadly, my daughter and I were the only ones to attend, other than family. My neighbor was very upset. If the other parents had at least let her know they would not be attending she could have made a change in plans and saved herself the expense of the pool rental, favors and such a large cake. And quite frankly, it made the other parents look like jerks.

To other parents, or actually anyone with an invitation, please have the good manners to RSVP. Your host will appreciate it.

2007-02-11 08:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by HomeGrown 3 · 3 1

At least you got some replies, MY son just had his party this past weekend. He invited 10 kids, I heard from 2 saying they were coming and no one else even called one way or the other. I had to call people to ask so I could give them a head count at the bowling alley. Even then for the people who I got answering machines for, they never even called me back. SO frustrating! It's rude and inconsiderate when people do not RSVP. I always RSVP the day I get the invite so I won't forget. Even if I'm not sure yet, I will call and let them know I have to check on a couple things but thanks for the invite and I will get back to them soon just so they aren't wondering what's going on.

2016-03-29 02:27:09 · answer #2 · answered by Shirley 4 · 0 0

I don't think parents are intentionally trying to be rude. We all have lives and while some folks think they would RSVP well one day the shoe might be on there foot where they forget to RSVP. I appreciate when people RSVP when I have parties for my kids and I know it is frustrating when people don't let you know. I think a friendly reminder note sounds like a great idea! Just remember that those who haven't RSVP yet may have accidentally forgotten, maybe their sick, have family issues, have been so busy they truly haven't had time or who knows what. Things happen and no matter what we are all human. Good Luck hopefully you'll get those phone calls soon and your child has a wonderful party!

2007-02-11 14:51:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

here's the excuse they would use: between taking the kids to this activity, and that activity, and working, and taking care of the house, i just don't have the time. well if they don't have the time, then how did they find the time to open up the invitation, mark down the date, and bring the child? what i would do is call everyone and ask them if they are coming, and the next time you send out and rsvp simply state that you MUST know by this date how many children will be attending or they will not be able to join in on they activities because you already paid for the ones that did rsvp. so if they don't rsvp, and they show up, just tell them that they are welcome to stay but, they will have to pay for their child because you already paid for the party. they will pay because they aren't going to let little johnny sit out of this wonderful thing that his friends are doing.

2007-02-11 08:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 0 1

It's not just kids parties; adults are very lazy about responding in general.

This happened for my son's HS graduation. I had to call and email 50 people several times to see if they were attending his grad party. 40 planned on attending, but only 10 responded to the RSVP. Family members did not respond either.

I think it's a lack of manners. I finally sent everyone one last email and told them if they wanted to have food at the party, they needed to respond in the next 24 hours.

2007-02-11 08:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by ne11 5 · 1 0

Yes, I think they are. It is common courtesy to just give a call and say you can make it or not. If you have email, I'd put your email on there too, and see if you get more responses that way next time. It's not fair that you have to guess-ti-mate how much food you need and cake. I'm sure those people not calling have had parties in they're life, so they are definately being rude. I would call!

2007-02-11 08:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

They are just rude. People don't take the time to do anything these days. Calling another parent is just "another thing" they have to do. Simple polite gestures are now considered chores. If my son was invited to your party you would have known the day after you sent the invitation! [I'm not asking for an invite--I'm just saying.] Organization, planning, and common sense are just not common anymore. It's really sad. People don't take time for their kids to have fun anymore. Staying in the house is too common. I remember going out to several birthday parties when I was a kid. I'd have so much fun! Many parents don't participate in them anymore.

If you ask me it's sad and frustrating. Parents need to be PARENTS first. If we want our children to learn respect and punctuality we need to SHOW them how.

I'm sorry if I wrote a book. It's just another one of those things that frustrates the heck out of me!

2007-02-11 08:58:51 · answer #7 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0 1

People are just rude. I would make it a point to call all those who did not RSVP and get there answer. You'll have to pay for the no shows in some places. I am like you. What does it take to leave a message on someone's machine?

2007-02-11 08:01:30 · answer #8 · answered by noitall 4 · 1 1

for a child's party at a outside place, such as a bowling alley, roller skating etc. I try to respond as soon as possible, sometimes we do have to check with other people to see if my child can go, i.e. my husband, checking to see if my other kids have plans. but i do agree with you though, my daughter had only 1 respondent to her party last year and unfortunately only 1 kid showed up. she was very disappointed.... a short "Hi, we can't come, we have previous arrangements" would have been appreciated as then we may have changed our plans for her party... such as going to a movie with only a couple friends is much more affordable than taking the whole class along. even if cost is not an issue it's just good manners.

2007-02-11 10:01:58 · answer #9 · answered by zoe 1 · 1 0

I go thru the same thing every year. What I have done in the past is send an email to all who haven't responded with a note saying "Just a reminder, Johnny's birthday party is next Saturday! We are hoping to see you there, please call or email and let us know if you will be coming!"
It works every time.

2007-02-11 08:05:45 · answer #10 · answered by Crazymom 6 · 1 1

fedest.com, questions and answers