Not over him?

Question

I broke up with my boyfriend because I was scared. My friend told me he was going to dump me and so I dumped him first. Totally out of fear. And I wanted him back like hell the second after I dumped him. I still love him. Like adult love, not kid love.

Now a few weeks later my best friend and him love eachother. I'm crying my eyes out. Today I told him I still love him, and he started caring about me more.

He still loves my friend, and doesn't love me.

I'm crying and cant stop. What should I do?

AND NOW I FOUND OUT THEY'RE GOING OUT!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

girl, I have been going through the exact same thing. I miss my man like crazy, but I feel that if he does not feel the same way then I should get over him. It usually does take me many tears to deal, but I have come to realize that he is not worth my tears. Your ex-man does not deserve your tears or sorrows either. Listen to the song breathe by Anna Nalick while eating a batch of home made cookies. After that go to the gym and work off all the misserie he has put you through. A new start will begin now, the rest is up to you............

Answer 2

dont u realise the only reason your friend told u that he was going to dump u is because she knew u would dump him first but guess what she was lying she only told u that so she could have him for her self so my advice to u is that shes a b*tch hes an a**hole and neither of them are worth any more of your time, i know its easier said than done but you'll be glad u did as for your mood only you can fix that try keeping busy or going out with your other friends. If u get anything from this its that u can do better than both of them, good luck.

Answer 3

First of all, that is NOT adult love. Someone capable of real love wouldn't "dump" someone just to avoid being dumped first. Instead, she would have an honest conversation with her boyfriend to find out if what he was feeling is true.

Your bf didn't love you and he doesn't love your friend. Your friend sounds like a real ***** - I don't think you should hang out with her anymore.

Answer 4

Well I'd stop refering to her as a "friend". She totally stabbed you in the back and has no place on your list as a trustworthy person. All women friends know that unspoken rule about never dating another friends ex. NO MATTER WHAT.

Also, he probably does still love you. They're relationship is very new still, so go after what you want girl!!! Go while you still have a chance!!

Good luck (and smack that ex-friend of yours while you're at it. jk!)

Answer 5

First of all, it may be "adult love" but you've got a whole lifetime to be with many different guys. You may not like to hear it but he may not be the guy for you. Some good advice is to try to forget about him . Definitely don't try to screw things up between him and your friend. I hope it works out. I've been through that many times in my life...

Answer 6

Girl, I know exactly how you feel.. I mean it execept that best friend part. What i did first to be able to get over him was talk to someone about all his flawsssss..... second I listened to songs that i can relate to about missing ppl and then I listen to songs that related to moving on.....try britney spears after.. i wrote a letter to him but never gave it to him (because you aren't suppose to) telling him how i felt put all your feelin's inside there .... LAST PUT ALL HIS STUFF N PICTURES LETTERS ECT IN A BOX AND STORE IT IN A GOOD PLACE... Then talk to new guys feel good about yourself check if you still got it ... LIFE GOES ON use this MOTTO......LOVE LIKE YOU NEVER BEEN HURT BEFORE.

Answer 7

If this was me i would be upset to and you know ur friends may have said this to you so you would dump him and thn she could make her move.

what you should do is just build up the relationship again and thn take it from their just dont go jumping in

and for the tears i suggest a big box of chocolates that always works

Answer 8

dont bother with him because if he loves your friend then is not goin to work out between yous 2 you know. He may care about you all lot but caring and loving someone is 2 different thing

Answer 9

Try to forget about him. Ignore him if you see him. All things that remind you of him, take it out of your sight. Show him that you really don't care about him, even if you do. When walking pass by him, put the chin up and your head up. Don't cry in front of him, laugh in front of him. Date other people, go out with friends. Just be a happy person. If this doesn't help, see a counselor, and ask him/her about coping skills to help you with this situation. And, ask people not to talk about him in fron of you, you have all rights to do that.

Answer 10

awww honey. you are having it tough. your friend can't be worth much if she will go out with your ex as that just isn't done.

I know you think your life is over but it does get better. I'm going through it too at the moment, but in my case we had been talking about buying houses & getting married & having babies before he freaked out.

Keep yourself busy doing anything that makes you focus on something other than your mate & ex. give it time (I know it's hard) & eventually it does get better, honest!