Well im a 16 yr old boy and I need some help on how to tell my parents that I like the same sex and how I feel deeply about being the opposite gender. I am feeling really depressed keeping my feelings in every day and it is getting really hard and some times I get suicide thoughts. I would like to know how to tell my parents and what to expect from telling them. Also parents that answer how would you feel about this if I was you son. Please help! and thanks in advance for the help.
2007-02-11 07:48:10 · 7 answers · asked by ♥Jesse♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell them that you are depressed and would like to see a counselor, which would not be a lie. Talk to your counselor about everything you have just talked about in your question, and he/she can help you with your depression and with your family situation. When you are ready, it may be a good idea for you to have your family come to one of the sessions and tell them about your sexual orientation in the session. This could help for several reasons 1) you will have had a chance to talk through how you want to tell them with your counselor so you will be a little more prepared 2) you will have support because your counselor will be in the room with you 3) if your parents have questions they can talk to the counselor as well, and not just take everything out on you - things might not go smoothly, but a good counselor will be able to help keep everyone calm and help them think rationally about the situation as well as give your family resources to turn to if they need to talk to someone about the situation.
Every parent will react differently in this situation. It depends on their beliefs and opinions about sexuality. Just remember that it does not depend on how much they love you. Give them time to adjust after you tell them too. Their first reaction (if it is negative) may not be how they feel forever.
Have courage - it might be tough, but you can get through it! I am currently counseling a boy your age who just came out to his family and friends. His Mother is not happy that he is gay, but she loves him very much and does not hold it against him. His friends have accepted it pretty well.
Even if the people around you don't approve of your sexual orientation, you can get through it and find people who do.
Best of luck to you!
2007-02-11 08:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by Amber W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are your parents accepting of homosexuality? If not, you need to talk to friends and there are groups and help lines for this as well
I'll be honest with you, most parents aren't mentally prepared for this sort of thing, but on the other hand, sometimes they know before you think they do. My brother is gay and my parents suspected when he was around 12. They didn't want to accept it though. He's 23 now, and even to this day, they won't talk about it. But they love him, and just as long as he doesn't act intimate with guys in their presence, they are ok. Heck, my brother had a partner for 2.5 years and they hung out at my parents house almost on a daily basis. I think as long as my parents didn't see them kissing or acting lovey dovey, they were able to deal with it.
Find a friend, or group on this one. You need to have someone on your side before revealing this to your parents. You'll now when the time is right, and maybe like my brother, you'll never have to actually "say" anything.
2007-02-11 16:32:29 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm.. i'm a 16 year old girl so some of my friends have done this. one of them didn't even tell his parents he just introduced them to his boyfriend, but i wouldn't suggest that. i think you should just sit down with them and explain how you have been feeling, and how scared you have been and then just tell them emphasising that this is a serious choice from you, and you need their support. feel free to talk anytime.
2007-02-11 15:54:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are your parents.You have to sit down with them and talk to them honestly and tell them all that you are feeling.Explain how you feel and the thoughts you are having.
Good luck.
2007-02-11 15:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by Sherry Baby ( Ethan's Mama ) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most parents love unconditionally...remember it will be a disappointment for them, but give them time and love them no matter what they say... they will go through stages of anger, disappointment, regret, shame, and others.. but remember that they do love you... Ã
2007-02-11 15:51:48 · answer #5 · answered by just peachy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest and straight forward...and do not apologize for yourself
2007-02-11 15:57:17 · answer #6 · answered by cherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stay away from everything ok
2007-02-11 15:59:17 · answer #7 · answered by Ask April :P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋