It really makes me feel bad when people talk about parties that I wasn't invited to and how fun they were and what they did. I don't know what's going on when the talk about it and it hurts my feelings. What can I do about this?
2007-02-11 07:34:27 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Assuming you're an adult, just shrug it off and walk away so you don't have to hear them talk. It's possible that those people doing the talking did not know that you were not invited. I think that's HORRIBLE what the lady who answers next said she felt like telling her child to say to others when he/she hadn't been invited. That is not fair that kids don't get invited but you know what? Not all of us can afford to invite the whole class to parties and we are not on food stamps either. I let my son pick 5 of his friends. I think there is nothing wrong with that.
2007-02-11 07:48:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It usually is common curtesy not to talk about the party in front of the uninvited. Some people will talk about the party to bother you, but others might be discussing it because they had such a good time and want to talk about it. I have been on both sides of the equation. I try to refrain from talking about events I go to without friends mutual to me and whoever I went with, sometimes I accidently slip up. Don't feel bad about not being invited to a party, if you really must do something about it, go to the host/hostess of the party and ask them how the party went, usually they will take the hint and will probably invite you in the future.
2007-02-11 09:26:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, after reading all these answers, I assume a lot of people ascribe ulterior motives to every word that drops out of a person's mouth.
Look, the person had a good time at a party you weren't at and is sharing. We can't all go to every party! Unless you are never invited to a party, toughen up and deal with it - it's a sign of maturity.
There could be a myriad of reasons you were not invited - among them space, budget, acquaintance, reason. Maybe the party was given to honor someone you don't know.
So when someone is talking about a party you didn't get invited to, listen, laugh in appropriate places and make pithy and funny comment when they will be useful.
You can always talk about a party you attended when it will add to the conversation.
Life is not a party.
2007-02-15 03:22:31 · answer #3 · answered by txkathidy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As sad as it is to say - there are pathetic people in this world that love to see others feel bad. They twist and jab and whisper and stare all to see if you are listening and how you are handling it. There is nothing you can do but ignore them. You can be crying on the inside b/c you weren't invited, but just don't let them know. Standing up to them and saying something is just more fuel for the fire with these types. Try to find other things to do on the weekend to keep yourself occupied and happy - with or without a friend. TRUST ME - you need to be your own best friend. Just think, these mean petty girls grow into mean petty women that do the same thing they did in high school. Only now it's over block parties or the water cooler at work. Then they have children and the cycle is started all over again. Do you really want to try and fit in with that? I hope not.
2007-02-11 10:47:45 · answer #4 · answered by abby 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well if you know the person who is having the party you should ask if you can show up there or tell them yeah i heard ... so what's going down? Luckly they will invite or tell you. If your friends are the ones talking about a party tell them if you can join them the day of the event i am sure they wont turn you down. Other than that when they talk about it join in I think you would enjoy funny things that went down and you can ask questions like who went and casual stuff... You shouldn't feel bad about it things like that happens sometimes ...trust me it happens to me
2007-02-11 07:41:42 · answer #5 · answered by virgoqueen09_kk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do that cause they have poor home training. Sometimes it can be done to annoy you. Most of the time though I think it's just plan carelessness. Try not to let it bother you so much... May I kindly say I hope your not letting these people know that you are insulted.That would be rude and come across as immature. It's nice to be included but it's not required .
Perhaps they are closer to those they invited than they are to you. I would rather be invited to few great parties with close friends than lots of mediocre parties with casual acquittance's.
2007-02-11 11:46:37 · answer #6 · answered by yeah , yeah whatever 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They are rude and inconsiderate people, why would you want to be at a party they are at anyway. The fact that it bothers you just shows what a soft and tender person you are.I would rather spend my time watching a good movie and cooking some really good food and hanging with a close friend or even by myself. Don't feel left out, feel proud to not be associated with such mean people.You can do better, and will.
2007-02-11 07:44:57 · answer #7 · answered by chica 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My son is 5 and in kindergarten -- his classmates did this to him recently. I couldn't believe this drama began so soon. I don't know why it doesn't end either...and I really didn't know what to tell my son to console him...I wanted to tell him the next time to tell the kid "That's okay, I understand. Your parents are too poor to afford a party large enough for all of us. Food stamps couldn't buy enough cake...not a problem. Enjoy!!" But I didn't.
What I did do is reassure my son that he is the best, everyone loves him. He needs to rise above. If he doesn't acknowledge how uncouth the person is being he isn't giving them the power they were seeking. Simply say, "I am glad you had a good time" and move on change the subject.
2007-02-11 08:02:21 · answer #8 · answered by Marjery B 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
People like that are inconsiderate and rude. They are all over and no matter much we hate it we cant change them or fix them. They are who they are. What we have to do is deal with how we react to it. Sometimes it is best to say "well I will let you two finish your planning" and walk away. You have then let it be known that they were talking about it in front of an uninvited person and also excused yourself from listening to their plans. Try not to be hurt more than likely they do it to most everybody not just you. It's their problem not yours.
2007-02-11 07:41:12 · answer #9 · answered by Petra 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i hate it when people do that. most people talk about parties in front of other people to make them feel jealous. it works. but people that do that are just low and if they start doing that to you, just start talking about something you did that was really fun, and you should say, you should come next time, then that person might invite to the next party. it worked for me!
2007-02-11 07:39:06 · answer #10 · answered by rutzs 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋