I have been confused as to what my problem is. I used to want a girlfriend, but now I don't. I kind of stopped wanting one after last year. Last year, I got rejected when one of my friends asked some girl out for me that I didn't even tell them to. I got rejected, as I expected, and I was furious at my friends because they embarrassed me bigtime. I gave up looking for a girl after that, because I decided that it wasn't really worth my time, and maybe I'm not that attractive. Now, I get bitter when I hear anything about romance. I don't know if it's because I am somewhat jealous, because I don't want to be. I am thinking about joining the military, as I have always wanted to be in the military. I consider myself a soldier, because I am tough and unemotional. I guess you could say I am just not too romantic, not that I want to be romantic. I just could not fanthom the idea of giving a girl flowers or making out with a girl in front of everyone. I am afraid to show love, I guess.
2007-02-11 07:10:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is it because I'm 15?
2007-02-11 07:10:43 · update #1
Give it time and try again!
2007-02-11 07:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by Celeste P 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you got rejected because you didnt ask the girl yourself. You got to get the confidence to where you can go up to the girl yourself and ask her if she wants to be your girlfriend. I really couldnt tell you why you get upset everytime you see or hear anything about romance. That is just on you. You should join the military, but dont think that there is no emotion in the military. That is a big part of the military. I am in the military myself, and I see people get upset all the time because they cannot be with their family or whatever. Your age has nothing to do with it either. You are still young, and you are gonna get turned down plenty of times, but it just means that there is somebody else in the world more suitable for you.
2007-02-11 15:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by traveling_soldier6784 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're just a kid. It sounds like the millitary would be great for you if you don't get killed. Girls that chase millitary guys usually come from millitary families and know what they are getting themselves into.
Also, the millitary will give you volumes of self-confidence for asking out the girls you are interested in and you won't be nearly as dissappointed when you get rejected. The millitary will teach you what most men take a lifetime to learn. Just because a woman turns you down does not mean that all other women feel the same way. People are different and want different things out of life.
As for the not giving girls flowers, I worked with a 60 year old woman that had a husband like you. She resented the fact that he never showed her any love or affection, never bought her gifts, but she would fall to pieces every time his health came into question. She loved him with all her heart, mind, body, and soul and has for over 40 years.
There is definitely someone out there who will accept you for who you are and how you behave towards them.
2007-02-11 15:19:49 · answer #3 · answered by ExperienceD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rejection is a big factor in giving up on the opposite sex and that is okay, because it will eventually come back to you. When we are young and rejected we tend to give up on things. I will tell you this, my husband was the same way he was so let down by girls that by the time he 28 years old other people thought he hated women. He just felt like,( why bother) with them it was not that important to him. but then when we met he was 29 and I really liked him I find him better looking than most men. and he is very funny. You do not have to look for a relationship, it will find you when the time is right.
2007-02-11 15:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by Mary B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 15 and that is too young for love or the military. Give yourself time to grow up some. That you don't want to make out in front of everyone shows you to be mature. Making out is not a public event. Just enjoy being 15. You are fine.
2007-02-11 15:16:34 · answer #5 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just still in a state over the rejections.(which is normal whether it was unsolicited or not. You are still young and there really isn't any rush for you to get a girlfriend and all the drama.
Bottom line: Concentrate on your education and your future it will all fall in place sooner or later don't rush yourself into something that you are not ready to digest.
2007-02-11 15:25:48 · answer #6 · answered by calmlikeatimebomb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey at least finish high school and then college so then you can figure out what is your problem by then you alread have done some good staff for you life. Right now like every young guy have issues that everyone at that age have...And sometimes is hard to deal with and get you angry about it right now you are too young to worry about gals and rejections...
2007-02-11 15:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..it could be your age..you are still very young and you have so much going for you such as school and the military...i think u should just focus on yourself and keep a positive attitude about life..let go of any anger that u have about past experiences...itll happen for u, just be patient and live ur life with everything u have
2007-02-11 15:17:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely at your age you have other more important priorities in life, you have so much time to get involved with women, there really is no rush, it will all fall into place when the time is right.
2007-02-11 15:15:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are hiding from the world of dating.
You need to get out there and just do it.
Don't hide because your friends asked someone for you. If you hide out you will miss out on a lot of things.
2007-02-11 15:15:24 · answer #10 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude... u fear too much... how would u be a soldier when u get scared of rejected by a gurl.. come on dude.. that's the last thing to be afraid of..come on .. there are many other things scarier..
2007-02-11 15:18:49 · answer #11 · answered by ramzi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋