Kind off seeing an ex it all got a bit serious but then he freaked out coz of commiment issues. We are kinda seeing each other on a relaxed basis but i do like him alot. I picked up a valentines card for him but im unsure now whether to send it or not. It's not lovey dovey card. Dont want to freak him out but do want him to know that i like him. What do you think???
2007-02-11 07:08:28 · 16 answers · asked by kim t 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DON'T DO IT! He definitely doesn't need to know how you feel. If he knows how you feel then he will be reassured that he has you where he wants you without giving you any commitment so will have no incentive to give you more than you have now.
Contrary to what others have told you, you have everything to lose by sending it. You will lose face, dignity, and potentially him by sending this card and placing all your cards on the table like this.
Ask yourself why you want to send it. I doubt you're doing it because you think he needs reassurance that you have feelings for him. So what is the response you're hoping for? Are you likely to get it? If he does respond in a positive way, how will you know if it's genuine or if he's just reciprocating because he thinks it's what you want to hear?
If a guy genuinely likes you then there will not be any such commitment issues.
However, if he is sticking with you whilst he is secrety keeping himself open to a better offer if it arises, then he will tell you he fears commitment.
Never push a guy for commitment, never make the first move in terms of love of commitment, and leave an air of mystery so he's left wondering if he really has you or if he might lose you at any point. If he's preoccupied with these thoughts he'll be to busy to worry about 'commitment issues' or looking out for someone else.
It's that age-old adage of wanting what you can't or don't have. If he's got you and knows he won't lose you, he won't appreciate you. If he's unsure and has to work for it, then you have his interest.
You don't have to take my word for it though.
Read Why Men Love Btches by Sherry Argov. It's a brilliant, blunt and honest book that's humourous in places but will give you the message loud and clear.
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2007-02-11 23:38:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a phrase that states . . . " When doubt . . . don't ". If you are uncertain as to how he will respond to receiving a valentine's card since you are seeing him on a relaxed basis. You know him better than we do...you said it might ' freak him out ' . . . Then don't send it. The larger picture of coming to know each other in a more closer sense is more important than one card on Valentines Day. Give the relationship space to see what happens. Especially with guys. . . they need their space in coming to know a girl...they don't like getting all ' freaked out ' when a girl gets too close too soon.
2007-02-11 07:14:36 · answer #2 · answered by onelight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 14:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT! Trust me, I'm a guy. No man will tell you this upfront but I'll let you into a little secret.
Not knowing if a gal likes you is far more intriguing and attractive than her putting all her cards on the table. However, knowing she's got a cupids arrow with your name in scares the hell out of us and will have us running for the hills in no time!
2007-02-11 07:12:22 · answer #4 · answered by Carlos Fong 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think you should send it to make your feelings clear, why would you have started seeing each other again if HE was freaked out. if you like him that much you have to let him know to avoid loosing the man you love for a second time. go for it girl!!! you only live once. good luck and go with your heart.
2007-02-11 07:14:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should send it.
but personally,, i think its your decision so you could decide, otherwise you just cant follow what the others say and then say "im gonna kill those ppl @ yahoo answers"" lolz.. :P
so,, follow your heart..
otherwise send it because this chance comes only once a year.. now or never.. before he bcomz someone else's you better take him..
2007-02-11 07:15:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No harm in sending it as long as you don't think it will definitely lead to something.
2007-02-11 07:12:03 · answer #7 · answered by Christopher M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its a sexy card...send it. if it seems like he only wants you for a bit fun, then give him a taste of his own medicine. see him on your terms.
2007-02-11 07:13:59 · answer #8 · answered by William M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as it isn't too soppy then send it... it might be the push he needs for your relationship to go up a gear!
2007-02-11 07:44:51 · answer #9 · answered by ATP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send it...and see what happends
2007-02-11 07:11:50 · answer #10 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋