Weird to put a marriage on limbo to see if we werent meant for eachother? (For a 19/18 yo couple)?

Question

Me and my girlfriend have somewhat decided that even though we love eachother and all that we need to hold off on marriage until we get through college, and settled with good jobs and all that.

All good reasons.

But also the reason of, the fact that for both of us, we were eachother's first loves. So we want to be sure that we are meant to be together before we get married. We still hold a very loving relationship (though long distance since she had to move back to her mom's to help out and because she wasnt ready to be going to college seperated from her family.) and call eachother often. But we just look around making other friends and seeing if we find someone that would be more suitable. Till we do we are both in college and working.

We also promised to not have sex with anyone unless eachother(if we aren't dating anyone) or after marriage. So at least if we do get married we wont have to feel bad in that department.

Is this sort of relationship ok?

Also she seems more towards staying faithful until after I marry someone else or she finds a perfect man for herself and has permission from me.

Answer 1

Go for it!

Answer 2

You are on the right track. College changes people dramatically. Long distance relationships are hard for very simple reasons. You're npt near each other and don't get to interact. You ARE near other people and do interact with them. During the years of your life that you are in college you do a lot of maturing and you may find out that you want different things out of life than you did before you went to school.
I see no problem in trying to make the relationship last, but if it starts to get at all rocky then it is probably due to one of you starting to have second thoughts or thoughts about someone new. In this case it is best to go to the old stand-bye of "If you love something, let it go. If it comes back then it was meant to be." I know this may sound painful, but yours is not a new situation. It's as old as world travel.

Answer 3

Getting married young is DIFFICULT! And especially when it is your first love! Not that it couldn't last, but it's hard because there is so much you haven't experienced in life. You never know and you may have regrets later on. I think it's very wise to put it off for a while! I think that you two should stay strictly friends and see what else you want to experience without feeling guilty about the other person. Good decision!

Answer 4

Isabella, Marriage isn't what what ruins a couples love for the different. Marriage is something that couples bypass right into a million/2 a*s some situations. human beings do no longer think of it by using or get the actual meaning of marriage! you're able to understand which you have chanced on the guy you wan to spend something of your existence with. to stand by using by using each thing and not purely throw in the towel while issues get tough! Marriage has no longer something to do with a couples problems! issues could worsen for a pair as quickly as they are married yet they problem did no longer come from the marriage.

Answer 5

It sounds very smart. It sounds like you are really thinking, and trying to do what's best for the two of you. However, you don't need anyone's approval. It's YOUR relationship, and the only people it needs to be ok with are the two of you.

Answer 6

Believe me, if she finds the perfect man, she won't wait of your permission.

Young love is hard, and dating other people will make you feel better about making the right decision.

Answer 7

It sounds like it is going to be a hard road but, You can make it work if you want to.
Good Luck

Answer 8

You should not get married that young. You definitely should wait until you are done with college.

Answer 9

ur just lucky that ur first love happens to be a true love

Answer 10

it's too early