What are the rules for Lutheran/Catholic Weddings?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been disciussing getting married. He has no preference about which religion the ceremony is performed in, however, he would like to get married in a Catholic church. But I'm Lutheran and really have no intent of converting to the Catholic religion. He thinks that the priests would let us 'rent' the church and I can have my pastor marry us, but I am pretty sure that to be married in a Catholic church I must become a Catholic. Please end the debate.

Answer 1

Of course you don't have to become Catholic.
But you can't just "rent" the Church either/
To get married in a Catholic Church You must:
1) Have a Catholic Ceremony
2) Attend Pre-Canna classes (pre-marriage class, about 6 hours) or EE (1 whole weekend )
3) Promise to be open to children & raise them Catholic
4) One of you has to be a confirmed Catholic
5) The wedding should take place where one of you is a registered parishoner

Answer 2

I don't know of a Catholic church that would let you do a Lutheran wedding ceremony in their chapel. Also it is usually better if the a couple share the same ideas and practices. Since you sound very stuck on the Lutheran ceremony and he doesn't are as much, why don't you try and talk him into a Lutheran church? He may want to go Catholic just because their cathedrals look pretty cool.

Answer 3

This does depend upon the parish/diocese - I'm talking from the Catholic side of things. You do not have to become Catholic to be married in the Catholic church, HOWEVER, you must attend pre-marital classes, and agree to raise your children in the Catholic faith.
Some priests also do "mixed" weddings, where they will concelebrate the wedding with a minister from another faith. You have to check with your bf's parish priest to see if he does this.

Answer 4

Go to city hall, why would you even want to get married in a church that would place any type of restriction on who or how you can marry or raise your children. Church is about God, not the laws or rules of some man made crap to make you think that he is closer to God then you are. don't make little boys go to a Catholic church, how anyone can even feel anything for the Catholic church is beyond me.

Answer 5

You don't have to become Catholic, but they will require you to agree to your children being raised in the Catholic faith. That would be a problem for me as a Lutheran because I don't believe their teachings about the Pope and praying to Mary, etc.
I was married to a different religion and it is tougher than staying in your own faith, I would think long and hard before I did this.

Answer 6

The Catholic Church allows marriage between Catholics and non-Catholics. You do not have to convert.

Because the Church recognizes the tremendous challenge that the interfaith couple will face, they may have to get permission from the bishop.

I do not know the rules for Lutherans.

With love in Christ.

Answer 7

Each church has rules as far as how wedding ceremonies may be conducted in their church.

But I think you are referring to dealing with the different doctrines. Might be better if you talk with the priest/officiator.

Answer 8

No, you would be fine. Many brides and grooms send invitations to people in serious relationships only -- some cut off at engaged or living together even if they know someone has been dating a person for a while. For all these people of course you would address them by name. For unmarried but serious couples: Ms. Chelsea Ann Smith Mr. Robert Lee Jones For childless marrieds: Mr. and Mrs. Robert Lee Jones For families: Mr. and Mrs. Robert Jones and family or Mr. and Mrs. Robert Jones Lucy, Linus and Rerun For singles without a guest, simply Ms. Chelsea Ann Smith

Answer 9

The same as any other wedding

Answer 10

No rules.....