I've dated this girl for 3 weeks. We met online (Match). On first meeting, I felt she wasn't into me and thought "oh well." SHE contacted me and we later went on a 2nd date, dinner. We stayed at the restaurant til closing and then walked around the city and talked until 2am, when we shared one kiss and went home. Since then, we've spent time together about every other day and have even "stayed over" at each other's place a couple times (no sex, just "rounding 3rd"). I was starting to feel like I could date this girl exclusively. Well, we've talked and she's said she's not ready for that. She's said, to quote "I KNOW you're a good catch.... I like spending time with you. I want that to continue." Also "you're the only guy I have dated" ("have dated"/operative?). She's still on Match. I'm thinking she's caught a pretty nice fish, but game warden's only going to let her keep one. Is she keeping me on the boat for now and waiting to see if she can catch a bigger fish?
2007-02-11 07:00:05 · 6 answers · asked by Christopher M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This answer is a variation of Frank Sinatra's somewhat cynical statement, "Treat a lady like a tramp and a tramp like a lady." It's one of those things where you have to do the opposite to hook the fish.
Like George Constanza and his infamous dissertation on who's got "hand" (short for the "upper hand") in the relationship, you blinked too soon. Now she's got the "upper hand" in the relationship because you've shown you're more into her than she is into you.
Now, you just have to play it cool. Don't bring up the committment issue again. Be patient, have fun, and act like you don't have a care in the world (or like the guy in Fast Times at Ridgemont High said to Mark Ratner, you got to have "the attitude"). Good luck.
2007-02-11 07:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by JD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FACT: When not being married in the typical "dating" world, you're always looking for a bigger fish! Most people won't, but the majority do.
Things aren't exclusive with you and her so why does it matter if she's still on match? Until you are exclusive then, I'd worry about it!
2007-02-11 15:04:10 · answer #2 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. You could find out for sure by asking her to commit or cut it off. The fact that she's still on Match means that she is definitely still in the game. It's kind of lame, but at least you're aware of it!
2007-02-11 15:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by Julie K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has only been three weeks. You should continue to look too. Those services are expensive! She probably just wants her money's worth. Seriously, don't get wrapped up too quickly. Love takes time. Matches just help you find people who are supposed to be compatible. It takes time to see if this is really so.
2007-02-11 15:04:46 · answer #4 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go she's still looking at the picture!
2007-02-11 15:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by Celeste P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most women will trade you in when they find someone better for them
2007-02-11 15:03:37 · answer #6 · answered by Mickirs 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋