i jst started dating this guy 2 wks ago and when he txts me he is so sweet and tell me he is so hpy he is with me nd he said he luvd me, but not that in luv stuff jst stronger than like. Well when we go out on dates he always gives me a guilt trip on how im not going to pay, he says things like "O so i guess im paying for you?" but to try nd save me the embarassing ? i payed for our dinner nd i told him im sry for the movie cuz i only had 7 $ left nd i asked him if he wanted it nd he jst took it gladly. But hes always trying to have sex, like hes addictd or sumthing. And he will only b affectionate when he wants to. Ive tried to kiss him b4 wen i wntd to nd he moves away or says not here. i say im sry nd walk away then hell hug me nd say hes sry. hell pull away wen i try to hug him or stuff. But when he txts me hes like i wanna hold u nd stuff.he got mad the other night at a dance nd wntd to hurt my friend.wen he gets mad he hits things he has a bad temper.should i give him a chance
2007-02-11 06:55:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Personally I wouldn't give him a chance.
He's cheap, controlling and has shown signs of violence.
I would place money on the fact that he will eventually hit you.
You sound like the kind of girl who will go for this type of man whatever any one says, but just be careful.
If he's being this pigheaded this early on, think about how he'll be in a years time when he doesn't have to 'impress' you or hold back on his true self.
Wouldn't you much rather have a guy who is happy to treat you, but will graciously accept money if you offer?
It can;t be fun to always feel guilty, like you've done something wrong when you haven't.
And lack of affection is never fun, he has to compromise, he can;t only hug you when HE feels like it.
There are big red warning signs all over this guy - but more often than not girls will choose the a**hole rather than the nice guy.
2007-02-11 07:12:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where in the world did you hook up with this loser ???? He takes the only money you have left, he doesn't want to be hugged or kissed but he does want sex, and he hits people and things. Come on, you know this guy is nothing but trouble .
2007-02-11 15:02:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a user and bad news in general. You need him like you need a toothache. Dump him now.
And you should NOT be having sex with someone you've only dated for 2 weeks. Where is your self respect?
2007-02-11 15:00:41 · answer #3 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with him.... now! itll just get worse as time goes on and hes using the paying thing to make you feel guilty into having sex with him. he likes sex cause most guys control in the bed, and he likes to control stuff...
2007-02-11 15:02:12 · answer #4 · answered by the one n only - me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg wow... controlling! do youself a favor and get away from him ASAP ok? you already know he has a temper... what if he got mad soe day and there was nothing else to hit but you?
2007-02-11 15:01:08 · answer #5 · answered by Doz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men always try to have sex, i would find someone else, there is someone out there for ya.
2007-02-11 15:01:16 · answer #6 · answered by hydendesigns 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has a space issue.
He doesn't like to be close to people and doesn't want people touching him.
By what you said I think it would be best to move on
2007-02-11 15:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who taught you how to spell, no one I'm betting.
2007-02-11 14:59:09 · answer #8 · answered by brp_13 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him.
2007-02-11 15:09:49 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Nightcall 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋