I just started dating this guy, and he's the best I've ever dated. He's really good-looking, he's funny, sweet, and really protective; he's pretty much perfect. But I'm wondering if he's too good for me, and I think he deserves better. I keep expecting him to tell me he was joking when he confessed his feelings for me, even though he's not that kind of guy. I don't know how to shut my head up. Help?
2007-02-11 06:51:56 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hard to answer. but you should talk to someone to help you sort this out. there is no easy answer, but i can tell you from personal experience that if you do not get your insecurities under control, it can become a self-fulfiling prophecy. i once dated a girl who felt this way. it started great, and i did care for her, but eventually, her inability to trust me that i wanted her became an unreconcilable issue.
don't worry about if you are "good enough" if he loves you and wants to be with you, just be happy that he is. it sounds like you are waiting for the other shoe to drop, and if yo keep that attitude, it will.
2007-02-11 07:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by foo__dd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In any relationship their is no half way you always have to do 100% of the work. Never forget that.
Communication is the most important part of any relationship period.
You need to get something clear right now. Any time you have those voices in your head you need to talk to him and find out. Communicate communicate communicate.
Learn how to just enjoy your self with him just have fun and keep things lite. Learn to make any encounter with him lasting and enjoyable learn to make him associate having fun and enjoying life with immages and feelings of you.
"Do not spend time arguing with him or your self about the past it has already happend, instead deal with the now as soon as possible and always move foreward always. I find this is the best way to lead my relationship"
Hope this helps,have fun being you and he will have fun with you.
2007-02-11 16:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by renzbenton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u r juz insecure.... gurls feel that way all the time in a relationship....well my advice is to juz not take it too sriously i mean, juz dont think that it's gonna be the end of the world if this relationship fails.. It doesnt mean u are being pessimistic.. when u have less pressure on the relationship, then it's easier not to have those kind of feelings.. visit this site... go to the relationship section... http://www.tipsforsuccess.org/...hope this help...
2007-02-11 15:00:58 · answer #3 · answered by ramzi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah ... all I can say is that good guys don't pick bad girls most of the time. If he wants to be with you there is a reason, let the relationship play it's course and if it's not meant to be then it isn't but if you just have fun and enjoy his company the time with him will be even better!
2007-02-11 14:56:02 · answer #4 · answered by ~Les~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop it!!!!!! You are just scared to get hurt, ten to one he is as well. Enjoy each other & you know, let's say you do part way's one day: Do you really want to think back on the relationship and see that you never enjoyed it all to the fullest while it lasted? Forget your insecurities and lavish on every moment u have together.
2007-02-11 15:01:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm maybe ur afraid that he's too good for u and u keep on telling him or urself that and later he ends up cheating on u cuz of all this....oh man ive been in this kind of situation before except its a gurl so yea...well u juss gotta get over think that and be happy that he's wit u and not anyone else
2007-02-11 14:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by jimmy N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really protective will turn into a jealous rage soon enough, and then he won't be so perfect. Then you won't have to worry about whether he is too good for you.
Why is it you feel he is too good for you?
Are you a weirdo?
Work on fixing yourself if you are not happy with yourself.
Don't look to a man to weigh your own worth.
2007-02-11 14:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by cop350zx 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to have more self confidantes in yourself and don't put him on top of a pedestal just yet people are always on the best behavior when first dating ! enjoy yourself and dont over think things
2007-02-11 15:01:30 · answer #8 · answered by ken m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have same problem sometimes. just get that out of your head and enjoy what you have. stop thinking he deserves better cuz you are better if he chooses to be with you .. stop looking for the worse.
2007-02-11 14:55:51 · answer #9 · answered by alpatmcg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be something wrong with you and you dont want him to know. The thing is you must not know what it is. If he has not broken up with you then dont worry about it! Good Luck and Happy Valentines Day!!!!
2007-02-11 14:54:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋