how do you appear confident?

Answer 1

agree with everything kmv wrote, and would add one thing:

don't be worrying all the time about what others think. confidence comes from knowing you're fine the way you are, so act that way. stand up for your own views, whether popular or not, and don't waste too much time trying to "fit in" with other viewpoints. it comes across as needy instead of confident, uncertain instead of assured.

Answer 2

You fake it, and you practice in a wide variety of situations in which you are not confident. Dress appropriately. Watch the pitch of your voice (don't want to be squeaky with anxiety) and how fast you talk. Most people speed up when they are nervous. Watch for annoying little nervous habits, like clicking a pen repeatedly, rocking back and forth, etc. Look people in the eye. If you are giving a talk, look at one person for like 10 seconds, then pick another person out. If you're in a small group, like an interview, look at one person for awhile, then another.

My teachers in elementary school thought I was mentally retarded because I had such poor social skills, and to deal with that, I joined theater in junior high, and debate and speech clubs in high school. I also did confidence builders like winter camp outs at 20 below zero, and confidence builders help a lot!! I was a lector at my large catholic church. TA'd in graduate school. You just have to force yourself, and you'll look more confident (even if you don't feel that way.) Now that I'm in my 40's, I really am more confident, finally!! But you can fake it until you grow into your own. Faking it comes a lot quicker than actually BEING confident-that is a long-term project!! Toastmasters might help you-if you can give a speech in front of a group of people, you've got small groups and one on one licked!!

PS harley girl's got it right on the handshake. Don't give a dead fish handshake!!! Ugh!!

Answer 3

By taking books out of the library on self-confidence, self-esteem, and positive affirmations.

Meditation
Enough sleep
Eating right
Enough fresh air and exercise

Answer 4

SMILE
Look people in the eye
Shake hands firmly (but don't crush the other person's hand!)
and DON'T mutter - make sure your voice can be clearly heard (practice in front of a mirror, if you need to).

Answer 5

Hold your head high, look people in the eye, stand tall (good posture), be focused on who you are dealing with. Just a few to start with.

Answer 6

appear confident by being confident. dress nice, look nice, eye contact and just know you are the mutha fukkin bomb.