When something makes me angry, I feel feel a sudden surge through my body. It takes me a long time for this feeling to go away. Sometimes it stays for two or three hours. I feel pressure through my body and especially in my head. After it all passes, I feel normal again. But it seems to take me much longer than necessary to calm down. I tend to be emotionally cold and avoid conversations during this time because I don't want to get into an argument or hurt anyone's feelings. But I have a hard time functioning while I feel this way. I just sort of shut down until it passes. Things that typically set it off are bad fights between my boys or controlling behavior from my husband. I think these feelings are normal, but not how long they last.
What can I do. I live overseas, and I have not been able to find a psychologist who speaks English well enough.
Any ideas on how I can come out of this state of mind more quickly?
2007-02-11 06:14:36 · 15 answers · asked by ifyousaysooooooooooo 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
breathing is always the first step, and I suggest listening to music and finding something creative to do to focus the negative energy into positive
2007-02-11 08:48:42 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't beat yourself up over this. I would feel the same way as you if I'd lost my phone, because I rarely ever lose things. May it comfort you to know that people lose their cell phones all the time. I don't know who would want anyone else's phone, because I sure wouldn't. Not all people are honest & would return it like you & me. Do you have insurance on it that guards against loss or theft? I know you're upset but it's over & done with, so try to calm down. The person may get in touch with you yet. With the service cancelled, the phone is now worthless. In the future, maybe you could get a case for it & keep it clipped on your belt. Just a suggestion.
2016-03-29 02:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
the five-step approach to managing anger:
Tune in to your feelings:Start by noticing what you're angry about and why. Put into words what’s making you upset so you can act rather than react.
Stop and think.
Consider your option:This is where you think about what is likely to result from each of the different reactions you came up with.
Make a decision:This is where you take action by choosing one of the three things you could do.
Check your progress. After you’ve acted and the situation is over, spend some time thinking about how it went.
I hope that help you.
2007-02-11 06:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by Dejla 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well since you are oversea, that may be a problem.. I have found though when a wife has this problem, and gets this angry, it is not usually cause of the kids. It is cause the husband is putting to much pressure on her, and thus in turn she ends up taking it out on the kids, but first you have to realize that this is happening , before you can do somethig about it. The kids will be kids, an we need to remember when we were kids, and quit often that helps. Now as for husbands, they have a way of turning everything that is going wrong in the family and their life on the woman, and so he takes it out on you,,you need to not take his guilt trips, and let him know that you are tried of his guilt trips, and that you have realized that it is effecting your relationship with your sons. You both need to set down and talk, and yes i know at time that is really hard to do. But you do not want to stay this way, and i know it is getting to you too. You can only take so much of it. Tell him maybe you two need marriage counseling on the base that he is on, cause they should speak english there. But this does need to be dealt with, cause there are fair fight rules, for anyone that is having a fight or agreement, and one of them is not putting things into words that you are always blaming the other person. So i would really set down and take to him about what is going on, and try not to be all the blame on him. But this can become really more serious then it is, and you really do not need that neither. You both need to speak freely to each other about how the day went, with out blameing each other. It is a hard thig, but it can be done. The catch here is both partys have to agree to do this, and have to really want to resolve the problems that are going on in your life. You are going to need to learn to relax,and let things go, no matter how much they bother you, and that is not easy neither. Otherwise you are going to keep that anger problem of yours going full strenght, and even get worse. If you need to go out for a while, and just go and be alone, or visit someone you have meant there since you have moved overseas. But yes you do have an arger problem that is going to have to be delt with, and you need to know where that anger is coming from, that will be the first steps of getting it under control. I really do not believe there are quick and easy ways to just stop this, it is just plain ole fashion hard work, and he needs to be in on this too , without throwning all of the blame at you.
2007-02-11 07:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by Ladyofathousandfaces 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try to workout a bit it will improve your mood and it will make you feel happy, when you are feeling angry go out and take a walk, try to talk about it when you are feeling better. Look for a psicologist in the English Newspaper(they have it everywhere) try to find it online. Good luck
2007-02-11 06:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by lissy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you can try to talk it out with the person with whom you are mad. some people you can, others you cant. you can try to get it out by listening to music, taking deep breaths, drawing, writing, etc.
you can also try to release the annger by getting some exercise. go for a walk, play with a pet, do some jumping jacks or something like that.
2007-02-11 06:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by Adam 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
learn anger management. you can find articles on line.
BREATH...take some deep breaths and try to stay focused on staying calm...don't give into the surges for anger.
2007-02-11 06:24:53 · answer #7 · answered by katalah 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your not the only one.
There are Anger Management courses.
Ask your doctor if your clinic offers them.
..I did a search and there ARE courses online.
2007-02-11 06:30:03 · answer #8 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Count to 10.
Do something you enjoy.
Walk away for a few moments.
Go to the bathroom and let the sink water run.....relaxes me.
Read......something..anything to get your mind free of the anger.
Exercise.....
Sleep..if needed
2007-02-11 06:21:13 · answer #9 · answered by Captain Tomak 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
set if you are standing, drink water, and exercise deep breath for 5 minutes
2007-02-11 07:08:32 · answer #10 · answered by thinkingstrange 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋