I started dating him almost 8 months ago, I like him and I think he is a good guy, but he is moving too fast. He is making plans for the future and he is always hanging around at my house. He wants to be useful and help me but I'm very independent and need my space. I don't want to hurt his feelings and I don't know how to tell him to slow down.
2007-02-11 06:09:11 · 4 answers · asked by Susu 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well it seems like he might have stronger feelings than what you have for him. It's a very good thing that your independent but in order to have a relationship (long-term) then you should want to be around the person every second of the day but at the same time it's good to go and hangout with friends then met up with each other after to talk about how great your night was, how much yall missed each other and so on. If you really don't like him hanging around so much then just tell him look it's not that i don't like to be around you, but sometimes i need my space. The whole him makeing plans for the further, well I'm sorry but you have a really good guy that is showing you that he loves you cause no guy is going to talk about the futher if they don't really think you the one for them. You shouldn't want to take the chance of loose him by not wanting him aorund all the time. There are so many girls out there that would die to have a guy like yours, so I would think about it before you actually make up your mind cause you might just run him off. You might hurt his feelings and make him think that you don't love him, take my word for it.... when somome makes you feel that way it stayes with you for a life time. But hope you choose the right choice and good luck with yall.
2007-02-11 06:25:24 · answer #1 · answered by Elizabeth C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly what you wrote. "I like you and I think you are a good guy, but you are moving too fast. I know you want to be useful and help me but I'm very independent and need my space. I don't want to hurt your feelings, but in order to make this relationship last, please slow down."
2007-02-11 06:13:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is best you come out and tell him how you feel exactly than to hold back, despite the fact you might hurt his feelings. If you are some one that have been hurt in some previous relationship; you owe it to your self to be prudent and not let it happen to you again.
2007-02-11 06:30:23 · answer #3 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you just said! That is how you truely feel and he needs to know that. Just let him know that you guys have nothing but time and there is no need to rush into anything
2007-02-11 06:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by Heath B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋