I am 31 years old and I have never had a boyfriend? Sometimes i feel like a complete freak.?

Question

But I would rather wait for the right man than the wrong one..
Any advice?

Answer 1

you really need to go out more and meet new people. you can't wait around for the right guy, sometimes you just have to go out and find him yourself.

Answer 2

I would say, to find the 'right man', you need to be out there dating so you can find out if he's the right man in the first place!

Think where you could go that really interests you, then you can meet like minded people.

You are not a complete freak....honestly there are thousands and thousands of people in your situation.

How about trying a singles holiday ...doesn't have to a a beach holiday...there are loads of interest holidays...this is where my sister-in -law met her boyfriend! You will all be single so you'll have that in common for a start!

Take up classes in something that interests you, try to choose a course that is not all female orientated.

Once you get the opportunity, don't let it slip through your hands. Smile and relax as this will make you seem approachable. And don't forget there is absolutely nothing wrong with making the first move. If you are worried about rejection....you are normal...everyone is! Just go for it,even if it's just to suggest going for a coffee.

Waiting Will lessen your chances greatly...you realise this. Now you need to be brave and put that plan into action. I always say, if you want something then MAKE it happen!

Best wishes.

Answer 3

sweet heart, I'm not being rude or anything, but if u think like that you'll never have a boyfriend. reason being, there is no such thing at "the right man", i mean in every man or anyone for that matter, there is bound to be something about them that you don't particular like but that don't mean they are "the wrong one", its just the way things is, as in any relationship, either intimate or non intimate, one have to put up with thing from each other and basically sacrifice things. but i guess the point I'm try to make is that its better to try and experience thing rather then just making assumptions, and yes thing might not be exactly what you imagine, but hay, that's like and u keep trying until you feel at home.as saying that, deep down you must know what you want and its completely up to you so if you decide that you don't want a man, fair enough, but don't ever think that you're a freak! good luck and hope this helps.

Answer 4

You're not a freak! Have you tried joining night classes, book groups - ie groups where you all share an interest? I would suggest you concentrated on just making friends. Then that gives room for things to grow if they will. And if not at least you've made a good friend. And had fun doing something you enjoy with others who enjoy that thing too.

Also you could try a dating agency. It's v fashionable right now, perfect for the busy man or woman! Just going on dates is a great ego-boost. Even if at initial glance you think the person is "wrong" for you, its a good way to practice social skills, revel in attention and at the end of it all you may get a pleasant suprise!

Good luck finding Mr Right - decide to make it a fun experience and enjoy!

Answer 5

GO OUT WITH SOME MEN!! Waiting for the right one is all well and good, but you don't need to marry the first man you go out with!! Going on some dates, getting some kissing experience (at least), just getting a feel for the whole relationship/romance thing will do nothing but good. You'll be more confident with how to deal with such situations, you'll be able to learn what men find attractive, what you're looking for in man, that sort of thing.
And, without putting too fine a point on it - you could end up waiting forever for Mr. Right. There's no guarantee that he's out there or that you'll meet him. YOU HAVE TO BE PRO-ACTIVE. Go out more, meet people, go to speed-dating nights or whatever, all the stuff they say in the magazines about starting a new hobby or taking a class- all of that, do it! Not only may you have fun (and you can always do something and never do it again if you don't like it) but you may meet Mr. Right along the way. Unfortunately perfect partners aren't very good at turning up on your doorstep and statistically, sorry, the chances of you meeting someone decreases and decreases with age.
As a final point I don't think a lot of men would like a woman with no romantic experience. It'd be a lot of pressure on the guy, he'd be wondering what you expected from him, and he'd also wonder if there was a reason why you'd never been out with someone other than the fact you're waiting. Personally I would never go out with a guy with no relationship experience. My last relationship was with a 26 year old with very limited relationship experience and it was a disaster, he didn't get a whole load of things. I'd never do it again!
So please, get out, meet some men, enjoy yourself, keep your standards and don't get into something serious that you know isn't right, but don't hold loads of expectations, men can surprise you.

Answer 6

Keep waiting until you find the right one !! You're not a freak at all !! If more people would wait and get to know someone before jumping into bed like they do nowadays the divorce rate wouldnt be so high as it is. God has a match for you out there. Maybe it just isnt quite time for some reason. Keep yuor eye open. You never know when he might appear. Good Luck !!

Answer 7

And I thought not having a boyfriend at fourteen was a big deal! Well, don't worry, you still have time. Go out and have fun. Like go to a bar and just make yourself look good and meet someone! You could always try dating online. I always thought that was gross to do that but if you are thirty and you still haven't found someone then I would do it. Don't be worried about the man not being 'right'. You've gotta go through some people before you find the right one. Besides, if you don't date someone because they might not be right, you will never find the right one.

Answer 8

Firstly you are not a freak so don't think that.
We've all been there waiting for the right person but sometimes you have to make the first move,also no one is perfect so try not to have too high a standard there are plenty of decent people out there but you need to get to know them,by being in their company you don't know the real person until they reveal their good and bad habits then decide if they are the one.

Answer 9

It takes some getting out and getting involved--not hanging out at bars (you'll rarely find anything worthwhile there) but start looking into some high-profile charity events in your area. Even if you aren't a runner or distance cyclist or whatever, you can volunteer to help out in some way. Also, check out universities or theater or symphony groups--wherever people of the type of caliber you're interested in might hang out. By getting involved and focusing on helping someone else or learning about something really interesting, you'd be surprised at the people you meet. Another thing: ask your friends for a frank appraisal of the way you act and the way you look. Is there something about you that might be a turn-off? This is the hardest thing because you can't allow your feelings to be hurt if you want candor. You have to look at it as a way to examine yourself for things you may unconsciously be doing that might push people away from you.

Answer 10

you just haven't found the right guy, like you said. Even though you say you feel like a freak, you said it yourself: you're just waiting for the right guy. Some people, possibly like you, aren't ready for a relationship in some way, so don't worry about it. But, if you do want to get involved, don't just wait. Get out into the real world and actively start going places. Sitting at home won't help you meet people!

Answer 11

I know what you mean. However, I could never get used to the idea "Go out and get yourself a man" as if we're talking about shoes or clothes. For some people, this may work but even though I can see how this could help I can't do it still. I just prefer to wait; if it is meant to be it will be! If not... to h..l with it!