so there is a possibility that im preg...i brought up this possibility with my bf and at first he was excited...then it turned into him saying if i am i should give the baby up for adoption....then he went back to saying how if its a boy he wants to teach it to play baseball or if its a girl how he will be very protective of her...what is up with that??
how do i tell my parents and family if i am?? (im 20 and i dont live at home anymore)
im afraid if i am what his family will think of me....(like if he was with his ex they wouldnt of had a baby yet....)
maybe im over analyzing.....help!!
2007-02-11 05:50:46 · 10 answers · asked by kim 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
my bf is 26 and weve been going out for almost a year and a half
2007-02-11 06:06:28 · update #1
Your boyfriend, like you will have all kinds of emotions for awhile. be prepared to raise the baby on your own if indeed you are pregnant. Before letting the families know, you have to be sure you are pregnant, and even then so many can change during the first 8 weeks especially. See your doctor, wait until the magic 3 month mark then announce to families "The good news", perhaps at Easter, you could surprise them with, "Wouldn't it be wonderful to have (new) grandchild around next Easter?", then let them know it's gonna happen. They may be shocked, or disappointed or even mortified, but they will comforted that you are looking at it positively, and THAT will most likely get a positive response from them. Give them plenty of time to digest it all as well. BTW, how old is your boyfriend and how long have y'all been together?
2007-02-11 06:04:16 · answer #1 · answered by Robin B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, if you are, you are. And congrats on that. If confirmed you are pregnant, and the reality hits- I think your BF will have more definite strong feelings.
Do you have a job? Are you self sufficient and able to pay your own bills? If so, make sure you bring that up to your family when you tell them should they have any qualms. Some parents will accept it as it is, and others may flip out. Don't worry- they will come around :-)
As for you BF's family- make sure you get him on board first before tackling his family. It will be important for him to support you and the the new reality that is you two are about to become you three. This will help when dealing with his family.
Good luck :-)
2007-02-11 05:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find out first if you are truly pregnant then you can what ifs. it takes 2 to make a baby, you may be raising this child alone because the boyfriend sounds very immature, good luck to you if you are pregnant and if you aren't then I hope you know how to prevent this till you are older or at least with a guy that is mature enough to be a father.
2007-02-11 05:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by kissybertha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get the horse before the cart and borrow trouble until you know that you're pregnant (or not). If you ARE pregnant, then you have to look at it as your life and not your parents or his familys. You are not required to live your life to make others happy. Don't worry about other peoples thoughts. Your own feelings are what's important here NOT theirs.
If you are pregnant, be happy! It sounds like your boyfriend would be supportive.
Good luck and don't worry about anything just yet.
2007-02-11 05:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by bluegrass 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u should tell your mum and dad i was in the same place as u a few years ago but i was 16 at the time and it was not as bad as i was thinking it was going to be and when u have the baby it will be the best thing in your life trust me i have 6 now i think they will love the baby good luck
2007-02-11 06:05:39 · answer #5 · answered by jayneu123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are very immature for 20. You don't need mommy and daddy's approval anymore. Have the baby if you even are prego and get BC if you are not because you still have some growing up to do.
2007-02-11 07:16:52 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, take a pregnancy test. you may be worrying over nothing!! good luck ")
2007-02-11 05:55:39 · answer #7 · answered by buff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First find out if your pregnant. Then ask this question again if you are.
2007-02-11 05:56:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure that you are first, there is no need in streesing if you are not. If you are just be straight up and tell them, be honest.
2007-02-11 06:57:19 · answer #9 · answered by Calais 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing is to go down on your knees and pray to God
2007-02-11 06:08:53 · answer #10 · answered by stas v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋