She is eleven and my husband and I think it's time.
2007-02-11 05:49:30 · 11 answers · asked by leila_park_101 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
She's already going to puberty and her period must be real soon so I might need help with that too.
2007-02-11 06:06:40 · update #1
nothing she should find out on her wedding night
2007-02-11 05:52:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
First, read up on it. You can never go wrong with facts. Second, set an appropriate time, and give her the whole scenario, up to and including her period, if she's about to hit puberty. Third, try to be caring about it; don't give her the raw data, as she may not understand it right away.
The most important part is to be supportive. Let her know that you're there for her, if she has questions or problems.
Best of luck to you.
2007-02-11 15:29:43 · answer #2 · answered by knight2001us 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she hasn't asked yet, I would wait a while. When she asks, tell her everything, and tell her so she will understand. Ask her what she does or doesn't know, then tell her true. Don't make things up about the birds and bees. Tell her explicitly about sex, before and after marriage, and the consequences of sex. Don't load her down with myths and folklore. Tell her about pregnancy, childbirth, and menopause. Don't scare her, but let her go into the world informed. I'm sure there are sevral books written to help you with this parental dilema. Good luck to you.
2007-02-11 14:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heck yah. At 11 she should now. My daughter is 7 and I only answer her questions without going into detail. She know about kissing the word 'sex' although she doesn't know what that means in detail. She knows the names for the private parts and that they are indeed 'yours only' to touch. She knows about periods and babies... I just answer her questions. It's no big deal unless you make it one. They ask when they are ready.. but at 11 if she hasn't been curious... I would tell her. I bet someone else already has given her some ideas abotu it
2007-02-11 14:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably want to address the whole "period" thing before she starts having them for that could cause a lot of uneeded stress and worry. So I would say that now would probably be a good time to start informing her of things that are going to be happening to both her and guys as so nothing is a shock or scary.
2007-02-11 13:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by heavy_cow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The education should rather start in school than at home as the subject in question needs a meticulous handling. At school generally pupils learn in a collective environment which keeps them secure in the company of others whereas at home the child generally find himself or herself at odd with their parents mostly because of generation gap. At school the child is free to interact the subject with his or her peers that takes away all the doubts in her or his mind. Let school take precedence over parents at home in this case.
2007-02-11 14:13:20 · answer #6 · answered by ECQC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think children should always have their questions answered honestly, at an age-appropriate level.
At 11, if she hasn't started asking questions yet, it's definitely time for the biological discussion of menstruation and conception. More difficult concepts (STDs, sexual activity, birth control, choosing when to (and when not to) have sex, etc.) can wait a few years.
2007-02-11 17:52:17 · answer #7 · answered by stormsinger1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the basics. like how a baby comes from a sperm and an egg. if your child is mature enough, tell her that a man puts his penis inside a woman's vagina and the sperm and the egg join and grow into a baby. explain that while it is enjoyable, it is something that should remain sacred, and is only for a mature, adult relationship. instill in her a sense of responsibility, and that she should only share something like that with someone that she wants to spend the rest of her life with.
2007-02-11 13:59:13 · answer #8 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter won't find out until she is engaged to her husband. Which will be at 14. However if you think now is the right time than tell her.
2007-02-11 13:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
well at skool they hav the whole video thing. after the video ask her about it. most students recieve a package with deoderent and information. read it with her.
2007-02-11 17:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by air_walk192 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait and she will learn in school. then tell her
2007-02-11 14:01:19 · answer #11 · answered by The Almanster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋