will someone just listen to me?

Question

im 16 years old nearly 17 and i cant cope with anything anymore,
up till the age of 11 my dad used to hit me, it all stopped hes now an alcoholic who refuses to work, my mum works so much and its really hard on us, i do well at school beacuse i work hard, i feel so sad and i cant tell anyone how i feel, everyday he shouts and i feel more relaxed at collage then i do at home, i feel so sad all the time, but i cant show anyone, no one knows how i really feel :(

Answer 1

Colleges usually have free counseling for the students. Find out about it so you have someone you can talk to that can give you ways to deal with it or ideas on how to improve your own situation.

Answer 2

you may want to seek counseling . Anger is a big reason for a lot of family turmoil. If you are able to, get help even if you can find a good mentor it would greatly help your self esteem. Your mother may be burned out trying to do it alone and decicided to give him another chance even though it is not a healthy thing. Your parents could use a lot of counseling but they may not do it. You need to take care of your own needs to keep your sanity. Turn to a trustworthy person not someone who would give false advice or take advantage of your vulnerability. Try to ask around about a trusted counseler at college. Find a good church that is full of acceptance and will help as well maybe a good youth group would help. I grew up in a cold house and it took outside support but I only went to people I knew I could trust. Best wishes

Answer 3

Oh, I think plenty of people know how you feel, or can at least empathize. Check out al-anon, you'll find a lot of love and support for people in your situation.

Talk to a school counselor. I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. Soon you'll be able to go out on your own and make your own life.

Don't give up. You can still cope. All that you've been through has made you stronger than you know. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

Lots of people know how you feel. Doing well at school is awesome. Talking to your guidance counselor or a trusted teacher or relative about your feelings might help. You are allowed to feel sad but you have the choice of how long you want to feel sad. What things help you not to feel sad? Try spending more time doing those things. You are not alone lots of people feel sad about their families problems. You are a smart person, you can find a solution.

Answer 5

very sorry to here you have to live like this, but at least you are almost of age, so just hang in there and put all your energy in your school work, if you want to leave home your going to need to support yourself, and good education is the best way to secure that, I also had a very bad childhood and had to leave home at 15 for reasons I will not go into at this time, so I did not have a proper education, and life has been very very hard for me, and it has taken me a lot of wasted years in my life to realize that education was my way to a better life, it took time and a lot of hard times, so for now put all your time into school and maybe go in early or stay late, just keep out of the house as much as possible and when your 18 you can get a job find a roommate and get out and start your own happy life!!

Answer 6

i was in ur shoes for 15 years and i've been free for five. i feel ur pain. u know that if you try to talk to him he might hit u and scream more. i was running away since i was five. i went throught every kind of abuse out there. sexual (verbal) abuse from my step dad, and every other abuse form my mother. i can't tell you how many time children services came and left in me despaire taking the side of my mother. and i took a beating when they left. at 15 1/2 i finally had enough. I left. this worked. i ran away and was caught the next day. i stayed in juvi for 58 days because i refused to go home. i told everyone if they sent me home, there was going too be a crew right back out there too come get me because i wasn't staying. I FEEL YOUR PAIN. I'VE BEEN THERE. i stood up for myself. the courts couldn't send me home against my will. so finally children services finally heared my cry and i was placed in a loving foster home. i was able to be a kid, since i hadn't known what it was like to be one. i was taught how to do things that i already should've known at 15. foster care was my guardian angel. i'm not telling you to run away. i'm telling you that only you can decide what's best for you. i'm now married and still call my foster mom and we are very close. she is the mother that i never had. and the father for the much. talk to children services. if your parents are like how mine were refuse to go home. this worked for me, do this is only if you find your living conditions can not or will not going to change. ppl will pay attention to you lack of interest in going home and will investigate. don't give up hope. just when i gave up hope i found the strength. good luck and i will pray for you. if you would like to keep me posted or would like to futher talk you can im me or email me. u can call me mi.mi. i've been where you are and i think that i may be of some help.

Answer 7

Keeping it bottled up isn't going to help. I have a father that did the exact same thing until Mom kicked him out! Whenever I got
mad because of that sad excuse of a dad I would get a ball bat and work a tree until my hands couldn't take it! All that anger I had
bottled inside me came out after putting up with that crap! When he started to hurt my younger brother I let him taste that bat & I
didn't stop until it broke. Your Mother would be saving herself alot of trouble by kicking him out!! Drunks are only a problem looking for a place to happen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

I m feeling sorry for you. it will be very painful if we dont get any peace from our home itslf. Anyway its nice to hear that u r doing well at ur studies, just continue that. coz thats what will be making ur mom happy. This is crucial time of ur life coz at this age u will be awaiting many problems and so distractions. See that u dont get addicted to any bad doings which will greatly disappoint ur mom. u r mature enough so face ur father and warn him if he misbehaves. Study well, make good academic records and so u will find a good job, then u can make ur mom happy and proud. For now be of some help to ur mom.
Best wishes.

Answer 9

You may wanna try to get one-on-one time with your Mom (Since she si the sober one) and explain to her how you are feeling. I come from a family that suffered the damage that alcohol can cause so I know how it feels. Professional help or 12 step programs fro teenagers related to alcoholic adults can help you to understand about this and detached yourself emotionally from a situation you didn't create, you are not responsible for but is hurting you to the bone. My best wished to you.

Answer 10

I was totally in the same situation until my boyfriend moved up here and saved me and we got our own place. Now i don't even talk to my parents. Sometimes my mom. But rarely. You should tell a counselor. They may try and help you. You should send your dad to AA meetings or you and your mom should move out on him. Sometimes the worse thnigs for you, are the best things for you. Talk to your mom. Good Luck and I am sorry for your pain.