I have had 3 women break up with me in the last 1 1/2
I am not sure if its me or just not the right one
I do talk alot about myself but i am always nice and treat them all with respect , kindness
someone give me some advice
I really liked the last one and actually thought she was what ive been waiting for all my life
am i falling to quick or maybe trying to hard?
give me some ideas and maybe it will help
I am starting to think staying single is less heartache and safer
2007-02-11 05:40:52 · 27 answers · asked by mr_gabby54944 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i feel ur pain n almost the same thing happened to me..this great guy i like so much has almost suddenly changed his opinion of me..i dont know why and its really hard,i suggest you find someone whos not better than u and then probably u'll last longer
2007-02-11 05:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by lady c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried asking them why they broke up with you?
Staying single is less heartache - however if you don't feel the bad you will never feel the good either.
The thing is - you have to kiss a lot of frogs until you get the princess. Awful analogy I know but its true.
I believe everything happens for a reason and that obviously these women were not right for you.
Communication is the key. If you start dating again - make sure you are very honest with your other half - and ask her to be the same especially about any problems.
If you treat them with respect and kindness then sooner or later you will be snapped up :)
2007-02-11 05:50:31 · answer #2 · answered by Hel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And......You would be right..... Stay Single
I have noticed that women are not willing to step up and say what they want. Many expect you to know what they want..... by ESP, Telepathy, Instinct, or just Dead Reckoning. They don't understand that us guys need a little more than a subtle hint sometimes......well, OK, most of the time. Many will sit back and not help you out at all.... and just see if you can pick up on what she wants. If you don't pass the test..... you're history. Yourself as the main topic of conversation is bad, boring for her, and will not score you any points for long. But when she is the main topic..... now then that's a different story. All too often.... it's all about them..... and how much you're willing to sacrifice to keep them. And even then... it's hard for them to be happy and satisfied.
2007-02-11 05:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by dathinman8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staying single is no less heartache :)
Staying in a couple does take a lot of character and maturity.
Being a girl I would not for any reason stay with someone who treats me bad and thinks i' m trash , just on the opposite I ll stay with someone who is nice and respectful.
I believe you have had such relationship experience, because you still have to learn the basics of being in a couple,
And all it takes is to love and be genuinely interested in the other person.
If all you are interested in is you and staying comfortable with someone for your own sake, that is recipe for failure.
I suggest you focus on girls you like and learn how to love ... rather than worry why you get dumped...
Hope that have helped...
2007-02-11 05:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know exactly what you are saying and doing. You seem to be giving yourself a lot of credit where they may be seeing things quite differently. Maybe they just thought you two weren't compatible. I too went through the same thing because, all though, they were great guys, I knew there was no future with them. There were things that I knew I wouldn't be able to live with. I stopped dating for a long while because I was tired of it, until I found my guy a year ago and we are still together.
Maybe you give off that desperation vibe.
2007-02-11 05:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by Groovy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like you're trying to hard. And talking about yourself is a big turn off. Women like to be asked about themselves. Compliments are good too. But if you're a boastful person, that's such a red flag to us. Try not to fall so quickly for someone, be friends first. You don't have to be with them every weekend. That's pushy.Take it slow, things will work out.
2007-02-11 05:47:06 · answer #6 · answered by 2Bme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard for anyone on here to say what it could be. We don't know you or what you have been doing in the relationships. You aren't exactly a reliable source, because your opinions about yourself are most likely skewed. Maybe you should ask a friend or ask the girls who broke up with you. Ask them what went wrong. You'll have ot be ready to get honest, possibly hurtful answers.
2007-02-11 05:51:00 · answer #7 · answered by MR. Tumnus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you try to listen as much as you do talk? This could be a starting point.
Are you too nice in an overpowering way?
Maybe you should ask these women why they have fallen out with you so you know whether it is you or them.
2007-02-11 05:46:21 · answer #8 · answered by tray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've got a quirky personality and very few people like guys (or girls) who talk about themselves. People are self-centered just like you so they want to talk about themselves, not you. But believe it or not, there are women out there who will like you just the way you are. I know some serious a--holes at work who you couldn't possibly believe are married but some woman loves them so there's bound to be a good woman for you. Don;t give up....you just need to keep poking till you find that special girl...and there's more than one! It's quite a big world.
2007-02-11 05:48:24 · answer #9 · answered by Big Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you choosing the same types of women? If they keep saying, "it's not you, it's me" then it's you. Stop talking about yourself unless she asks. You need to find out about her. Maybe you are not discovering enough about her to make the right decision. Where are you meeting them? Same places? Change it up then. Best wishes...
2007-02-11 05:49:47 · answer #10 · answered by art_tchr_phx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋