I've got the most fantastic boyfriend, he is loving and caring and we have been together for 2 years. He works away so i only get to see him once every 2-3 months. We speak every night on the phone an now on the internet too. I know that he would never cheat on me, But there's someone close to me who fancies him an its gettin me down! She constantly askes questions about him. We all went on holiday together last year and she was all over him, and it wasn't only me who noticed it...my parents did too! Now i cant bare the thought of her being anywhere near him or speaking to im! Because i know that she is trying to take him away from me, its just the thought of her trying wich is winding me up to the max! I know i need to get over this, an its ok people just telling me to get over it an stop being stupid...but its much harder than that!
2007-02-11 05:28:52 · 13 answers · asked by Danni 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your not being stupid and your not paranoid eigther,this person is making it obvious what she's up to.You say someone close? how close because of this i feel you may be hinting towards a member of family,like a sister.If it were just a friend i feel you could just shut the door as for they are'nt truely a friend to be eyeing up your man.Unfortunately there are women out there that play this game,it is a challenge to see if they can steal someone elses man.They get a big rise out of it almost like a fetish,once they do it they move on as they did'nt want the man in the first place.If your man is as good as you hope he will not get drawn in by her flirting and even sexual advances.These come in touchy feely behaviour and sexual jokes etc,but can develope if the game gets further on.The more your boyfriend fails to fall for her charms she will go to more lengths to do so.Things like walking out off the bathroom with very little clothing etc,she will go further and further.You must approach them about there behaviour now before it gets any worse,be subtle and try to avoid an arguement. Say your a bit uncomfortable by the way they act around your boyfriend and that you realise they are'nt doing it on purpose to hurt you.This tells them you are aware of there games but without making a seen of it,hopefully she will backoff before things get any worse.Your not stupid or paranoid there really are people out there like that no matter how close they are to you.GOOD LUCK.
2007-02-11 06:01:49 · answer #1 · answered by Tony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your guy about it without losing your temper and tell him that she really makes you jealous and that you'd appreciate it if he would not converse with her anymore because it's bothering you so badly. If he loves you then he'll understand and stop. If he's into her then at least this will give you some insight if he doesn't want to stop talking to her and tells you that you're just being silly. If that happens then tell him that you just don't think you can be with him if he pursues a "friendship" with her. It doesn't sound like you're around him enough to really know him much anyway.
Good luck.
2007-02-11 05:38:20 · answer #2 · answered by Big Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl is completely out of order! Don't put up with her behaviour. Knock her out! (Lol, I'm kidding) but seriously you've gotta say something to her.
If your boyfriend is as devoted to you as u say he is, then don't worry. This is just a stupid little girl making herself look even more stupid by acting like a cheap tart. Next time you see your boyfriend, give him a REALLY good time and up until the next time you see him, you will be all he is thinking about. Trust me. But be careful, don't act paranoid in front of your boyfriend because if you are too accusing it can push a person away. Believe me, its happened to me before.
2007-02-11 05:38:39 · answer #3 · answered by MrsMatsuyama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you trust in your guy that he won't do the stupid thing and cheat on you then you really shouldn't worry. if you really are confident that he isn't that type that would go and cheat on you then you should ease up a bit, but don't let your guard completely down.
in your situation why not just tell the b*tch who is doing this to stop before you literally just kick her A**. sometimes people need to be put in their place. j/k, but in reality, you do have reason to be upset, but don't worry, like you said, the guy is trustworthy and if you confide in him, then ignore that **** and just be happy with your guy.
2007-02-11 05:43:25 · answer #4 · answered by melloncollieromance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Danielle L,
Your not paraniod, your "friend" who is not acting like your friend is only thinking of herself and not considering what you and your boyfriend have together. The next time she asks you about him, I would politely tell her that you don't want to talk about him, and that your starting to feel hurt about her being so interested in him.
It's not o.k. for someone to tell you your being stupid "your not acting it:, and have a valid concern. One though that just came to mind is to have your boyfriend talk with her and tell her to back off. Becareful with this freind. From what you told me she does not sound like a freind to me.
2007-02-11 05:38:42 · answer #5 · answered by Buster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not paranoia girl, its COMMON SENSE!!! Tell that ***** that everyone notices she's trying to take your man, and while you're not big on confrontation yourself and dont necessarily want to start anything PHYSICAL, you ain't no bi.tch neither and you arent afraid to fight for something you love. tell her to quit being a jealous, insecure **** and to find her OWN man. My ex best friend did this **** to me, and im pretty sure she still tries to talk to my man. my sister even called her out on flirting with him! Dont give up, TELL HER TO BACK OFF!!!
2007-02-11 05:36:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your boyfriend to tell her to back off.
Does he just take this attention and enjoy it? Thats disrespectful to you. If he loves you then he should be willing to say goodbye to this girl and never speak to her again.
2007-02-11 05:38:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you just tell him the very same thing you told us right now.....word for word.....the best thing to do is to talk with him and lay all your cards out on the table.......if the connection between the 2 of you is strong than you have nothing to worry about........after talking with him you should go ahead and talk to your friend and see whats what....
2007-02-11 05:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by fox mulder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like Gina, i'm Filipino and that i probable have Spanish blood in me and that i'm a million/8 chinese language, yet i easily evaluate myself all Filipino because of the fact i don't understand any chinese language family members (my great-grandpa is finished chinese language and he went to the Philippines and married my great-grandma, consequently my grandpa is a million/2 chinese language, yet he became no longer uncovered to chinese language lifestyle). i'm purely extremely linked to Filipino lifestyle.
2016-10-01 23:24:14 · answer #9 · answered by minick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its horrible how you feel, but that person should know to keep well clear. Try hinting to them how you feel. Or just don't have anything to do with them anymore.
2007-02-11 05:35:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋