What should I do? My mom always does this to me when I have money and I'm sick of it. I can't even enjoy money because she wants it.
2007-02-11 05:24:34 · 19 answers · asked by kjhk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You're correct. Tell your mother to bug off, if you're at all able. This is truly sick on her part. Put it where she can't find it and tell her to see a psychiatrist.
At 15, you do NOT "owe rent" as someone is implying below. At 19 or 20, yes.
2007-02-11 05:27:02 · answer #1 · answered by Joseph C 5 · 1⤊ 5⤋
I think first you have to establish the logic behind moving in with your Mom. Most men think "logically" and will understand such. This decision involves more than just you. It will involve school. Transportation to and from school. Is it even the same school district? The rest of the family is involved too. Does this or how will this affect siblings, grand parents, and both parents? Does Mom even want you to live with her? Try to make a list of pro's and con's. How would it be beneficial not only to yourself but to others to change the current situation. Present your best argument and show that you have thought about not just yourself but others and the impact that it may and/or could have. Maybe even offer it as a trail basis? Start off with extended weekends? Or every other week? In the end it's a decision that is at the very least left up to your parents. It may not even be up to them. It might be something the court has to decide.
2016-03-29 02:17:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I would ask. What does she want it for and what would she do if you didn't give it to her. Does she want it save it for you?, to spend it on herself? Let her know that you want to save it. go to a bank, open an account, most banks don't charge kids to put money in, they start that when you are 18, I know key bank has a dino account that is great. If you put just your name on it then noone can get in. I am thinking this is true for most banks, but you should check on that, how is your relationship with your dad? If they want a signer ask him to sign with you. that way she still can't get it ,, I will say that it is not a good idea to keep things from your parents but if your dad knows then I think it is ok. and ask him to keep your confidence. Make sure that you let him know that you appreciate it and that you really don't want to keep this from your mom. Another thing are your parents together,are they separated, you don't have to answer that, it is just a thought.
By the way are you using the bulk of your money on good things, if you are making alot , try using some of it to buy your personal item. that always helps the parent, it shows reponsibility on your part. By the way you don't have to have much to open the bank account either. Good luck
2007-02-11 05:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by bluejay_24_2002@yahoo.com 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom was the same way. I wouldn't give her any money. Tell her that you need the money to pay for your own things. Your only 15 years old you shouldn't have to pay for bills, rent or other things. Also, open a savings account in YOUR name and your name only. Most banks will let you open your own account if you are working. If the money is in the bank she can't get it. Good Luck.
2007-02-11 06:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that you work hard for your paycheck, but to be honest, you still live under your parents roof, and if I were you , I would understand that she is in finantial trouble, and requires your money to keep you in clothes and food.
If you can accept that, than maybe you can offer her some money when you get paid, if she does not accept, your good to go, if she accept some, maybe she needs more. start saving, so you can really help out when she needs you. if you are old enough to work, maybe you are old enough to contribute financially to your family.
2007-02-11 05:36:10 · answer #5 · answered by gibson_slayer 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sit down and have a talk with her,tell her how you feel,maybe work out an agreement with her,that you'll give X number of dollars to her when payday is around.you may gain some respect from this and it will also show how responsible you are. good luck.
2007-02-11 06:16:28 · answer #6 · answered by johny1punch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this same problem a few years ago.
What I would do is open a bank account, and never keep cash around, and tell her that you must save every penny towards college, or something, and mention that you are saving THEM money, by having YOURSELF pay for it!
2007-02-11 05:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunatly, I'd say you should lie and say you didn''t get paid much. Yes, she's your mom, and yes, she's done a lot for you. But she should have her own job,a nd should understand that you work hard for your money, and you are still young, and deserve to blow it as you wish.
2007-02-11 05:28:57 · answer #8 · answered by tracy82_99 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She did carry you for 9 months. Set down a % amount that you will give her like an allowance but don't forget.she has taken care of you all this time..I am sure there are things she has given up over and over again so you can be taken care of...just try to keep it in mind.
Set a % amount like 5% goes to your mom.
2007-02-11 05:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
that sucks, your Mom should not be asking you for money why doesn't she get as job of her own, does she have a problem with alcohol or drugs?
2007-02-11 05:28:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋