I've been stressing out about the wedding day because we want a small ceremony and reception (30 guests, just people who are close to us) and its hard to decide who to include or not. Now, how does this sound to people?
We will have our 30 guests at the ceremony then reception with sit down lunch, wedding cake, toasts, etc. at a bed and breakfast. Then we invite whomever wants to come, including people who weren't invited to the ceremony/reception, for a bbq party back at our place (it's small but I'm sure we can manage it). I'm not sure what to do with people who would be travelling, if it would be rude to invite them to just the bbq (I think it would be). Any other ideas or suggestions? I would love to be creative with this!
Also, we would just have a big party in place of the sitdown reception, but with physical disabilities with close family members I feel like I would be leaving them out of the important activities.
2007-02-11 05:07:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I probably should have mentioned this before. We're having the ceremony/reception early because my mom who has the physical disability has a very hard time being out late in the afternoon. So I was thinking of something to do the rest of the evening since most of our guests are traveling from out of state to visit.
2007-02-11 10:57:56 · update #1
we are doing the same for my wedding. there will be 13 people at the ceremony, 12 at the luncheon after and about 150 for our evening reception. we don't want a lot of people there for our ceremony - i giggle under stress, and i am terrified that it will be made worse if we have guests who find it funny. i even giggled through my mum's funreal, that's how inappropriate it is.
the bbq sounds great, it is becoming way more popular to have your celebration at home, you can relax more and it will save you tonnes of money that you can use on your honeymoon...
the only thing i would suggest is that you maybe ask a friend or a neighbour to do the cooking for you. the last thing you want to be doing on your wedding day is cooking. if you can't find someone you can hire a cook for the day. we are bribing a couple of girls on our street to be our waiting staff for the evening. we are giving them £70 each, just to keep the drink flowing and the buffet stocked. maybe this could work for you too.
hope your day is wonderful....
2007-02-11 05:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by frost7216 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a small intimate ceremony with a few ppl then i would have one really nice reception with as many people as you can "fit" into where ever you are having it that way you are cutting back on the stress of having 3 different things goin on i would invite everyone including those not invited to the ceremony to the reception and if some of them cant make it for whatever reason then thats not your problem this is your day and as long as you invite them you have done your part i am sure that the people with disabilities will just be glad to be there and to have been invited dont worry about them feeling left out its the thought that you wanted to spend this special day with them and i am sure they are used to not being able to do everything that everyone else is doing and as far as the people who are traveling i would definatly invite them to the ceremony that way you dont feel its rude and they feel it is worth the travel time.... GOOD LUCK
2007-02-11 13:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by heather l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could have the BBQ the day after the wedding or even a different weekend. This way you could still celebrate your marriage but avoid hurting the feelings of those not invited to the wedding. This will also help those who were at the wedding not feel obligated to attend. The main thing is to make the time special for you and your husband and make it something meaningful to the both of you. Congratulations and good luck.
2007-02-11 14:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by Starshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask friends if they can accommodate any of the other guests. A sit down meal would be nice or a simple finger buffet would be a lot easier, keep your wedding programme simple, people will enjoy theirselves anyway, it will be a super day, Make a list of your ideas .Ceremony,Reception, Music, Activities for the children, Magician, Balloons. Everyone would enjoy a magician , he will circulate and entertain the guests.
2007-02-11 13:36:37 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsay Jane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would only have all the invited people to the ceremony and reception. It isn't fair to host people for a meal whom you didn't invite to the ceremony.
2007-02-11 17:33:54 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why cant you find a reception site that accomodates people with phsical disabilities? if that is not an option then why not rent a place where everyone CAN be together or borrow a friends back yard.
2007-02-11 16:31:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋