I had a fight with my girlfriend cause we spend to much time togheter and we took time off.... one of her last emails
Look...i hate this line cuz its totally cliche, but its definitely accurate for this situation: not all of this has to do with you, but with me.
I understand your reaction to all of this, as frustrated as it may make me. Im sure if it were me I'd have done something similar...
I know how badly you want this to work out, and I am TRYING to see the silver lining here, but its hard. I've been more relaxed, healthy and happy in the past week than I have in many, many months. I'm more content at work, at home, in the gym, and with my friends. I have begun repairing old friendships and making amends with people who I cant stand.
Being sick opened my eyes to the fact that I'm not a child anymore, that I have many responsibilities, not only financially, but to myself, to my family, and to my friends.
2007-02-11 04:59:03 · 8 answers · asked by mircea b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm eating healthy, havent smoked or had any caffeine in 2 weeks, and I'm exercising regularly. I wake up naturally at 6AM and I'm passed out usually between 9 and 10.
I feel as though being sick and the disputes that we had opened up doors for me that I need to take advantage of, but these doors unfortunately have nothing to do with you. You made me very happy and feel special in the 2 months we were together, but the spark that I had with you is burning down the line towards other things, things that have nothing to do with romance, love, sex, or anything like that.
2007-02-11 04:59:12 · update #1
Last mail
The spark didnt evaporate overnight. It built up, and the week that I was home sick did a lot. True, some of your actions and reactions fed the fact that I was growing tired, but other things have played a part too. Things like feeling like a chaperone, an activities coordinator, and the stress of almost an everyday struggle of something to do and then the anger behind you getting bored doing something. Thats not really motivation to want to try this again.
I am not going to take you back on a probationary period. Thats not fair to you and its not fair to me. We spent 2 months talking about some issues, beating them into the ground on occassion and still nothing changed. Finally, when I had enough and decided to have the reaction that I did, that is when u started promising the moon and the sun and the stars.
2007-02-11 05:00:04 · update #2
I am angry at what became of our relationship, but I am finding happiness with what has grown from the wake. Please just be happy for me, as conceited as that sounds, thats all I need from you now.
I'm truly very sorry, but there is no spark left. I'm bitter and I'm angry. There has been no getting around this, not for weeks now. And I have tried. Hard.
2007-02-11 05:00:44 · update #3
you guys were only together two months.... get over it. it is clear that there wire issues from the begining, and she is just not into you enough to be willing to try and work through them. with an email message that long, she is going well beyond common coutesy, and treating you with respect.... do the same and respect her choice.
two months is so short, it was not worth the effort required to even post this question. there is no way you guys had that deep of a relationship.
2007-02-11 05:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by foo__dd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems pretty plainly said. She is done. She has closed her mind to any thought of getting back with you. I'm not sure of the circumstances, but I think if you really want anything to do with this one in the future, you should let her go. Get on with life for a few months and make yourself happy. Then seek her out for a cup of coffee or something. If there is something left, you won't have to worry about this again, because you will both realize you should have never let it get this far. Compromise is the basis of any lasting relationship.
2007-02-11 05:10:30 · answer #2 · answered by asimplefreak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Sounds like she is REALLY working at wanting this to NOT to work!! I would suggest (as hard as this may be) to back WAY off. DON'T answer her emails, don't be easily accesable..STAY AWAY. This will give both of you time to reflect. Doesn't sound like there's a darn thing you could say at this point to change things, and I'm not even really sure I would want ot if i were you. Seems like it's not just you that this girl is trying to change..she's in the midst of a major overhaul. Stand back and let it happen...it will hurt LESS in the long run
Take care of YOU!...Good luck
2007-02-11 05:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by TriciaC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is just my opinion, but either she's just not that into you anymore, or she's found someone else.
I know this isn't the advise you want to hear, but take some time to yourself, and do your thing. If it's meant to be, it'll work out. I had to wait 7 years for my ex to come back to me and now we're married and happy.
Find one of your good buddies and take it one day at a time. That's all you can do at this point.
2007-02-11 05:05:59 · answer #4 · answered by jforrest46221 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crystal clear if you'd pay attention. She is happier without you and is enjoying the fact that she has moved on.
Accept it. Have a little bit of self esteem by telling her you're happier too and move on.
2007-02-11 05:04:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well for starters, I think putting her personal correspondence to you online for all to see shows why things might be screwed between you. Very rude. It is obvious that she is trying not to hurt you but to be clear about how she needs to take care of herself. I think you would be better off trying to meet someone new.
2007-02-11 05:08:51 · answer #6 · answered by SweetBabyRed 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow did you really type all of that?
Move on and enjoy the new you!
Take care of your self, and move on.
2007-02-11 05:08:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over the bbitch and have a beer. plenty of hot young women out there!
2007-02-11 05:05:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋