I'm not a Christian, but Christians I know often try to convince me that I should believe the Bible, and I ask them why should I when they don't? When they say they believe every word of it, I ask them about Matthew 5:31-32 where Jesus calls remarriage after divorce "adultery." None of them has an answer, and oddly enough, nearly all the adult Christians I know are remarried after divorce. Why do they point to sin in others and excuse their own disobedience?
2007-02-11 04:57:46 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Lot's of good answers, thank you everybody. Choosing a "best answer" is going to be hard. I wish I could give out about ten best answers.
Several Christians answered as I expected--"It's wrong but God forgives" us type answers. But a few agreed it was a problem. The majority of the answerers seem to believe that Christians pick and choose what they want to believe, and probably without even realizing it. I think that mindset is true of most people, not just Christians, and on many, many topics, not just divorce and remarriage. Well, I'll try to pick Da Winna in the next couple minutes...
2007-02-12 12:27:44 · update #1
The term for this is 'selective morality' and it's quite common.
Your remarried christian friends are technically commiting adultery. However, they've been 'forgiven' so I guess they can do whatever the hell they want, can't they?
~Morg~
2007-02-11 05:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by morgorond 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe so that you shouldn't offend anybody you should say why do "most" instead of making it seem like ALL. I am a Christian and so are my parents. They had a rough few years and my mom kept saying how she wanted to divorce him, but she never did because she knew that if she wasn't being abused or cheated on, there was no excuse. They never got divorced, and now they have been arguing less since we haven't been having money problems anymore. So please don't go along with those stereotypes. There are many false Christians, posers and rebels, but I do not follow their worldly ways :-)
As far as your question goes, I think that they are either in denial and do not realize that they do not have an excuse, they have a wrong feeling that they need to judge others. The concept of "fix your own backyard before you fix some else's" is a little different for Christians; "fix your backyard, but help fix up other people's too because it is your duty to help direct their path out of love." They just do it the wrong way.
A lot of Christians don't choose the hammer and nail, they only choose the verses that don't make them feel bad
2007-02-11 05:11:08 · answer #2 · answered by Catwoman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Christians just carry that little black book around for show...they don't really read it or obey a tenth of what is there...stonings aren't allowed anymore and too many of them are adulterers.
What mystifies me is that they don't kill their teen agers either as commanded in Deuteronomy 21 or kill all unbelievers as the Moslems do as commanded in Leviticus 24:16, Deuteronomy 13:13 - 19 or Deuteronomy 17:2-7. Also, christians are supposed to be putting to death all people who work on the Sabbath as commanded in Exodus 31:15.
They have a million excuses for not obeying these rules like..."that was the old testement. Its different now." But what about the part of the bible that says..."The law of the Lord is perfectnand changes not?" (Isaiah 40:8, 1 Peter1:24-25, Psalms 19:7) No where in the bible does Jesus or anyone else tell people to quit obeying the "Law" as described in the old testiment. As a matter of fact when Jesus is asked how to enter the kingdom of heaven, Jesus himself tells people to obey all the laws of the Pharasees and he wasn't being facious!
So in short, don't do any of the law and Jesus will forgive you but not those rotten homosexuals or liberal minded democrats. Its so funny it almost makes you cry.
Christians only believe the part that is convenient for them to use to condemn others....never themselves. The bible they carry around so sanctimoniously is only to hit others over the head with not to measure their own life by. And they say the Bible isn't a violent book!
Forgiveness is always a convenient excuse when appying it to ones self but never to others of a politically different opinion. Christian's excuses hold no water but they do seem to hold quite a bit of untaxable money.
I like your question...nice insight to reality!!!
2007-02-11 05:03:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
None of them have the answer? I'm a Christian. Will you accept my answer? I sin every day. I do not do any of them on purpose but as long as I am in the world and in this body I'm going to mess up. The Jews at the time were divorcing their wives for any reason they could come up with. Things like, She doesn't cook good, and she keeps a messy house you know "irreconcilable differences". Jesus was stating that divorce is not an option. If you have witnessed a divorce you will understand my point. It is basically a death of a person made up of two parts and whats left of the two parts tries to reassemble themselves. It's a real bad deal for everyone. To say it is adultery is an understatement. Once this has happened then GOD will forgive and restore the people back to right fellowship with him.
2007-02-11 05:07:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Many Christians don't live a religious life. Christians pick out of the Bible what is convenient to them, Christians make the wrong choice, Christians fail. It's all human.
2007-02-11 05:14:27 · answer #5 · answered by Sternchen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Catholic Church doesn't allow remarriage after divorce.
Only in the case of declaration of annulment -- which states that a valid sacramental marriage was nonexistent in the first place -- can a Catholic go through a marriage ceremony again.
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2007-02-11 05:07:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause society (Lucifer's work) has caused many to accept "terms" that they can follow.
As in.....I can get a divorce even though it says I can't. I can remarry even though it says I can't. I can have sex prior to marriage even though it says I can't. I can lie, steal, and do other things....even though its says I can't. But I can do this cause I go to church.
Well God has a name for these people.....and he states he sees them and on judgment day they will say...." see, we have spoken your word and shown you to others....and Jesus will tell them that he saw what they did but he does not honor them for they are liars "
This is why you don't worry about others or what they do. You worry about yourself and the relationship you have with God. Church is actually behind many of these down fallings. Just because a man calls himself a priest does not mean he is a man of God. He can easily be the work of Lucifer and then he has the power to slowly covert people over to his ways.
Lucifer's job is to make you stray from Gods word, any of his words. And he does a good job on many if you just look around....as the world is full of bigots.
I am not saying I am perfect, far from it. But I do hold his action of marriage at the highest level. Still not married at 37 because of how high I mark it. Yet to find a woman that doesn't believe in divorce. And I am the product of a divorced family.
2007-02-11 05:08:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Jesus didn't clearly forbid to remarry after divorse.
Righteous grounds for divorse is adulteries/fornications. I would say physically threatening also. Moses allowed for divorses because of the hardness of mans heart.
The way I see it, it is adultery to remarry after divorse, only if there wasn't any grounds for divorse (physical abuse/adulteries/idolatries).
But if Christians are yoked together in Christ in their second marriages, the blood of the Lamb covers them. And they should stay together.
God doesn't like divorse. Since the beginning a man was to find his woman and they two become one flesh.
You are judging others. And sometimes people judge in things they did in the past too. It is written to judge not lest you be judged.
And, as Christians we need to walk in forgiveness, because Jesus forgave us our sins and cleansed us from them.
2007-02-11 05:08:44 · answer #8 · answered by t a m i l 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have a valid point. I am a Catholic, and I do NOT agree with the Catholic Church's concept of marriage annulment. I think that it is just semantics, much like gambling and gaming. Although, I
disagree with this view, I will respect it and abide by it, but for me , when I marry, it will be until death do us part, regardless of how bad things may be in the marriage.
2007-02-11 05:04:44 · answer #9 · answered by WC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remarriage is adultery if you caused the marriage to end in sin. In other words, if you were cheating on your spouse and caused the marriage to end in sin. I think people read into this way too much. I also know that when you ask the Lord for forgiveness and you give your life over to him and you do the right thing, your sin is forgiven. If you get remarried and you continue in the next relationship to cheat you've learned nothing and have sinned again.
2007-02-11 05:02:20 · answer #10 · answered by crash 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋