What would you do if you had NO friends?

Question

I unfortunately have NO friends whatsoever. I have a few acquaintances, but no friends. I have no one to talk on the phone with. I have no one to go out to places with.

I'm a shy person, so that's part of the reason why I have no friends, but still. I don't even have ONE friend.

Whenever I go out, I go alone. It feels weird to go out alone. It's difficult being friendless, since we humans are social creatures.

Plus, I have this fear that if I meet someone new, they are going to think that I'm a loser because I don't have any friends.

I don't know how much more of this I can take.

Answer 1

You have acquaintances, right? You need to cultivate those relationships into friendships. Pick someone among your acquaintances and invite them to do something. Movie, dinner, something.... Friends do not just appear, you have to work to make them happen. Make new acquaintances and potential friends by getting out and doing something you enjoy. The people around you, enjoying what you are enjoying are friends you have not met yet. Strike up a conversation... if the chemistry is right, suggest doing something again later. You can do it.

Answer 2

The best way to see mental disorders is a series of varying degrees of depression and stress. Mild stress produces an excellent person for creativity and performance. More depression saps the energy and creativity that these people once had as the leave neurosis and become bipolar. There are three levels used to describe Bipolar. Then the imbalance of chemicals made by your own brain plays havoc with the whole control system. The auto brain or lower brain can aggressively access messages that were kept from it earlier. As the depression continues and more and more logic substitutions are made the mind goes into a full psychosis where ideas are disassociated and language decays. The end result of psychosis from severe depression is schizophrenia which has been described as incurable . There are of course are always a few people who have been able to recover mental stability. The greatest learning step required for all levels of depression recovery is to see that society as two groups . Study what you group are in and stay with your own kind to find peace and happiness. In your case you have been unable to find a group of your own kind . There are some clues that you can study on each person to identify if they are a winner-player or an outsider-filler person.

Answer 3

Learn to go out alone. At a coffee shop or lunch place, you can bring a magazine or whatever. If you want to go to a bar, pick a sports place where you can sit and watch a game.
Or volunteer at an organization, pick something that you care about.
I've moved around a lot, and have been in this situation. It takes time, but eventually friends will come.
Maybe in the meantime you can get a pet. Even a fish will keep you from being so lonely at home.
Good luck!
And in the meantime, hang out here. We're all pretty nice.

Answer 4

Join some sort of evening class or club, or start volunteering somewhere - something where you'll be spending time with other people. Hopefully you'll naturally develop friendships, but even if you don't get really close to anyone there, you'll at least have more social contact with other people, which will in turn help with your shyness and therefore maybe lead to being able to make friends more easily in future.

Best of luck!

Answer 5

You mean you like being lonely... That what you said exactly.... If you re confident that your new friend will love , and respect you, you will not say things like that>
If I have no friends, I will make them....... We cant being alone all the time, There are secrets and some personal information that are shared, you can be advised to the right trends if you have true friends, you will know your real personality, and trends.
you have to feel things as you re a person in a group, not alone.... your own opinion can be stengthen if u have honest friends>

Answer 6

find activities you enjoy and maybe you'd meet ppl that way, like join a sports team or bowling league. do you work or go to school? that's usually where I've met ppl. also if you have any relatives your age you could invite them to do something with you. your definitely going to have to get over being shy or else things might not change. if someone does think your a loser they weren't worth being your friend in the first place! good luck!

Answer 7

just start hanging out with friends from work or school. It's pretty easy. You'll get the hang of it.

And as for that fear you have, if they think you're a loser for not having friends, and they leave you, you'll be friend-less anyway. So what've you got to lose?

Just try not to make friends on the internet- that can be dangerous and hurting (emotionally and physically).

Good luck.

Answer 8

Join a book club, yoga class, sports team, knitting group, church or religous group. Even becoming politically active would get you out there. You know, just whatever group sounds appealing to you. Put yourself in places where you are surrounded by people with similiar interests. Try to be friendly and open. I am very shy too, so I try to be a good listner. I ask questions about others and make myself available if they need someone to hear them out. Everyone likes to talk about themselves, try asking people in whatever group you decide on open ended questions, like "Why did you join the group?" or "So, are you planning on living in this city for a long time?". It will happen, even if you only get one or two friends, that is a start.

Answer 9

Volunteer in some way.

I assure you that the people that you help are not going to think you're a loser.

There are lots of lonely people (for example in nursing homes) that would love for people to volunteer and come talk to them. I think if you do this, you'll be more comfortable dealing with others, have more self confidence, and be able to find more friends.

Answer 10

I am the same way. What is needed, is to can the wants of being with the pretty faces, and focus on those who have a nice smile, decent personality, and for get about the google eyed people of fairy tale stories.