A girl offered herself to me as an f##" buddy, (a total NSA relationship) I turned her down and now feel bad, but she didn't tick enough boxes.
Now she doesnt speak to me.
2007-02-11 04:46:00 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like she wants more than a F buddy...she may only SAy she doen't want more just to get to you. many females think guys are easy.. after that she'd be calling every hr and not wanting you to see anyone else... only if your ready for this i would say go ahead, but it sounds like your really not into her so you did the right thing...she'll have to work it out on her own and maybe a lesson learned on her part. don't feel bad. it sounds like you'd not give yourself so easily to intimacy for just the thrill and some girls will respect that...guys must also respect thierselves... i know some guys are laughing at this but i would consider you concious of your feelingsor on the flip side you could tell her "I'm just not into you"
2007-02-11 04:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by Hi its me again 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she did not tick enough boxes, you would eventially look elsewhere and I really feel that feelings would be hurt. NSA is ok until the strings become tangled. I really feel that you did the right thing but it seem that she could not handle your decision. Yes, as others have said, she probably feels insulted, but if she was liberal enough to offer, she should be liberal enough to understand the work "no". You just need to learn to go on and perhaps things will work themselves out. Ten years down the road, she will probably look back and be glad that things happened the way they they did. lol
2007-02-11 05:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ARE you F&$#ING NUTS? First off, she probably got her feelings hurt, thinking you are acting like she's not good enough for you. And so she doesn't tick as many boxes as you would like. You never know until you go for it. Might be more there to work with than you thought. I kinda disagree with all of these replies saying that if she got mad/hurt, there must've been more than just FWB going on in her head. Listen, dude. She's a human being. She offered up some of her stuff. She got turned down. Now her feelings are quite simply hurt because someone....her friend...you...don't think her stuff is good enough to have some fun with. It is kind of an insult. I'm guessing you didn't mean to insult her. But, accidentally, you probably did.
You might wanna just call her, leave a message if she won't answer, and apologize in case she DOES feel like you turned her down because u dont think she's good enuff. Then, talk it out, see if she's ok or if she still wants a FWB. If so, give it a try and see how it goes for you.
2007-02-11 04:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by luckynjoe4ever 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hey, don't worry, thats her problem! Just goes to show that you are one of these genuine guys that don't sleep with just anyone. She'll probably start talking to you again, when the initial embarrassment of you rejecting her disappears. Or you could always trying talking to her, telling her that you didn't want to ruin ur friendship and sleeping with her may have done that.
Wait until you meet a nice girl, who you fall head over heels in love with and then have sex. It will so much more fullfilling than a NSA relationship, that you don't even want to participate in.
2007-02-11 05:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by MrsMatsuyama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you are not mad, not many people I know can really have a NSA relationship, whatever those strings may be....honestly, who wants a relationship where anything goes, where you can treat the other person however you want? You have a little bit of integrity, don't you? Besides, you don't know how many NSA relationships she's had/having...could be some serious diseases out there....
2007-02-11 04:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, have some self respect, even though you are a guy! But still, why should you need a f-buddy?! Your right to have turned her down, because how will it end when you find someone you want to be in a relationship with? Who knows feeling's might start to develop.. and it ruins the basis of the title "friendship". How many other people has she got on these terms, before you and after you!
2007-02-11 04:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by xxmiss_caramel_queenxx 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well - no.
Frankly it doesn't sound like she was much of a friend to begin with.
Really, even these NSA gigs, often have strings.
Find a real relationship if that is what you want - or a better friend than her at the very least.
2007-02-11 04:50:52 · answer #7 · answered by tigglys 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well it sounds like it was a good idea if she is not speaking to you because of that. Sounds like there were strings. I had one. I just met a guy I would like to spend some time with. I told the 'friend' that I met a guy that interested me and he was happy. Sad too because we both have very strong feelings for each other (why we took it to that limit) but we are FRIENDS. The benefits was just a nice bonus...
Hard to truly have the no strings attatched!!!
2007-02-11 04:52:30 · answer #8 · answered by White Raven 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She probably feels imbarassed, and rejected thats why she won't talk to you. I don't think that your mad.
It is also impossible for a friends to have a NSA relationship, due to the feelings and emotions involved with sex. Someone always gets hurt in the end.
Better her now then you later! :)
2007-02-11 04:59:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it tends to hurt there feeling when you reject even the most basic of relationships, she thought she was giving you a high rewards relationship, you didn't think the rewards was worth having, she is hurt. Give her a call and tell her you will let preform oral, if you want her to talk to talk. If it doesn't matter then leave it as is.
Wow missingora,,,you sure are judgmental, cast the 1st stone or what?
2007-02-11 04:53:26 · answer #10 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋