my friend (call her Sue) has a friend (call her mary) that always expects to be invited when we go out. for example, i have two friends, and the three of us hang out. the problem is that mary expects to be invited along and assumes she is. I don't get along with her at all and neither does my friend's husband. my question, how do I tell my Sue, or Mary, that Mary isn't invited in a tactful way?
2007-02-11 04:16:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
ya, you got it there when u said it depends on the maturity of you all....our maturity is as follows mary
2007-02-11
09:49:10 ·
update #1
I would probably talk to Sue about it first. You have to let her know that when Mary comes along you don't have a good time and she makes you uncomfortable because you really don't like her. If Sue is a good friend then she will understand and want you to have a good time when y'all two are together. If that doesn't work, when Sue and you are about to go somewhere together and Mary wants to come along just tell her that you and sue need special time with just the two of y'all. if Mary is Sue's friend, then she will understand. it all really depends on the maturity of you all.
2007-02-11 08:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by I'm Smiling Hapy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would handle an issue like this by having a talk with Sue, and just share your feelings about Mary and why you don't like hanging out with her. Maybe Sue can shed some light on the part of Mary's behavior that causes you not to enjoy spending time with her.
Depending on how close your friend and Mary are, she may respond with something like "...you know, I don't like hanging out with Mary either..." and work on ending her friendship with her, or she may suggest some other compromise.
2007-02-11 12:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by loveblue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say what you want, people don't like to hear, but its best to be up front and honest.
You'll find out who your TRUE friends really are after you say what you want.
They will either like it or not, who cares, only you can do something about the situation.
Since you don't like Mary & it is apparent that Sue must, talk to Sue and tell her how you feel!
No one will do it for you!
2007-02-11 12:30:58 · answer #3 · answered by bex920 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say tell sue that you would apriciate if mary didnt come along because if sue is your friend she should understand why you dont want mary to go just explain that you dont get along with her and that if sue and mary want to hang out to do it some other time without you... i hope this helps =]
2007-02-11 12:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by rootbeerrox2121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest in what you feel about her and who knows probably by voicing out you will find out who is really "Mary". Sometimes people we don't like to begin with, become our very best friend. Just talking through my experienced I guess.
2007-02-11 12:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by linda c 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
speak ur mind.
life is too short to wear your panties in a bunh over the fact that someone may or may not like what you have to say.
2007-02-11 12:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by AVATARD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her why you dont like her,and just ask her to leave.if she cant change her ways then she just cant be invited! good luck! =D
2007-02-11 12:20:07 · answer #7 · answered by Unknown. 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋