I went on a date recently with a guy who was very nice, but I just didn't feel like we clicked on a romantic level. He called me the day after we had our date and I didn't know what to tell him, so I didn't pick up. He left me a voicemail asking me to call him back. The thing is, he was flirting with me on our date, so I know he will ask me to go out with him on a second date, but this is not something I want, though I don't know what to do. Should I call him back, should I wait for him to call me again, should I write him an email, or just ignore his calls? I don't want to be unkind about this, so how can I let him know that I don't want to go on a second date with him without hurting him?
2007-02-11 04:15:36 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him the truth, "Im just not feeling the connection or sparks if you will" Or tell hom you just dont feel like you have anything in common. Thats all you should have to do.
2007-02-11 04:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't ignore the calls, that will hurt him more and make the situation frustrating for both of you.
If he asks you out again, just be straightforward with him. Tell him you aren't interested, and if you would consider getting to know him as a friend, let him know that (in some cases, that may not work). It's not always easy, but being straightforward and honest is always best for everyone.
2007-02-11 04:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by ~Teresa~ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Romance is great, but most long term relationships, even ones that start out hot, cool over years. He could end up being the one for you but perhaps you havent given him a fair shot because your busy looking for the fairy tale romance. Give him another date, and this time try to see his values, likes & dislikes and give it a fair and realistic evaluation. Ive had two 4 yr relationships, and been married now 12 years. He might end up sweeping you off your feet at a least expected moment and be worthy of long term commitment-you'll never know. Whatever you do, remember he has paid you a nice compliment by giving you his attention, be courteous of it.
2007-02-11 04:41:10 · answer #3 · answered by monique m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please...call him back or send an email. The worse thing is to ignore him.
Just explain that you had a nice time but for you, there has to be a certain chemistry between two people and you just didn't feel it.
2007-02-11 04:18:41 · answer #4 · answered by katalah 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your going to hurt him a little. Just tell him that you thought he's very nice but it just didnt work for you.
You could consider going out with him again , if he is nice and you had a good time , see where things go.
Of course , he could be calling to say he thought you were nice , but he doesnt think your his type so no hard feelings but hes not interested . :)
2007-02-11 04:40:43 · answer #5 · answered by mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The easiest way would be to just do not return his calls, he'll get the picture, and figure it out that you do not want to see him again.
If you tell him that you didn't *click* or that you only want to be *just friends* then he will just try that much harder to be your bf.
Just don't answer his calls, and do not return his calls, and he'll get the message.
Good Luck
2007-02-11 04:20:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is such a cop-out. You have to phone him and tell him just what you told us to his face. Don't you think that's a bit out of order? To send him a bloomin EMAIL to turn him down. He probably still thinks you like him and probably spent ages plucking up the courage to call you the second time and you're thinking of texting your refusal to him.
That's like faxing through your resignation letter. Just bite the bullet and phone him.
Sorry if that's harsh but you can't just throw people on the rubbish heap and not give a **** what happens to them. Evil person alert.
2007-02-11 04:20:00 · answer #7 · answered by Truman 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I was in the same situation.
don't ignore the calls ~ he'll end up calling repeatedly and then calling from different numbers.
just let him know that you aren't interested; and you didn't feel anything ~ hopefull he will understand that.
2007-02-11 04:19:08 · answer #8 · answered by ♥michele♥ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell him politely " You're a nice guy but I'm just not intrested. Sorry I hope we can be friends" That way it won't sound so harsh.
Good Luck!
2007-02-11 04:20:45 · answer #9 · answered by Sakura 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If he asks you for a date again just tell him politely, "Sure, but can we go out another time as I am going out with my boyfriend?"
This will give him a strong hint and I guarantee that he will not call you again.
2007-02-11 04:22:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer his calls, don't be rude. Simply indicate you aren't interested in him romantically, offer him that most hideous of options, lets be friends, or simply bid adieu.
2007-02-11 04:18:07 · answer #11 · answered by Dane 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋