Me and my boy friend have been going out for almost a year, and because of other people we've had problems, not really amongst ourselves. He says we should take time off to start everything over. But is that possible? Will I ever get the same feelings again (nervousness, butterflies), and will this "starting over" help?
2007-02-11 03:57:07 · 5 answers · asked by No. 01 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if u really love him u will never stop loving him
2007-02-11 03:59:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After dating for a year and a half, my boyfriend and I split up for 6 months. We had absolutely no communication until towards the end of those 6 months. I just started talking to him one day and we both realized that we were still attached to each other. We got back together and have been better than ever, much better than before. I think a lot of it is us both growing maturity wise and both getting a chance to see what was out there, so we're never wondering if we are right for each other.
Maybe it will help you guys, too, but I would make sure that he's not just wanting to hook up with another girl, but keep you around just in case.
2007-02-11 04:02:44 · answer #2 · answered by Cavalia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have a good point of "starting over" because: 1) It refreshes your relationship and 2) it releases those tensions you feel between yourselves. The point of "starting over" is to help ease the concept of commitment to the relationship...as they say "everybody needs a little time alone" so that they can truly discover themselves before they commit to a stable relationship. For a stable relationship to progress and mature, each member has to be confident in that they are sure of themselves and know themselves well, therefore they can relate more efficiently with their significant other.
Keep in mind though, that people possess the potential to change and the person you "thought" you knew may not be the same person when you "get back together" after the hiatus of the relationship.
And no, you will certainly not feel those "butterflies" once you get back on track with your significant other (because you are already familliar with him).
Good luck in your quest of soul searching! =)
2007-02-11 04:07:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have tried to start over with one of my previous boyfriends and it did not work, that's not saying it will not work for you. If you are able to truly put the past behind you then starting over will work. If the problems you were having before have never been sorted out, they will continue to be issues in the future. You need to work all this out before you start over and both be comfortable that everything is out in the open.
2007-02-11 04:04:23 · answer #4 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess you can give it a try...set a period of time, say, a month. If it doesn't work out, or you feel the same you do now, tell him it's better to break up...you'll never know unless you try...
good luck!
2007-02-11 04:01:04 · answer #5 · answered by Barbs-mom of boy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋