i recently met a new man, he's 8 years younger than me as i'm 33 and he's 25. add to that the problem that we live 130 miles apart and the fact that his mum hates me because i am older than him. can our relationship work or do we have so much against us before we even start?
2007-02-11 03:36:49 · 41 answers · asked by KAF 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 20 and my girlfriend is 40. There are no set rules, just do whatever you think is right.
2007-02-11 03:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
KAF..my girlfriend lives 1000 miles away from me in another country and we are together every month for at least 7/10 days because we make it work..soon it will be possible to be together permanently after three and a half years,this is due to work commitments......your relationship is new so nobody can predict what will happen in the short term but if you both want a relationship then you will find a way,i should not worry what his mum is thinking as you would probably think the same if a son of yours was in a similar relationship...if you can manage to be together at least for a short time fairly regularly then it will be something you can look forward too each time and eventually decide if you have a chance of a life together.........yes it can work and i don,t see you have anything against you anyway.......foxy
2007-02-18 21:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by foxy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have had somewhat of this problem I'm not older or his mom doesn't hate me but I work with him and we could get fired for being together and there is the same distance between us to where we life.
All odds against us we made it work. Why and How? We didn't make these things get in the way of how we feel for each other and if you guys stick it, it should work out. Why make age be a problem or an issue? Age is just a number if he is mature enough for you and you guys are on the same page and wanting or working for the same things in life then girl go right ahead and have your man!
Then there is the mother-in-law problem which everyone naturally has. I am one of the lucky ones and I have another friend of mine who is lucky as well with the mother-in-law issue. We hardly talk and it doesn't bother me because guess what I am not with her I am with her son who loves me and I love him. That is all that matters his and your opinion not his mother's or for a matter of fact anyone else's.
2007-02-11 03:58:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ageism is as bad as racism and sexism.
When I was young, and I mean an adolescent, my lovers were all in their thirties.
Now I am 60 my lovers are in their forties.
I charm and I'm a nice guy. I've never chased women.
What I'm say is not "play the field" but just let what feels good happen.
Hatred is so awful I'm sure that you have already worked out that you should ignore that aspect of his mother's personality.
Go for it, you only live once and from experience I can tell you that your greatest regrets when are sixty will be the chances you didn't take.
2007-02-19 02:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by salubrious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship can work if you want to make it work. You must be devoted to it. The age factor doesn't really matter, you're attracted to each other obviously for different reasons. If you're on the same maturity level, then the age shouldn't really be an issue. The distance may affect your relationship, because you live so far apart, you may not see each other as often as you'd like, but you can always communicate otherwise. And his mother, it's really none of her business, he's 25 years old, he's grown enough to make his own decisions, and she should respect that. He should try to make her realize that age is not an issue. Make her realize that you care truly about one another, and you are happy together, and want to be together. She'll eventually understand. If not, don't let it affect your relationship, it's you two, not the three of you. You know what I mean?
Good Luck.
2007-02-11 03:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by Loves It<3 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give it a whirl, it will or it won't. My husband and I met when we lived 130 miles apart. The distance thing wouldn't have lasted long term. He moved here, after a time. 7 years later we are still together. Of course, someone in the same situation won't end up quite so happily ever after. It's subjective!
2007-02-18 06:06:58 · answer #6 · answered by l0bster_quadrille 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All's fair in love and war.
Age and distance should never be a boundary in a relation ship, my girlfriend lives 130 miles away and we do find it very hard. But it's worth it because when I do get to see her (which isn't very often) We have the best time together.
And his mum can't tell how you feel about each other, he can't allow his mother to rule his life and not have girlfriend's because she doesn't like them.
2007-02-18 22:43:21 · answer #7 · answered by kahuna382000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship will work if the two of you are determined to make it work. Age is just a number to me & many others, but some make a big deal out of it, like his mom. She'll get over it if she sees that her son is serious about you & doesn't care what she thinks about the age factor. Have you met his mom? If not, then she's being very judgemental, which is certainly not fair to you. Distance can be a problem, but give it time & see what happens. If it doesn't work out for whatever reason, then it's not meant to be. I wish you luck!
2007-02-11 03:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, sounds like you do have a lot stacked against you, but hey if you really wont to be together, then it will happen, don't let the age thing worry you, its just a number, its how you feel in your heart that matters, and his Mum, she probably doesn't know you and once she does get now you, then all might come right good luck and god bless
2007-02-17 06:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You aint dating his mother so I would just enjoy the relationship and not kick it in the teeth before giving it a chance. Seems to me you are looking for reasons for it to end because you are scared - not every relationship can be perfectly structured with a two year age gap and a 5 minute drive. Lots of people have had more to cope with and have lasted the pace. If you look for the feet of clay, you are sure to find them.
2007-02-18 08:08:52 · answer #10 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
mate, the relationship can work only if one of you relocate to be closer to each other,because as much as you may like this person they can not be there for you when you need a hug or a kiss or just some one to hold your hand not to mention sex.humanbeings need touch and eventually someone will cheat just because they need to be held.If you can work the distance out i would not worry about the age differance you are not that much older were you wont have things in common almost everything you will talk about he will at least know about. and once his mother sees how happy you make her son she should eventually accept you. cheers.
2007-02-17 01:17:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋