2007-02-11 02:10:32 · 18 answers · asked by SIMI J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
you are engaged to her and you didn't know how old she was?? age really doesn't matter but the fact is that she lied. whatelse is she capable of lying about??@!
2007-02-11 11:54:02 · answer #1 · answered by pamcake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what i think:
1. Did you give her an impression that you wont go out with an older woman before? She might have been afraid she'll you.
2. Did she eventually tell you or have you found out by yourself? Better if she told you.
3. Is your problem with the age-gap or the lie? If it's about the lie, then look at my points above. If the answer in 1 is yes; and she has confessed, then you are not dealing with a lier. You decide.
2007-02-11 10:17:37 · answer #2 · answered by Sofia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is older than you is not much of a problem but I wonder what other lies she must have told you or the facts she might have concealed from you. In my experience we all lie to some extent but there is a big difference in lieing in the most important matter of our life. Before it's too late you should be careful to find out all that you can about that person for your own good.
2007-02-11 10:17:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does it make a difference in the love you have for her. Do you feel this is an isolated lie or could there be many more. Answer these questions and you will have your answer. If it doesn't change your love for and if you feel that she hasn't lied at any other point, then do nothing. She probably felt insecure for whatever reason being older and was afraid to tell you.
2007-02-11 10:15:49 · answer #4 · answered by dekota1997 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that has been around forever! Women have a vanity thing going. If you love her then just tell people what she says or better yet simply say " you know I dont remember exactly what her age is but when I speak to her I will tell her that you asked so that she can tell you when she sees you"....this takes the burden off of you.
If the people that are asking are friends - what business of it is it to them anyways?
2007-02-11 10:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by bufalo1501 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is, why are you worrying about this? Are you scared that she lies about other things? Which is a possibility.
Do you love her still? Does she still love you?
Talk to her, ask her why she lied, and if she lied about anything else extremely important.
And I would suggest taking your conversation to a counselor. Counselors are impartial, and will help both of you get over this, or decide what else to do.
2007-02-11 10:17:08 · answer #6 · answered by Andrea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does age really matter?? Does it change the way you feel about her?? It really shouldn't be so much of a big deal (it wasn't before you knew). I'm 5 yrs older than my hubby and my sis in-law is 10 yrs older than hers,,,,Age is just a number.
2007-02-11 10:15:34 · answer #7 · answered by pamomof4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she was embarrassed at the beginning because of he age difference and could not come clean afterwards, because she was embarrassed of her lie.
What to do? If you are in love, stay on; if you were just playing games with her, use it as an excuse to dump her. Men usually do.
2007-02-11 10:13:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
age doesn't matter, and it obviously didn't make a difference in your relationship. lying isn't right, but understandable. atleast she told you before the wedding.
and hey, my mom is older than my dad, and theyve been married for 20 years!
2007-02-11 10:14:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her age isn't the issue, it's her lying and being insecure about herself. Gently talk with her about it... assure her you love her no matter what.
2007-02-11 10:16:20 · answer #10 · answered by odandme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋