Is this fair or not?

Question

Ok, last night i was playing out with my friend, and I had to be in by 10.10 pm, I lost track of time and she called me and started saying things like 'You're never going around there again!!!' (around there meaning around my friend's house) then today she started lecturing me about 'You're never going around there again, I'm not letting you!' etc. But i can understand her grounding me for, say a week or two, but never going around to my friend's house again seems a little over the top to me.

Is she being overreactive/overprotective or not?

And it's also the first time I've been late home. =)

Also, I don't know if this matters but I'm 14 and I'm 15 in April.

By the way, I'm talking about my mum lecturing me, grounding me etc and she's also saying I can't go and see My Chemical Romance live now because of this.

Answer 1

She's being a little overprotective. I am assuming this is your mom you are referring to. So many things run through a parent's head about what could happen to their child. You will have no idea of the burden of this until you have your own children. She will settle down, give her some time. Be respectful and have a discussion, not an argument with her. Whatever she decides, accept it, because she is the parent and you are the child. Every action always has consequences and you need to accept yours. Being a parent is the hardest job in the world, so give her a break. Good luck to you both.

Answer 2

I am a parent. She may be over-reacting in your eyes, but you will understand when you grow up and have children of your own how incredibly frightening it is when any child, of any age is not home at the agreed upon time.

In this age of child abductions and molestations, a parent can very easily be scared half to death of you are late. She is one of the people who loves you the most, and cares about your well-being and safety. If she had not called you and talked to you when she did, she would probably have called the police, she would have been so frightened.

She will probably calm down after awhile, but I do not blame her at all for stopping you from going to your friends house, or any other social engagements until she is positive that you understand how important being on time is.

It is difficult enough for young adults over the age of eighteen to make the correct choices a lot of times, and someone a few years younger has to show that they are more respectful of themselves and their parents, and make sure they are standing by the rules. When it comes to your child's safety, nothing is "over the top."

Please let this be a good learning experience for you, make sure you are always mindful of the time, and save you and your mother these overly stressful moments.

Answer 3

This was the first time you were late, so she must have been worried like crazy. When your child is late and normally is very good about coming home on time, the parent starts thinking every bad thing, like maybe they're in the hospital or kidnapped. She never wants you to go over there again, because she never wants you to be late again, because she never wants to panic like that again. You have to promise and keep to your word that you will never be late again, ask your mother to give you just one more chance.

Answer 4

Well, I think maybe you should look at it from her side or any parents side. There are alot of bad things going on in this world.
You should try and respect your mom's authority and obey her.
This could be a lesson you'll never forget. I say take your punishment with your head up and remember it's not the end of the world. I hope you tried to talk to her about this. Good luck!

Answer 5

Well, if this is the first time you have been late getting home she could have gotten really worried. But if you are always late coming home from your friend house she may feel that you and your friend both aren't being responsible by getting you home on time. My dad did that to me once but he came around after a while.

Answer 6

Sounds like she got scared and that made her overreact a bit. Try to see it in through her eyes, her daughter whom she loves is late...what could have happened? She's never been late before?? So she got scared. Reasure her you'll be more careful of time next time or call if you'll be late. And then follow through. But I don't think you should be grounded if it's your first time.

Answer 7

You have to earn trust, you have to show that you are responsible. LIfe isn't fair, and if it were my daughter, I expect her to learn how to pay attention to time, period. This will get your attention, now you'll learn to pay attention to the time, right? It's not always about being fair, it's about teaching your children how to live in this world, how to be responsible, honorable, and respectful, and if she has to take measures that seem unfair, then that's what she has to do. Do you think she's having fun making such a tough decision?

Answer 8

Well it depends. If it was the first time I think she has over reacted. She should have given you a fair chance to prove that you can abide by her rules. Now, if you're doing it regularly, like getting into it as a habit, she's not over reacting nor over protecting. She's just trying to teach you a lesson on how to abide by the house rules.

Answer 9

I'm a Parent. I'm taking Her side on this Being a Parent is not an easy job. And thankless by most standards. You need to see that she Loves you and want you to be safe. Thank her for it.

Answer 10

No, she set a time, and you broke the rules, I'm sure after some time you will beable to see your friend again, chock it up to a life lesson, and learn from it.