I moved away from home to another country 6 months ago. Partly because I was transferred by my company and partly because I wanted to get some space away from my family. But I'm finding that although I am in another country, my family keeps flying over to visit me-twice within 6 months. Each time, they will stay in my apartment. Is it really terrible to not want them to stay with me while they are here? I just want to have some space and do my own thing without having my family there. I think twice in 6 months is just too much. Am I a terrible person for not wanting my family here now-I just need that time, and they're not giving me that chance. What should I do?
2007-02-11 01:23:23 · 8 answers · asked by BKYW 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's not the frequency that bothers you I think but rather that they just assume that your place is a hotel. Let them know that if they want to visit you that's fine but since your apartment is too small to accommodate them you will help them locate a nice hotel for a decent price. That way your family gets to see you and you get your space.
I don't think you're a terrible person. We don't know what you and your family went through together; so for us to make a judgment call like that would be wrong.
2007-02-11 01:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's okay not to want them around, let them visit you only on special occasions like Christmas, Thanksgiving you know Family Time or better visit them when you are free so that sudpicions don't arise, but stay there for a short time if you want
2007-02-11 01:48:43 · answer #2 · answered by lil dreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently your family misses you and loves you or they wouldn't pay the expense of visiting you. They probably have alot of anxieties about you being away. You only have one family and should appreciate their thoughts of you instead of being so selfish. You have plenty of days to be on your own and doing your own thing. Be thankful that you have such a caring family. Some of our family members have died and we would give anything to have one more day with them. You could always tell them you need some space but I guarantee you they will feel great resentment toward you. Please just deal with it and be grateful you have such a loving family.
2007-02-11 01:47:50 · answer #3 · answered by Angela N 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You did not mention whether your family is your wife and children OR your parents. Either way, I think you are a very selfish person. Probably they wanted to visit you just to make sure you are OK in another country and they missed you. This is especially so if they are your wife and children. Too much space and freedom in another country can lead to unpleasant circumstance....eg. affair. You don't sound very family oriented to me at all. Please don't treat your family this way.....you will regret it.
2007-02-11 01:46:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do they really miss you? Just remember life is short and if it is a parent, they won't be around forever, it depends on if they have a motive or just miss you, what is wrong with them staying with You" Do you really want totally away from them
2007-02-11 01:51:26 · answer #5 · answered by jpearlpeek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you have to work overtime, the company is swapped with work. You'll let them know when you have free time to visit.
2007-02-11 01:44:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
twice in six months is not really that much, but i guess it depends on how long they stay when they visit....and how much more they plan to visit....
2007-02-11 01:30:59 · answer #7 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine you need to attempt talking to him sit wit him n tell him the reality nd mayb deliver again some previous thoughts and grow to be close again cuz ffor one aspect it isn't your fault n he needs to kno the way you experience about all of it
2016-12-04 01:06:07 · answer #8 · answered by huehn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋