whenever i ask muslims this question this is what they say?

Question

why did mohomed marry a 9 year old girl? why did he have so many wives and concubines?
this is what muslims say in defence of their prophet,
mohomed married them to protect them and help them

does it mean that as a man myself, each time i help a woman or girl who is in need of help that i should demand sexual favours from her?
now why couldent mohomed help thse women without expecting sexual favors from them in return?

Answer 1

Why during the 12th and 13th centuries in Europe, men did marry children as young as 8, and forced them to have sex. At least Muhammad waited until she was older to have sex.

Look at it in the context of the time, not in the context of our morals. Today, he would be tried as a paedophile if he had tried to consummate his marriage. but he didn't do that, until she was old enough by the standards of his time.

Look at what happened in the 17 and 1800's in the US. Girls as young as 12 were married to men legally, and made to consummate their marriages. Should we condemn anyone who has US ancestors, because of what they did? Medical Science convinced each state that 12 was too young physically and mentally to bare children, and the laws changed to correct it. Are we to condemn our ancestors because they didn't know these facts?

It was a long time ago.

Get your facts straight. And by the way, I'm not a Muslim.

Answer 2

Prophet Mohammad married these women not only to help and protect them, but also to secure harmonious relations with the tribes these women belonged to. If you look at the details of Prophet Mohammad's life, you will see that he had married a 40 year - old woman Khadijah ( she was his first wife) when he was only 25 years old. And he did not get married to anyone else after she had died. Please note that, it was a part of the Arabian culture/custom to marry more than once.

I think Prophet Mohammad loved and respected Khadijah the most.

All his other marriages were an order from God, as we Muslims believe. He set an example to the Muslim ummah that you can get married to a virgin, a divorcee, a widow, and even your slave etc. by marrying those women.

Excuse me, but how did you come to the absurd conclusion that Prophet Mohammad married for sex.

Answer 3

You of course mean 9 year old Aisha.
But it is important to appraise the question in perspective, the year was circa ~ 600AD.
At this time children as young as 5-10 were married off for familial bonding and or protection.
At the same time Eastern Romans and northern Barbarians would rape and even keep boys as sex slaves.
The other factor is though Muhammed married Aisha , there is a notion amongst many Muslims that the marriage was never consummated.

Answer 4

Dude

In islam, the only people who are OBLIGATED to give you support is your father and your husband.

When you get married, the burden is off the shoulders of your father until you divorce and return back to his house or something.

No one else is obligated to take care of you.

When a muslim man marries, he HAS to take care of ALL of the womans needs, physical, financial etc...INCLUDING his children.

So trust me, it wasnt a matter of asking for sexual favours.

No man in his right mind would marry so many knowing full well he would have to take care of each and every one of them, and deal with their female talking on top of it.

As it is, the prophet never even attempted to tell his wives off.

He was a prophet and had a role to play. Everything he did was so it would be a practical example for the rest of mankind.

If you take it in such a shallow manner, youre likely to lose a lot of respect.

Answer 5

HE married Aisha when she was 9years old and became adult , ready to make love and get babies..this was due to the environment that they was living in,in this environment the girls get adul so quickly and until now but not so many girls get adult in 9 or 10 years old and it isnot a lie....about so many wives he married khadija , when khadija died he didn't want to marry any woman after her but Allah told him to get marry...but so many wives not only to protect them but to show that man can marry woman if she get divorced or her husband died or she christian ....etc, some of arab men don't like to marry a divorced woman or her husband died...they perfer the girl to be virgin....so he showed men that they can marry a woman if she has this stiuations i think but not sure...i knew that Prophet Soliman married many wives why are you looking at Prophet Mohamed only

Answer 6

Most of the women were widows. One of them, had already married twice. As for that 9 year old Aishah, that was the ONLY one that wasn't married yet.

Did you know that people marry girls as young as 7 back then? Did you? Or were you so closed minded and didn't know about other people's culture?

Did you also know that the girl whom Muhammad was her 3rd husband, was only 16 years old. 16, already 3 marriages, try to use your so called "logic" and "reasoning", if you have any.

Ne questions?

Kay thanks bye.

Answer 7

wrong, Mo married his first wife to get her money-what a harlot
the other wives,Mo married them to satisfy his sexual urge which equals 30 men's

Answer 8

women are considered objects and work horses for them. they must obey or else (emotional and physical abuse is rampant!!!!!). there is ownership of women but never a real partnership.

Answer 9

Try it & see.

Answer 10

“If you scream a lie long enough and loud enough, it becomes the truth” – Adolf Hitler


It is widely believed that Hazrat Ayesha’s age was seven years when she was married to the Prophet (Pbuh) and she was 9 when she came to live with him but this is wrong. The fact is that she was 17 when married and 19 at the time of her rukhsati (departure from her home to the husband’s house). There are too many indisputable evidences in favour of this. A few of those are listed below:

1. Imam Waliuddin Muhammad Abdullah Al-Khateeb, the author of famous work on Hadith, namely Mishkaat was also an acknowledged expert of Asma-ur-Rijal (the unique art of research on people). He registered the following about Hazrat Asma at the end of Mishkaat.

“She is Asma, the daughter of Abu Bakr Siddiq...She is the mother of Abdullah Bin Zubair...She was 10 years older than her sister Ayesha...She died at the age of 100 in Makkah in 73AH...”(Mishkaat, Asma-ur-Rijal)

There is unanimity among all the scholars of Asma-ur-Rijal and historians on the above-mentioned facts.

It can be easily computed from above that being 100 years old in 73 AH, Hazrat Asma, daughter of Hazrat Abu Bak’r was at least 27 (100-73) years old at the time of Hijrah of the Prophet (Pbuh). If she died in the beginning of 73 AH, then her age was (100-72) 28 years at Hijrah. It is stated above that she was 10 years older than Hazrat Ayesha. It means Hazrat Ayesha was 18 years old at Hijrah. She came into the Nikah of the Prophet (Pbuh) one year before Hijrah and she shifted to the Prophet’s house two years later. Clearly, she was 17 at the time of nikah and 19 at her rukhsati.

2. The historians have placed Hazrat Ayesha between No. 17 and 20 in the list of those who were earliest to embrace Islam. Ibne Ishaq, the earliest authentic Islamic historian has placed her at No. 18. We also know that Hazrat Umar was the 40th person to embrace Islam and he entered into the faith in the first year of prophethood. It means Hazrat Ayesha was among those few who embraced Islam almost immediately after the declaration of prophethood. She must have been at least 5 years old to be categorized in the list of those who embraced Islam. Therefore her age was 18 when Hijrah came about 13 years later.

Now imagine this. The saying goes that she was 7 at her nikah i.e. 8 at Hijrah that occurred 13 years after the declaration of prophethood. If it were true the declaration of prophethood occurred 5 years before her birth. Did she embrace Islam 5 years prior to her birth?

3. There are indications that she was among those who went to war of Badar but her presence in the battleground of Uhad is beyond doubt. It is in many authentic books of Hadiths and history that she was among those women in Uhad who were carrying water to the injured Sahaba. there is the incident of two young boys Rafe and Samra who were 13 and the Prophet (Pbuh) was not permitting them to join forces for their age . If Hazrat Ayesha was 10 when Uhad came about in 2 AH(after Hijrat{i.e. after migration}, was it possible that a new bride of 10 would have been permitted while the young boys of 13 were refused permission to go to Uhad? On the contrary if she was 18 at Hijrah her age was 20 and fit to take care of the injured in the battlefield when Uhad took place.

There are quite a number of other irrefutable evidences of her age being 19 when she entered into the Prophet’s home 2 years after her Nikah to him.

The wrong notion of her being 7 at marriage is widely accepted (and many Fiqh deductions are erroneously made on its basis) as there is a false report narrated by Hashsham bin Urwah in all the six most authentic collections of Hadith i.e. Sihah-e-Sittah! Hashsham bin Urwah was a very reliable narrator according to all scholars but this fact skipped the scrutiny of the famous Muhaddiseen(who recorded sayings of prophet) of Sihah-e-Sittah that Hashsham became forgetful and unbalanced at his old age when he shifted to Iraq. The said report was narrated by him while he was in Iraq. Hashsham was the teacher of Imam Malik and he has accepted a number of Hadiths narrated by him in his collection of Hadith, Muatta. It was none other than Imam Malik, Hahsham’s disciple who declared after Hashsham shifted to Iraq that none of his former teachers’ statements were reliable any more because of his mental condition. The compilers of Sihah-e-Sittah, all being non-Arabs were not aware of it. and the girl you say was wrongfully given into the wedlock she became one of the most reverened and important reporters of Hadith(sayings of prophet), and both men and women came to learn about Islam from her.


i think this will answer first part of your questions. i dont know what muslims said that he married them to protect them and help them. because most of them belonged to the the most influential families of arab. even father of Ayesha, Hazrat Abu Bakr was the richest merchant of mecca. prophet Muhammad(PBUH) brought a new code of life and laid out rules for the new and better society. he presented in himself the role model for his followers. if he told his followers "dont lie" they would only listen to him if he himself never had lied. this exactly was the case. he married to show his followers that in what conditions you can marry a woman. one of his wife was an ex-wife of his adopted son. he thus showed that if here is no blood relation the marriage is permissable. his wives included widows, divorced women, and slaves. before him there was no concept of marrying slave women belonging to conquered enemy. he esatablished a new system in which all women were ensured equal respect and honour. another thing that needs clarification is that he did not have any concubines only the legally weded wives. i really donot know from where you got this distorted version of Prophet's life. islam is the only relgion which strictly restrict sexual relationship within wedlock and is against sex free or sexually perverted society. i must admit this heart brokenly that today lives of muslims are not at all according to teachings of Islam. but if muslims are corrupt that does not mean that islam is corrupt. e.g. if a christian tells a lie doest that mean bible God forbid teaches them to lie. no, they are human follies and cannot be attributed to any relegion. coming back to your question if you want furthur clarification and there are still doubts in your mind you can visit website of Islamic research foundation or you can watch CDs of Dr. Zakir Naiq they are the people who have knowledge of islam and can answer your questions e.g. questions like four marriages of muslim men etc another most frequently asked and most misunderstood question. i hope this will help you in better understanding of certain things. always remember ignorance is the biggest enemy of man it nourishes doubt and lack of faith. so you must have all contextual facts before making any statement. good luck