and i am scared to tell it to my parents. The boy is kind shall i tell him. He is just 20 and he will be 21 on the marrage day.
2007-02-11 01:09:27 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
listen girl we live in age where everybody has the right to live his/her own life. so it's gud that the guy is kind so i think u shud express urself to him. if he's kind & want's to have u as his wife in future, then he might wait or u till u make up ur mind. And be confident in wt u do & dont worry abt anybody as this is ur LIFE.
As far as ur parents are concerned, then u must tell them that they shud also respect & support ur feelings & as ur not prepared for it so there is a possiblibility that ur marriage may get spoiled.
tell them straight & gently & make them undersdtand u
gudluck
bobby
2007-02-11 01:19:11 · answer #1 · answered by bobby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah that's a tough one. It takes a lot of guts to break things off at this point. If this is an arranged marriage, then you're in an even tougher situation. If the marriage was never your idea, then say you can't get married. Of course this depends on your culture. In western culture this would not be as big of a deal... you can say I don't feel ready and that's that. But I know that in other cultures this would be a HUGE problem and can get you in a lot of trouble with your parents and all your relatives. I can't say much more because I don't know your whole situation.
I still think it's worth holding your ground and saying no, but I understand it is NOT an easy choice to make either way.
2007-02-11 01:17:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If ur not ready, u shouldn't. Remember thats for the rest of ur life and u dont want be miserable for the rest of ur life. You should tell ur parents and your boyfriend before its too late. Theres no reason why people should rush into things. Even if it hurts they deserve the truth. Wouldnt u like to know if the person u r going to marry dont want to get marry yet ? Marriage should be a reason to celebrate not to be unhappy about it. You want to remember ur wedding day like something special and something that u wanted from the heart not something that u felt obligated to do. Theres a time for everything and if he loves u he will understand that ur not ready and ur family as well. When u r in a relationship ,comunication is the key and supporting eachother is a must. If ur not ready for mariage , theres a big possibility that ur mariage is not going to work.
2007-02-11 01:29:29 · answer #3 · answered by mialisa1105 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would like to answer you from an Islamic Perpespective.
Though Islam encourages Marriage in society it forbids any
one getting married against their will and is against forced
marriages.What you should do sister is Talk to your parents,
if you are too afraid to do so then get some close relative to
do it.also remember your parents want what is good for you.
you have said that the boy is kind , this is a very good quality
to find in men these days ,If the boy is good and religiously
committed then go ahead and complete yourself as a woman
and teach the man how to love how to be a good husband
and how to be agood father. best of luck.
2007-02-11 01:44:27 · answer #4 · answered by sonu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 18 you are too young to get married. Especially when you do not want to. You haven't even had a chance to experience all life has to offer. You need to talk to your parents or your fiancee and end this before it goes any further. It will be hard to tell your parents. But it will be harder with each passing day. You don't want to end up getting into a marriage you do not want just because it was too hard to tell your parents. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-02-11 01:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like neither of you are ready, just wait longer. I'm assuming that you're eloping somewhere since you're parents don't know. And also, you should not be scared to tell your parents. If it's that much stress, maybe you should wait it out.
This is a very important decision, and you should never feel rushed or pressured into it. Get married when YOU want to get married. :-)
2007-02-11 01:19:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, by all means. If you are not ready for this, then postpone it. There will be some finical loss and your boyfriend may be hurt or crushed. He may even be feeling the same way. Marriage is an important step and should only be entered into when your completely ready, otherwise you start off on shaky ground. Good luck to you.
2007-02-11 01:14:28 · answer #7 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should "ask" your parents and if they say no then postpone it (or you could elope) and if they say yes then tell them you are. Maybe you are a little young for marriage too.Are you sure he's "The One"? It doesn't sound like it. You should tell your fiance that you are scared about your parents. Actually, maybe you don't have to ask them. You are an independent woman now that you're 18. Those are the options that I would go with.
Good Luck!!!!
2007-02-11 01:26:15 · answer #8 · answered by Packer Fan 101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you get this marriage out of the way early then you won't have to get married for a second time for a few years.
This is just an early mistake that you can be forgiven for later.
2007-02-11 05:07:36 · answer #9 · answered by Santa Barbara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen you are so young and you have a full life ahead of you. I'm not saying to break up with him but just wait to get married. mentally your not ready at such an young age. you need to experience life more and maybe a couple of relationships to really find yourself and to find out what love is. i know people that were young and got married and now they regret it. so don't rush into nothing your not ready for.
2007-02-11 01:54:41 · answer #10 · answered by Mzthang84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋