From the very beginning, my fiance and I wanted a small wedding, but had different ideas about small... He was thinking 10, I was thinking 40 or so. So we are compromising, but I am stressing out about it and could use others opinions. My fiance is just inviting his parents, siblings, and best friend.
My grandparents have always been there for me and I want them to come, so I'm definitely inviting them, but in order for everything to work out (rides, etc. to where the wedding is), I am also inviting my aunts and uncles. But now my family wants me to invite my cousins... It this continues we'll have 100 people there! I already feel rude inviting many more than my fiance, but I told him that his extended family is more than welcome but he just doesn't want a big wedding. And I would like a few of my best friends there too.
Does anyone see a happy medium here? We also already chose a place, and 30 guests is the max. allowed. Is it rude to not invite the cousins (they're all over 18)?
2007-02-11 00:53:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You have the right to not invite the extended family. Just tell everyone that you are keeping it very small, but extend an invitation to them for the reception. They should not feel excluded at all, but should respect your wishes for a small gathering. Do not give in to their pressure and demands. It is your wedding and you and your future husband have the final say. Congratulations on your wedding.
2007-02-11 00:59:07 · answer #1 · answered by judirose2001 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is never easy to have to eliminate people, especially family, from a wedding guest list. But you are the bride and no one can make this decision besides you. If you want a small intimate wedding then take their names off the list. There is nothing wrong with having a smaller wedding so do not cave into other peoples demands about your special day. Just keep in mind that there may be some hurt feelings from family who are not invited. You will just have to prepare yourself for that. It doesn't matter if you have a small wedding or a large wedding, someone always gets cut from the list somewhere. This is your special day so do it the way that feels right for you. Best wishes for wedding.
2007-02-11 01:05:55 · answer #2 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is rude to not invite your cousins. You could maybe have a small after wedding party with all of your cousins and exteded family that couldn't be invited to the wedding. Make it clear that you have a set number that you both decided on and you both want to keep it intimate. Plus if you have booked the place that is another reason you can't invite them. If your family loves you and respects your decisions there should be no problems. But you might want to call your cousins and tell them, so they don't feel hurt by not being invited.
2007-02-11 04:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by Pamela C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loos, its your wedding also, make ur wedding a happy day for both, tell ur boy how u feel, its the best u can do, communication is the base here, u wanted a small wedding , but now u want more people there because that makes u happy, so if u can affore this, do it. Imj getting married and he is inviting 25 and im invitieng 200, :S , but hes happy , thats marriage.
2007-02-12 06:10:43 · answer #4 · answered by Betty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite your immediate/small extended family to the actual ceremony, but then have a large reception that everyone is invited to. Send out invites to the reception celebrating your vows and they won't feel left out of your wedding.
2007-02-11 03:25:11 · answer #5 · answered by Jenna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to draw a line if you are just inviting extended family and close friends that is all you should invite because once you cross that line you are going to feel bad you didn't invite so and so and because yuo invited fff you should have invited gggg. Trust me it sucks. Stick to your game plan as well as making sure your extended family and yourself informs people that are not attending the wedding that they are not invited because you are having a very small intimate wedding so they are not feeling bad.
2007-02-11 01:37:18 · answer #6 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell the family that you are only inviting a small amount of people and cannot include everyone in the family.
Its your wedding, invite who you want. :)
2007-02-11 00:59:22 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just invite the cousins you are closest to. If he doesn't want to invite his family, then dont worry yourself about it.
2007-02-11 02:31:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you can afford, you have to think of that as well!!! You are the ones paying the bill, not the cousins. Congratulations.
2007-02-11 00:58:18 · answer #9 · answered by winona e 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋