My family and I argue everyday constintly. First my dad will do something to annoy my mom, then my 2 older brothers will argue, and I argue with one of them constintly about the things he does to bug me....like throwing pillows at me or saying ''yo momma.'' And he'll go in my bed room at night while I'm asleep and talk on my cell phone knowing I have only a few night and weekend minutes left. My dad always ignore me when I'm trying to tell him something, and my sister calls from South Gate every 5 minutes and bug both me and my mom. My other brother also keeps irratating me by telling me and complaining to me about how we get to do the stuff he didn't do when he was our age. And now we're starting to do it so much it's like a daily routine. Is it true that a family who argues alot love each other more than most families?
2007-02-11 00:51:37 · 27 answers · asked by bbnicole104 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if that means i love my wife shhhhhhhh
2007-02-11 00:53:41 · answer #1 · answered by conan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because your family argues a lot does not mean that they do not love each other. Im sure everyone in your family loves each other very much. I just think the problem is miscommunication. Your family just has an unhealthly relationship with each other. Maybe you should be the first one to try to fix things. Tell them how you feel, and that you want everyone to be happy. Maybe then everyone will just try a little harder to be nice to each other and try not to take the easy way out by arguing. Good Luck!
2007-02-11 00:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are even concerned about whether you love each other shows that you really do care. Why don't you get everyone together and all write down what annoys you about each other, then read them out and see if you can all make an effort to stop bugging each other so much, i bet if you were to tell your dad you felt he ignores you he'd want to make that right. Sounds like you all just need a serious chat about it all. But just 'cause you argue, doesn't mean you don't love each other.
2007-02-11 00:58:15 · answer #3 · answered by Cherry 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The test is do you argue about the same things and on the following day is it forgotten? If the same problems keep arising then it is often jealousy or resentment that has come to the surface. This is a little more serious. Also do you have fun times and laugh at and with your family? Every person is different and it is impossible to agree on all things big or small.
2007-02-11 00:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by ANF 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you could love one another no doubt about it.
it's just the way that you have all learned to communicate with one another
it doesn't necessarily mean that you love one another more than a family that doesn't argue
lock and hide your phone before you go to sleep at night.
when you're trying to talk to your dad make sure that he's not pre-occupied with something else before you say anything, and ask him for his undivided attention, esp. if it is an important issue.
and as far as your brother complaining that you get to do stuff that he didn't...well as a first born also all i can say to that is that we earned the right to say it because we paved the way for you to do it (yeah most of the time parents are practicing parental skills with the eldest child, can get to be a real pain at times), so embrace the priviledge, don't abuse it. ;-)
2007-02-11 01:09:19 · answer #5 · answered by polgara922 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course your family loves each other. In most cases if a family has no love....Dad/Mom is absent, kids in foster care or jail and your sister would'nt call....that's not the case...so..yes...there's love.
I will say that your family needs to "talk" the argument out....no yelling. Maybe you guys are caught up in the "rush" of this world and are'nt appreciating/respecting each other, as you should.
What I just said is usually taken seriously, when it's too late to say, "I love you" to their face........(usually at a funeral).
Note: Sibling rivalry is normal....just try not bring it on, or keep it going. Alot of times...I'd give my brother a hug in the middle of an argument....he'd get a funny look on his face....sometimes push me away because he felt weakness (in his mind) for giving in.
Life is too short...."Do what you say-----Say what you mean"
2007-02-11 01:10:52 · answer #6 · answered by Bonnie Lynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss Nicole? God Love you. I know Families that live like that. I never could. My Folks brought us up to show Love with respect. Make sure you see this. When having a Family of your own. From me to you - Happy Valentines Day!
2007-02-11 00:59:07 · answer #7 · answered by Goggles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My family are like that. We argue all the time, but if anything happened we would be there for each other. I would say they love each other just as much as other families :)
2007-02-11 00:55:49 · answer #8 · answered by extremely_confused 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everyone may love everyone but that doesn't always mean they get along together well as a group due to certain jealousies, etc.
It was always "two's nice, three's a crowd" in my family. Any two people of the 5 of us could get along great, but once a third person came along, it always seemed to go bad. Wierd. But true.
2007-02-11 00:56:51 · answer #9 · answered by zzzzzzzzz27 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not get involved when they start to argue go into another room ,don,t let them wind you up ,keep your cool and then you will find that they will slowly start to leave you alone .
But family who are close do seem to argue
2007-02-11 01:03:51 · answer #10 · answered by Mick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You betcha. I would thank God for a family like that. It means you are communicating with each other, even though it is mostly negative. I think it allows you to talk in a positive manner as well, becuase you are comfortable expressing your thoughts and feelings with each other.
2007-02-11 00:58:01 · answer #11 · answered by Bonathon M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋