ike ive never taken care of myself before. I dont like feeling hostile.
2007-02-11 00:47:07 · 13 answers · asked by Navassa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Keep a list of your own and next time he does it, give it back to him.
Everyone has their faults, I am sensing he feels a little unappreciated. Also I am assuming your daughter is not biologically his, so he has taken on alot but you don't deserve to have things thrown in your face all the time.
I am wondering if you can sense when he will do this next? like is there a pattern? If there is I will suggest just before he brings the stuff up just say Thanks for everything. It will take him by supprise and just may diffuse the situation. Worth a shot
2007-02-11 00:56:41 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is afraid!!
He is really insecure and tries to make himself look like your savior in hopes you will not leave. But if you do not really love him then bottom line you are using him, maybe he feels that! You better learn how to stand on your own feet for you & your daughter or you will live the rest of your life hopping around from man to man looking to be taken care of... You are teaching your daughter to live the same way, She won't know any better when she grows up!!!!!!
2007-02-11 00:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not a good man if he is holding things over your head. He is holding your heart and emotions hostage and he has no right to do that. If a man needs to constantly remind you everything that they have done for you then they either suffer from esteem issues or control issues. Neither one is good to be involved with. Talk to him and if that doesn't help then you need to leave. Having no man is better than having a mean man.
2007-02-11 00:54:53 · answer #3 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he hold things over your head because you act ungrateful? Couples have a tendency to get into a rut in which they are keeping track of what one has done for the other etc....and the truth is that it isn't always going to be equal. There will be time when one invests more than the other....just examine your own actions and attitude to see if you are provoking this in him....if not, then maybe he's not a good match for you?
2007-02-11 00:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not enough information. It your daughter also his daughter?
Do you work outside the home?
Your culture may have a different way of viewing these things. Talk with him about the way you feel. Show him a list of the things you do for him. Remind him that marriage is give and take...not all take.
2007-02-11 00:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not letting you forget in a hurry what he did, but if what he did was out of the goodness of his heart then why does he keep bringing it up? he sounds like he wants to cotrol you, don't let that happen, you will never be your own person sit down and tell him plain to stop reminding you of what he did for you...you already know this, and don't need reminding of it.
2007-02-11 00:56:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show me where "Love" and "Hostile" meet? Then, I'll give you my Blessings on this Union. Good Men, don't make their Ladies feel hostile. They cover them with Love. Surround them with an ease in enjoying Life.
2007-02-11 00:51:58 · answer #7 · answered by Goggles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
anyone who does things for you and makes you feel "he tends to hold things over my head' , is a manipulator he is not doing things out of love for you, but he is controlling you. GET OUT .alot of these females are into changing people like this .and what you got is a relationship where two people are trying to controll each other.
2007-02-11 00:57:29 · answer #8 · answered by ref 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, i can somewhat get my head clean with Ricky Gervais doing that little chortle of his in the background. Lol, so he became the 1st factor that got here into my strategies, nicely a good black t-blouse..
2016-10-01 23:12:30 · answer #9 · answered by mclelland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is a little controlling. If a man has to constantly remind you what he has done for you then its time to get away from him.. love has no strings no expectations.
2007-02-11 00:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋