My 36 yr old fiance has a problem ? He can't stop checking out other women, including 16 yr old girls.?

Question

What do I do ? I love him, and I am not the jealous type, but what do you guys think of this situation ?

Answer 1

He obviously has very little respect for you! I understand that you love him, but he any man who honoured and respected their partner wouldn't do things like that.

If my fiance did that, we certainly wouldn't be getting married to him - forget that.... you say your not the jealous type but it obviously bothered by his behaviour, as you to posted this question.

You need to speak to him the next time he does it, and tell him exactly how you feel.

Answer 2

Well here it is ladies. Firstly, if a man is truly in love with you, he will only have eyes for you. Which literally means there is something he is looking for that he is not finding with you. If he loved you, you would fulfill his hopes, dreams, desires, and fantasies. It also depends on what type of looking he is doing. Ask yourself these questions. Does he linger? Does he continuously stare? Or is it just a glance? Ladies listen up, if a beautiful woman walks by wearing a skimpy outfit, it might turn our head. However the real question is if we linger. If it is that we noticed them it is one thing. But if we linger it is another. It's kind of like the ladies checking out actors and thinking they are hot. I know you all do it. You just notice that someone is attractive...that's it... nothing more. But if it is a situation where your fiance cant stop STARING at other women then dump him... like yesterday. And find a man that will be in love with all that makes you, you.

Sincerely,

Shane F.

Answer 3

I am a lot older than 36 and have been married for 47 years but I still check out other women. They look nice and they wear nice clothes and they have nice figures( some of them) so I look and admire and maybe think of my youth etc. What I do not do is do this when my wife is about and never have, as this would be like saying "You should look like that". I cannot resist a Flash of something extra though and never have been able to. It is just being a man and means no disrespect to anyone. Don't worry but if the looking turns to touching then watch out.

Answer 4

IS he aware that the women he is checking out are 16 years old? Its possible that he doesn't know the age because now days you really can't tell some times. Point out the fact the he's looking at a 16 year old girl not an adult. As far as guys checking o ut women thats pretty much normal I think. Guys are always going to look at pretty women. It becomes a problem when they forget they're with you and their jaw drops to the floor when the see a gorgeous woman. My girlfriend will catch me looking at other women and ask me if I want her to get the woman's phone number. That's enough to shame me from looking at other women. So I usually walk around looking at the ground til I bump into something.

Answer 5

He sounds like a mostly typical human being, though the fact that he has let you know tell something about him. If he shared the information with you willingly, then he trusts and respects you enough to talk about something that's troubling him. The best you can do is simply love him and be there for him. Accept that he is human and subject to weakness. If he simply does it while you there, there is a deeper lack of respect towards you and your relationship. He may end up acting on these attractions and hurting you in the process. Analyze your situation objectively and trust your judgment. People will always be physically attracted to lots of people. That is why most commercials and shows on TV show beautiful people to sell their products.

Answer 6

If you KNOW he's checking out other women because he's blatantly obvious about than he's a total JERK and you need to find someone who respects you.

Look, most people "check out" the opposite gender. Heck, I'm 50 and I can definitely appreciate a nice tight tush or a handsome face. HOWEVER, I can guarantee you that no one knows I'm doing it, and I would certainly never let the man I'm with know I'm doing it. It's rude, it's inconsiderate, and it won't improve with time (or age, obviously).

My ex was big on doing that, AFTER we got married. (If he'd done it before, I wouldn't have married him). He LITERALLY fell off his chair in a restaurant gaping at some woman, on our anniversary no less. So, every time we went back to the same restaurant and she was there, I would lean in and whisper "oh baby, look there she is, don't fall on your face..oh oh", and I took to blatantly checking out hot men. He didn't like either of these things, and quit FINALLY being a jerk about it.

(*laughter*) Of course, that was only one symptom of his total jerk persona, which is why he's an ex. So, you need to ask yourself, if this guy is such a jerk that you KNOW he's checking out other women when he's with YOU..what other areas is he a jerk in, and do you really want to spend your life with a jerk?

Answer 7

Well I;d say most men 'have a look' at other women - but not infront of their partners cos thats just disrespectful - The including 16 yr old girls part scares me.... this man is 36?? and eyeing up a child of 16???? Thats just sick and boarders on paedophillia if you ask me! ... Ahem, I;d be running miles away, my advice is do not marry this man!
For him to be looking at women infront of you is downright disrespectful - if he does that with you there.... what on earth does he try on when you arent around???

Answer 8

I'm a guy and the rule is you can look but you can't touch!!! Personally I don't do it because my girlfriend gets mad too!!!
If he looks like he's gonna cheat on you then you got a different problem. And the whole 16 yr old girl thing is something i don't know!!!

Answer 9

what? it must be something wrong with him... u noe what, if u want to marry someone, u should make sure whether that person is faithful or not to u... but seeing from this point, i dun think he is faithful to u... he even pick up a 16 yr old girl? man, he sure has some problems... but anyway, many girl would have done the same thing as u did... but anyway, here's an advice... dun let ur love clouds the mind... think rationally, k?

Answer 10

If he does it obviously, he does not have any respect for you.

I had a friend who was like that with all his previous girlfriends. Then he met his current girlfriend and he changed - he stopped checking out other women. Whenever he had felt tempted, he calls his g/f to stop him from getting distracted. He reckons he doesn't want to check out other girls anymore?!